There are no perfect parents
Life today seems to be filled with more uncertainty and insecurity for young parents. Life also seems to be coming at us faster and faster. We are barraged with more conflicting information than we can ever possibly sort through or digest. Financially, we’re also challenged. More and more families need two incomes just to make ends meet, and on top of it all, the world looks like a more dangerous place to live in, much less bring up children in.It’s normal to use caution in these times, but many parents today seem to have an overabundance of caution, a quest for perfection, and a need for fail-safe plans to mitigate all variables. Newly pregnant couples are approaching parenthood like a college class with homework, final exams, and no wiggle room for error. They’re doing everything within their power to get it right so they can ace the parenting test. More than anything, they hope to be “perfect” moms and dads, but as we all know, such people don’t exist in our world.Here is my first secret of sorts, drawn from many years as a parent and grandparent: no matter what the world looks like today, the delights and the infinite pleasures that children bring to parent’s lives are still there to be enjoyed. None of the goodness has diminished, nor is the satisfaction gone. Modern culture is trying to back young people into a corner, but they don’t have to go there. Start by piercing through and dismantling the ever-demanding, materialist veil that looms large over our heads. Decide to keep things simple. Parenting is your birthright, so don’t let money, keeping pace with others, or the challenges of everyday life fog the way.The truth about parenting
Making the decision to have a child …
It’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.–Elizabeth Stone, Teacher, Author, and JournalistThe journey that awaits
My first responsibility is to let you know that those who are about to have a baby are on the verge of falling desperately in love with a total stranger . . . someone you have never met before. So, mommies and daddies, beware! This deep and rapturous love is going to sneak up on you and surprise you.Parents are made to love
I have parents who daily come to my office and share with me, without any kind of prompting on my behalf, the intense and unexpected love they feel toward their new born babies. It’s an emotion different from anything they have ever known. They speak of these feelings as if they have been possessed by an alien, an outside force, but it comes from deep within them.These feelings that new parents sense are indeed profound, but they are not based in nostalgia or random emotions, nor are they magic. They’re a derivative of hidden physiological changes that occur within our human frame.For moms, these feelings are a result of hormones that cause actual physical, structural changes in the brain and make the experience of being a mother wonderfully desirable and highly pleasurable.Worries fade at the wonder of it all
No one can adequately describe the wonder of welcoming a baby into the world. It ranks as one of the true “Wow!” moments life grants to us mere mortals and leaves us all speechless.Parents of these little people are further blessed because, while attending to their baby and being totally invested and immersed in the process, they are privy to the many other remarkable events that unfold each and every day before their eyes. From their front-row seats, parents see their fresh, newborn little muffins emerge and evolve through their primordial infancy into babbling, walking, blurs-of-activity toddlers. It’s a glorious first year! And it’s only the beginning of what is in store for moms and dads who have fallen desperately in love.
