"Ngiyilande ingane yami njalo uma ikhala?" Lona ngumbuzo abazali abaningi abasha abazibuza wona. Kuwumbono oyiphutha ovamile wokuthi ukucosha ingane ekhalayo kuyoyilimaza futhi kuyenze ithembele kakhulu kubazali bayo. Nokho, njengabachwepheshe ekukhuleni kwengane nasekukhuliseni izingane, singasho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi ukucosha ingane yakho lapho ikhala akudingekile nje kuphela kodwa futhi kunenzuzo ekukhuleni kwayo ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.
Into yokuqala okumele uyiqonde ukuthi izingane zikhala ngesizathu. Ukukhala yindlela yabo yokuxhumana nathi, futhi kuwumsebenzi wethu njengabazali ukucacisa lokho abakudingayo. Ngezinye izikhathi bangase balambile, bakhathele, noma badinge ukushintsha inabukeni, kanti ngezinye izikhathi bangase badinge nje induduzo nokuqinisekiswa.
Lapho uphakamisa ingane yakho lapho ikhala, uyithumelela umlayezo onamandla: ukuthi ukhona lapho ukuze uyisize, ukuthi uyayikhathalela, nokuthi uzimisele ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zayo. Lokhu kusiza ukwakha ukwethembana nokuvikeleka ebuhlotsheni bakho nengane yakho, okubalulekile ekukhuleni kwayo ngokomzwelo.
Kuyaphawuleka futhi ukuthi ukushiya umntwana ekhala isikhathi eside kungaba yingozi empilweni yakhe engokomzimba. Ukukhala kungabangela ukushaya kwenhliziyo yomntwana kanye nomfutho wegazi ophakeme, okungase kubangele ubunzima emizimbeni yabo emincane. Ukuzithatha nokubaduduza kungasiza ekwehliseni izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo nomfutho wegazi, okuyinzuzo empilweni nasenhlalakahleni yazo yonke.
Yiqiniso, kunezikhathi lapho kungenakwenzeka khona ukuthwala ingane yakho ngaso leso sikhathi, njengalapho ushayela noma uphakathi nomsebenzi odinga ukunaka kwakho ngokugcwele. Kulezi zimo, kubalulekile ukwazisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyazazi izidingo zayo nokuthi uzoyinakekela ngokushesha nje lapho usukwazi.
Kafushane, ukucosha ingane yakho lapho ikhala akukoni, kodwa kunalokho ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zayo eziyisisekelo futhi kukhuthaze ukukhula kwayo ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Njengabazali, kubalulekile ukwakha isisekelo esiqinile sokwethembana nokuphepha nezingane zethu, futhi ukuphendula ukukhala kwazo kuyingxenye ebalulekile yalokho.
