Imindeni eminingi ikholelwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuvela ezintweni ezinkulu. Ukucindezeleka kwezezimali. Ukwesaba kwezempilo. Izinguquko ezinkulu empilweni. Izinhlelo ezimatasa. Nakuba lezi zinto zibalulekile, akusona isimo sokucindezeleka esibumba impilo yansuku zonke yomndeni buthule.
Isimo esivamile sokucindezeleka emndenini asibonakali kakhulu. Sakha kancane. Sisakazeka buthule. Futhi ngoba sizwakala sijwayelekile, sivame ukungabonakali.
Lesi simo wukugcwala ngokwezwelo.
Kuyenzeka lapho ukucindezeleka komuntu oyedwa kuba ukucindezeleka kwawo wonke umuntu, hhayi ngenhloso, kodwa ngokusondelana, ishejuli, nokuxhumana ngokwezwelo.
Ukucindezeleka Kudlula Kanjani Emindenini Ngaphandle Kwemvume
Ukucindezeleka kuyathelelana.
Izingane ziyakumunca. Ozakwethu bayakulingisa. Amakhaya ayakuthwala.
Lapho ilungu lomndeni licindezelekile, isimo somzwelo ekhaya siyashintsha. Amazwi ayashintsha. Ukubekezela kuyancipha. Umzimba ubaqina. Izinkinga ezincane zizwakala zinkulu kunalokho eziyikho.
Akekho ohlela lokhu. Kuyenzeka ngoba imindeni iyizinhlelo ezixhunywe ngokwezwelo, hhayi abantu abazimele.
Izingane zizwela kakhulu izinguquko ezingokomzwelo. Zibona ithoni, ukuma komzimba, ukubonakala ebusweni, namandla isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ziqonde amagama.
Kungani Lesi Simo Singabonakali
Isimo sokucindezeleka emndenini okungekho muntu okhuluma ngaso asibonakali ngoba asizivezi.
Asikho isikhathi esikhulu. Asikho isiqalo esicacile. Kumane kube umuzwa wokuthi konke kuzwakala kunzima kunalokho okufanele kube yikho.
Abazali bavame ukuthi:
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“Angazi kungani wonke umuntu ecindezelekile”
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“Sihlala sijahile”
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“Izinto ezincane ziphenduka izinto ezinkulu”
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“Ngisho nezinsuku ezinokuthula zizwakala zinomunyu”
Ngoba ukucindezeleka kwakheka buthule, imindeni icabanga ukuthi lokhu kunjalo nje impilo ezwakala ngayo manje.
Isimo Esigcina Ukucindezeleka Sijikeleza
Lesi simo sokucindezeleka silandela isimo esingaguquki.
Umuntu oyedwa uzizwa ecindezelekile.
Ithoni yakhe iyashintsha.
Abanye bayakubona bese bephazamiseka.
Izingane zibasabela ngokuziphatha noma imizwelo.
Abazali bazizwa benengcindezi enkulu.
Ukucindezeleka kuyanda futhi.
Isimo siyaqhubeka ngaphandle kokukhethwa muntu.
Abazali bavame ukusola ukuziphatha, izinhlelo, noma ubuntu, bengaqapheli ukuthi isimo somzwelo sesivele sigcwele.
Kungani Izingane Zibonisa Ukucindezeleka Ngendlela Ehlukile
Izingane azivamile ukuthi “ngicindezelekile.”
Esikhundleni salokho, ukucindezeleka kubonakala ngale ndlela:
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Ukucasuka
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Ukubambelela
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Ukuphikisa
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Ukugcwala kakhulu
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Ukuhoxiswa
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Izinguquko zokulala
Lezi zinto zivame ukungaqondwa kahle njengokuziphatha okubi noma izinkinga zesimo.
Empeleni, izingane zibasabela ukugcwala ngokwezwelo ezingakwazi ukukubeka esimweni esivamile zodwa.
Lapho ukucindezeleka emndenini kuphezulu, izingane ziboleka ukubekwa esimweni esivamile kubantu abadala. Uma abantu abadala bengakwazi ukuzibeka esimweni esivamile, izingane zikhula kakhulu.
Indima Yokucindezeleka Okungapheli Okusezingeni Eliphansi
Ukucindezeleka okuyingozi kakhulu akusona ukucindezeleka okukhulu. Kungukucindezeleka okungapheli okusezingeni eliphansi.
Lokhu kuhlanganisa:
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Ukuvama ukujaha
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Ukuvama ukwenza izinto eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa
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Ukuvama ukushiyeka kancane
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Ukuvama ukulindela okufanele kulandele
Lapho imindeni iphila kulesi simo, izinhlelo zezinzwa azivamile ukuqala kabusha.
Imizimba ihlala iqaphile. Ukubekezela kuyanyamalala. Ukucindezeleka okuncane kuzwakala kukhulu ngoba akukho lutho olungokomzwelo olusasele.
Yingakho imindeni ingazizwa ikhathele ngisho nangaphandle kwenhlekelele.
Kungani Abazali Bethwala Umthwalo Ongokomzwelo
Abazali bavame ukuba yisivikelo esingokomzwelo ekhaya.
Bamunca ukucindezeleka emsebenzini, ezidingweni zesikole, emndenini omkhulu, kwezezimali, nasezilindelekeni zabazali. Bazama ukukugcina konke kusebenza.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lo mthwalo ongokomzwelo uyavuza.
Hhayi ngoba abazali bahluleka, kodwa ngoba abantu abaklanyelwanga ukubekezelela ukucindezeleka okungapheli ngaphandle kokukhululeka.
Izingane zikuthola lokhu ngokushesha.
