Chitha isikhathi esanele kumaqembu obuzali, ezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma emiphakathini yezokuxhumana futhi uzothola ngokushesha isihloko esisodwa esingabonakali sithula isikhathi eside.
Ukudla.
Ukuncelisa ibele kuqhathaniswa nokuncelisa ibhodlela. Ifomula kuqhathaniswa nobisi lwebele. Amapuphu kuqhathaniswa nokuncelisa umntwana. Ukudla okwenziwe ekhaya kuqhathaniswa nokukhethwa okuthengwa esitolo.
Kuvame ukuzwakala sengathi konke ukukhetha kokudla kuza nezithameli ezilungele ukunikeza umbono.
Kubazali abasanda kuba abazali abasanda kujwayela okukhulu empilweni yabo, ingcindezi ingaqeda amandla. Abaningi bazithola bebuza izinqumo okufanele zibe ngezakho, ngenxa yokuthi omunye umuntu ugcizelela ukuthi kukhona indlela engcono.
Iqiniso ukuthi ukuncelisa umntwana akuvamile ukuba lula njengoba i-inthanethi ikwenza kubonakale.
Wonke umntwana ufika nezidingo zakhe, ubuntu kanye nokuthandayo. Wonke umzali uletha izimo ezahlukene, izinselele, izinhlelo zokweseka kanye namaqiniso etafuleni. Okusebenza kahle emndenini owodwa kungase kungabi ngokoqobo komunye.
Nokho naphezu kwalokhu kwehluka, izingxoxo zokudla zivame ukuhlukaniswa zibe ngamaqembu. Abazali bangase bazizwe behlulelwe ngokuncelisa isikhathi eside kakhulu, ukungancelisi isikhathi esanele, ukwethula ukudla okuqinile ngokushesha kakhulu, ukukwethula sekwephuze kakhulu noma ukukhetha indlela yokudla ehlukile kolunye ulwazi lomuntu.
Abanye abazali bathola ukuthi ukuncelisa kuza ngokwemvelo, kanti abanye babhekana nezinselele ezingalindelekile ezenza kube nzima noma kungenzeki. Abanye abantwana bakulangazelela ukunceliswa ngesipuni, kanti abanye bakhetha ukuhlola ukudla ngokuzimela. Abanye imindeni ihlanganisa izindlela eziningi zokuncelisa futhi iguqule njengoba ingane yabo ikhula.
Akukho kulokhu kuhamba okufanayo.
Okulahleka kakhulu empikiswaneni isithombe esikhulu.
Izingane zidinga ukondliwa, ukuxhumana kanye nokunakekelwa okusabelayo. Zidinga abanakekeli abazizwa besekelwa kunokugxekwa. Zidinga abazali abangathatha izinqumo ezinolwazi olugcwele ngokusekelwe ezimweni zabo eziyingqayizivele ngaphandle kokuzizwa benecala ngokungalandeli indlela yomunye umuntu.
Izinqumo eziningi zokuncelisa zibunjwa izinto abangaphandle abangaziboni. Izinselele zezempilo, izibopho zomsebenzi, impilo yengqondo, izinkinga zokuhlinzeka, ukungezwani komzimba, izidingo zentuthuko kanye nezimo zomndeni konke kungathonya ukuthi ingane idla kanjani.
Yingakho ukuqhathanisa kungalimaza kakhulu.
Lapho abazali bezizwa behlulelwe, mancane amathuba okuthi babuze imibuzo, bafune usizo noma babelane ngobunzima babo ngokwethembeka. Umphumela uvame ukuba ukuzihlukanisa okwengeziwe, ukukhathazeka okwengeziwe kanye nokuzethemba okuncane phakathi nesigaba sobuzali esesivele sidinga kakhulu.
Mhlawumbe ingxoxo idinga ukusuka ekutheni iyiphi indlela yokuncelisa engcono kakhulu iye embuzweni obaluleke kakhulu.
Ingabe umntwana uchuma?
Uma impendulo inguyebo, khona-ke mhlawumbe singachitha isikhathi esincane sixoxa futhi sisebenzise isikhathi esiningi sigubha umzamo abazali abawenzayo ekunakekeleni izingane zabo nsuku zonke.
Izimpi zokuncelisa ziqhubekile iminyaka, kodwa abazali abaningi sebeqala ukubona ukuthi kukhona indawo yezindlela ezahlukene. Inhlonipho, ububele kanye nokuqonda kudala izingxoxo ezinempilo kakhulu kunokugxeka.
Ngoba ekugcineni, abazali abaningi bafuna into efanayo: ingane enempilo ekhulayo, ethuthukayo futhi ethandwayo.
Uhambo lungase lubukeke luhlukile kusuka emndenini owodwa kuya komunye, kodwa umgomo uhlala ufanayo.
Ufuna ukuhlola izinganekwane, amaqiniso kanye namaqiniso amangalisayo ngemuva kokukhethwa kokudla kwanamuhla? Funda isihloko esigcwele ku-BabyYumYum:
https://babyyumyum.com/ending-the-feeding-wars-once-and-for-all/
