Njalo eminyakeni embalwa, kubonakala sengathi kunezimpendulo ezintsha mayelana nokukhulisa izingane. Ngesinye isikhathi abazali bakhuthazwa ukuba bamukele indlela yokukhulisa izingane ngokuqapha ngokweqile (helicopter parenting), ngesikhathi esilandelayo batshelwa ukuba bahlehle futhi bavumele ukuzimela okukhulu. Indlela yokukhulisa izingane ngobumnene (gentle parenting), indlela yokukhulisa izingane ngokuzihlanganisa (attachment parenting), indlela yokukhulisa izingane ngokuzimela (free-range parenting) nezinye izindlela eziningi zonke zibe nesikhathi sazo sokugqama.
Ngenkathi iseluleko sokukhulisa izingane siguquka futhi ucwaningo luqhubeka nokujulisa ukuqonda kwethu ngokuthuthuka kwengane, iqiniso elilodwa lihlala lingashintshi: izingane zidinga ukuzinza, ukuxhumana kanye nokungaguquguquki.
Yilapho ukukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo (evergreen parenting) kwehluka khona.
Esikhundleni sokugxila kufilosofi yakamuva yokukhulisa izingane noma isimilo sezindaba zomphakathi, ukukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo kwakhelwe ezimisweni ezingaphelelwa isikhathi ezisekela ubudlelwane obunempilo phakathi kwabazali nezingane. Kumayelana nokuncane ukulandela imithetho futhi kumayelana nokwakha indawo lapho izingane zizizwa ziphephile, zihlonishwa futhi ziqondwa.
Ngokuyinhloko, ukukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo kubona ukuthi ngenkathi ubuchwepheshe, imfundo kanye nomphakathi kungase kushintshe, izidingo zezingane ezingokomzwelo zihlala zifana ngokumangalisayo kuzo zonke izizukulwane.
Kungani Izindlela Zokukhulisa Izingane Zingaba Nzima
Abazali banamuhla banolwazi oluningi kunesizukulwane esingaphambili kwabo. Ngenkathi lokhu kungasiza, kungadala nokudideka.
Izinkundla zokuxhumana zigcwele ochwepheshe, abagqugquzeli kanye nabazali abanezinhloso ezinhle bonke babelana ngemibono ehlukene mayelana nendlela "efanele" yokukhulisa izingane. Esinye isihloko sitshela abazali ukuba bangenelele kakhulu. Esinye sibakhuthaza ukuba bahlehle. Ezinye izindlela zibonakala ziphikisana ngokuphelele nezinye.
Akumangalisi ukuthi abazali abaningi bazizwa bekhathazekile bezama ukuqhubeka nokuhambisana.
Ingcindezi yokuzivumelanisa njalo nesimo sakamuva ingashiya abazali bebuza izinto abazikholwayo futhi bezizwa sengathi abenzi okwanele.
Ukukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo kunikeza enye indlela ehlaziyayo ngokukhuthaza abazali ukuba bagxile kulokho okubaluleke ngempela esikhundleni sokujaha yonke imibono emisha ebonakala ku-inthanethi.
Izimiso Ezingapheli
Ngenkathi izindlela zokukhulisa izingane zingashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izisekelo ezithile ziqhubeka nokubonisa ukubaluleka kwazo.
Izingane zikhula kahle lapho zizizwa zithandwa futhi zixhumene nabantu abazinakekelayo.
Zisizwa yimikhawulo ecacile kanye nezinto ezilindelekile ezibikezelwayo.
Zithuthukisa ukuzethemba lapho zisekelwa ezinseleleni esikhundleni sokukhululwa kuzo zonke ubunzima.
Zifunda ukulawula imizwa lapho abantu abadala bebonisa ukuziphatha okuzolile nokuhloniphayo.
Lezi zimiso azixhumene nomnyakazo othile wokukhulisa izingane. Ziyizinsimbi zokwakha ezijwayelekile ezisekela izingane kuso sonke isigaba sokuthuthuka.
Noma ngabe ukhulisa umntwana omncane olawula imizwa emikhulu noma intsha efuna ukuzimela okukhulu, lezi zisekelo zihlala zibalulekile.
Ukukhulisa Izingane Okuhlala Njalo Kukhula Nengane Yakho
Esinye sezici ezinhle kakhulu zokukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo ukuguquguquka kwayo.
Ngokungafani nezindlela ezisekelwe esimweni ezingase zigxile kakhulu eqenjini elithile lobudala noma esigabeni sokuthuthuka, ukukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo kuguquka ngokwemvelo njengoba izingane zikhula.
Indlela oxhumana ngayo nengane eneminyaka emibili izohluka kakhulu endleleni oxhumana ngayo nengane eneminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu. Kodwa-ke, izindinganiso eziyisisekelo zokuhloniphana, ukwethenjwa, ukuxhumana kanye nokungaguquguquki zihlala zinjalo.
Lokhu kuvumela abazali ukuba balungise amasu abo ngenkathi belondoloza ubudlelwane obuqinile nozinzile nezingane zabo.
Ukuzethemba Esikhundleni Sokuphelela
Mhlawumbe isici esikhangayo kakhulu sokukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo ukuthi sisusa ingcindezi yokuba uphelele.
Abazali akudingeki ukuba babambe ngekhanda yonke inqubo entsha noma baziqhathanise njalo nabanye. Kunalokho, bangagxila ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuqinile, ekufundeni emaphutheni nasekuphenduleni izingane zabo ngobubele nangokungaguquguquki.
Ukukhulisa izingane akukaze kumayelana nokuphelela. Bekuhlale kumayelana nokuxhumana.
Lapho abazali begxila ezimisweni ezingapheli esikhundleni sezindlela zesikhashana, bavame ukuthola ukuzethemba okukhulu kanye nengcindezi encane ezimpilweni zabo zansuku zonke.
Indlela Yokukhulisa Izingane Ehambisana Nesikhathi
Ngenkathi iseluleko sokukhulisa izingane sizoqhubeka nokuguquka, izidingo eziyisisekelo zezingane cishe azishintshi. Zidinga uthando, ukuphepha, ukuqondiswa kanye nokuxhumana.
Ukukhulisa izingane okuhlala njalo kwamukela lawa maqiniso ahlala njalo futhi kunikeza isisekelo esiqinile emhlabeni osheshayo.
Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile yiseluleko sokukhulisa izingane esingqubuzanayo, kungase kukhuthaze ukukhumbula ukuthi ezinye zezindlela zokukhulisa izingane ezisebenza kakhulu zilula. Ukwakha ukwethenjwa, ukugcina ukungaguquguquki kanye nokukhulisa ukuxhumana akukaze kuphele.
Ufuna ukuhlola le ndlela yokukhulisa izingane ngokujulile? Funda isihloko esigcwele ku-BabyYumYum:
https://babyyumyum.com/why-evergreen-parenting-never-goes-out-of-style/