Kungani “Ukuhlala Unesimo Esihle” Kubi Kakhulu
Imindeni eminingi izama ukulungisa ukucindezeleka ngokuhlala inesimo esihle.
Bayaqhubeka. Banciphisa imizwa. Bazitshela ukuthi kungase kube kubi kakhulu.
Nakuba ukuba nethemba kubalulekile, ukucindezela imizwa akunjalo.
Ukucindezeleka okunganakwanga akunyamalali. Kuyaqongelela.
Izingane zifunda kulesi simo. Zifunda ukufihla ukucindezeleka esikhundleni sokukucubungula, okungaholela ezenzweni ezinkulu zokwezwelo kamuva.
Lesi Simo Sithinta Kanjani Ubudlelwano Bomndeni
Ukucindezeleka okungaphelile kushintsha indlela imindeni exhumana ngayo.
Izingxoxo ziyancipha.
Ukulungisa kuthathela indawo ukuxhumana.
Ukulalela kuyancipha.
Ukulungisa kuthatha isikhathi eside.
Abazali bangase bazizwe bekude nezingane zabo bengaqondi ukuthi kungani. Izingane zingase zifune ukunaka ngezindlela ezingezinhle ngoba ukuxhumana kuzwakala kunzima ukukufinyelela.
Lokhu akuyona inkinga yobudlelwano. Kuyinkinga yokubeka esimweni esivamile.
Kungani Lesi Simo Sivamile Namuhla
Impilo yomndeni wanamuhla iyashesha, inomsindo, futhi iyadinga.
Abazali kulindeleke ukuba bahlanganise umsebenzi, ubuzali, ukuqonda ngokwezwelo, ukuphathwa kwekhaya, nokunakekelwa kwabo, ngokuvamile ngaphandle kokusekelwa okwanele.
Izingane zibhekene nezinsuku ezihleliwe, ukukhuthazwa, izinto ezilindelekile, nezinguquko ezicindezele izinhlelo zezinzwa ezisathuthuka.
Umphumela imindeni ephila ngaphezu kwamandla ayo angokomzwelo ingakuqapheli.
Indlela Yokumisa Isimo Sokucindezeleka
Ukuphula lesi simo akudingi izinguquko ezinkulu.
Kuqala ngokuqaphela.
Qaphela:
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Lapho ukushuba kwesimo kuqala
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Ukucindezeleka kubonakala kanjani emzimbeni wakho
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Lapho izinto zenyuka ngokushesha
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Yiziphi izikhathi zosuku ezizwakala zinzima kakhulu
Uma isimo sesibonakala, izinguquko ezincane zenza umehluko.
Izindaba zasekuseni ezihamba kancane.
Izinguquko ezinokuthula.
Izinto ezilindelekile ezincane ngezikhathi zokukhathala.
Izikhathi zokuthula okwabelwana ngazo.
Ukubeka esimweni esivamile kusakazeka ngendlela efanayo nokucindezeleka.
Kungani Ukubeka Esimweni Esivamile Kuyinto Imindeni Eyidingayo
Ukubeka esimweni esivamile kusho ukubuyisela uhlelo lwezinzwa esimweni esithulile.
Lokhu kungaba kanje:
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Isikhathi esithulile ndawonye
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Ukuphefumula okujulile ngaphandle kwemiyalo
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Ukuhamba okuncane
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Izinhlelo ezijwayelekile
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Ukukhuluma okuncane ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka okukhulu
Lapho abantu abadala bezibeka esimweni esivamile kuqala, izingane zilandela ngokwemvelo.
Lokhu akusona isilawuli. Kungukuphepha.
Isimo Somndeni Esithathela Indawo Ukucindezeleka
Lapho imindeni ibeka phambili ukubeka esimweni esivamile ngokwezwelo, kwakheka isimo esisha.
Ukuthula kuyasakazeka.
Ukubekezela kubuyela ngokushesha.
Amaphutha alungiswa kalula.
Ukuxhumana kuzwakala kufinyeleleka futhi.
Lokhu akukususi ukucindezeleka. Kushintsha indlela imindeni ehamba ngayo kukho.
Isimo sokucindezeleka emndenini okungekho muntu okhuluma ngaso siyalahlekelwa amandla aso lapho ekugcineni siqashelwa.
Imibuzo Ebuzwa Njalo
Ingabe ukucindezeleka emndenini kuhlala kubonakala?
Cha. Ukucindezeleka okuningi emndenini akubonakali futhi kungapheli kunokuba kube okukhulu. Kwakheka kancane futhi kuzwakala kujwayelekile ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukucindezeleka kubathinta kanjani abantu abasha ngokuhlukile kunabantu abadala?
Abantu abasha banamandla amancane okuzibeka esimweni esivamile ngokwezwi. Bathembela kubantu abadala ukuba babakhombise futhi babanikeze ukuthula.
Ingabe umzali oyedwa ocindezelekile angawuthinta wonke umndeni?
Yebo. Izimo ezingokomzwelo zisakazeka ngokushesha emindenini, ikakhulukazi uma ukucindezeleka kuqhubeka.
Ingabe lesi simo sibangelwa ubuzali obubi?
Cha. Lesi simo sibonisa ukugcwala kwezinzwa, hhayi ikhono noma umzamo wobuzali.
Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukushintsha isimo sokucindezeleka emndenini?
Izinguquko ezincane zingashintsha isimo somzwelo ngokushesha. Ukungaguquguquki kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuphelela.
Ingabe ukukhuluma ngokucindezeleka kuyasiza?
Yebo, uma kuhambisana nokubekwa esimweni esivamile. Ukubiza ukucindezeleka ngaphandle kokushintsha ijubane noma izinto ezilindelekile akwanele.
