I-Emotional intelligence (EQ) iyikhono elibalulekile elingahlakulelwa kusukela esemncane.
Ngokwethula ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo ezinganeni ezincane, ubeka isisekelo esiqinile sokuqaphela imizwelo yazo, uzwela, nokukhulumisana okuphumelelayo.
Nawa amanye amasu angakusiza ukuthi uqale kusenesikhathi futhi ukhuthaze ubuhlakani bemizwa enganeni yakho encane.
1. Lebula imizwa:
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Ukuhlonza Imizwelo: Qala ngokufundisa ingane yakho ukukhomba imizwa eyisisekelo njengenjabulo, ukudabuka, intukuthelo, nokwesaba. Sebenzisa izincwadi ezilula zezithombe, imidwebo, noma isimo sobuso ukuze ubonise le mizwa.
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Imizwa Yakho: Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba iveze eyayo imizwa ngokubuza imibuzo efana nokuthi, "Uzizwa kanjani namuhla?" noma "Ungangibonisa ubuso bakho obujabulile?" Lokhu kubasiza ukuthi babone futhi basho imizwa yabo.
2. Fundisa Ukuzwela:
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Uzwela Oluyisibonelo: Bonisa uzwela ngemizwelo nokuhlangenwe nakho kwengane yakho. Uma becasukile, vuma imizwa yabo ngemishwana efana nokuthi, "Ngiyaqonda ukuthi udabukile ngoba ithoyizi lakho liphukile."
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Funda Izindaba Zokuzwela: Khetha izincwadi nezindaba ezigxile kubalingiswa abahlangabezana nemizwa eyahlukene. Xoxa ngemizwa yabalingisi bese ubuza ingane yakho ukuthi icabanga ukuthi abalingisi bazizwa kanjani.
3. Khuthaza Ukuxhumana:
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Vula Ingxoxo: Dala indawo ephephile yokuthi ingane yakho iveze imizwa yayo ngokukhululekile. Bazise ukuthi kulungile ukwabelana nawe ngemizwa yabo, noma ngabe bajabule, badangele, noma bathukuthele.
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Ukulalela Ngenkuthalo: Zijwayeze ukulalela ngokucophelela ngokunika ingane yakho ukunaka kwakho ngokugcwele lapho ikhuluma ngemizwa yayo. Gcina ubheka emehlweni futhi ubuze imibuzo yokulandelela ukuze ubonise ukuthi uyakhathalela.
4. Sebenzisa Izinsiza-kubuka:
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Amashadi Emizwa: Sebenzisa amashadi emizwa anezithombe zobuso obuhlukahlukene ukuze usize ingane yakho ibone futhi ixoxe ngemizwa. Ungabacela ukuthi bakhombe ubuso obuyimela kahle indlela abazizwa ngayo.
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I-Thermometer yemizwa: Dala ithemometha yemizwa ngesikali esisuka ku-1 siye ku-10, lapho u-1 umele ukudabuka kakhulu, futhi u-10 umele injabulo enkulu. Cela ingane yakho ukuthi ilinganise imizwa yayo ku-thermometer.
5. Ukuxoxa Indaba Nokudlala Indima:
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Ukuxoxa Indaba: Landisa izindaba ezilula ezibandakanya izimo ezithinta imizwa. Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ixoxe ngokuthi abalingisi bangase bazizwe kanjani nokuthi yini engayenza kulezo zimo.
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Ukulingisa: Sebenzisa onodoli, izilwane ezigxishiwe, noma izibalo zesenzo sokudlala indima yezimo zemizwa. Lokhu kuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi izijwayeze ukubona nokuphendula imizwa ngendlela yokudlala.
6. Fundisa Ukuxazulula Izinkinga:
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Thola Izixazululo: Uma ingane yakho ihlangabezana nenkinga noma ukungqubuzana, yisize ibone izixazululo ezingase zibe khona. Bakhuthaze ukuthi bacabange ngokuthi isisombululo ngasinye singabenza bazizwe kanjani bona nabanye.
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Ukuqinisa Okuhle: Dumisa ingane yakho lapho isingatha izimo kahle ngokuveza imizwa yayo nokuthola izixazululo. Ukuqiniswa okuhle kubakhuthaza ukuthi baqhubeke nokusebenzisa ubuhlakani babo bomzwelo.
7. Yiba Isibonelo Esihle:
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Model Intelligence Emotional: Izingane zifunda ngesibonelo, ngakho bonisa ubuhlakani bemizwa ekusebenzisaneni kwakho. Khuluma ngemizwa yakho nendlela oyiphatha ngayo ezimeni ezahlukene.
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Ukuxazulula Ukungqubuzana: Yenza isibonelo sokuxazulula ukungqubuzana okunempilo ngokuxazulula izingxabano ngokuzwelana, ukulalela okukhuthele, kanye nokuyekethisa ebudlelwaneni bakho.
8. Sebenzisa Isikhathi Sokudlala Njengethuluzi Lokufundisa:
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Amageyimu Ahlobene Nemizwa: Zibandakanye kumageyimu noma imisebenzi ethuthukisa ubuhlakani bomzwelo, njengokuthi "imizwa i-charades" noma "umdwebo onetimu yemizwa."
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Zenzele Dlala: Izimo zokudlala ezizenzisa zingaba indlela enhle yokuthi ingane yakho ihlole imizwa. Bakhuthaze ukuthi baveze imizwa eyahlukene ngokulingisa.
9. Zijwayeze Ukubekezela:
- Ukukhula Kwemizwelo Kuthatha Isikhathi: Khumbula ukuthi ukuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bomzwelo kuyinqubo eqhubekayo. Yiba nesineke futhi uvumele ingane yakho ukuthi ithuthuke ngejubane layo.
Ukuqala kusenesikhathi ngalawa maqhinga kungasiza ingane yakho ukuba ihlakulele ukuhlakanipha okuqinile ngokomzwelo, ukuyibeka endleleni eya ekukhulumeni okunempilo okungokomzwelo, uzwela, kanye nokukhulumisana okuphumelelayo.
