Toddlers are full of energy and eager to test your limits as well as their legs -- can be a particular challenge for parents.
But even though children don't come with an owner’s manual, the adventure can be more fun if you're aware of a few common mistakes parents make and how to avoid them.
Mistake 1: Being Inconsistent
As much as you can, keep regular routines for your child. Consistency can be a challenge when parents (or other caregivers) don't see eye to eye.
Mistake 2: Overdoing Family Time
It's easy to spend one-on-one time with a toddler. Phelan recommends simply getting down on the floor together and playing. At bedtime, enjoy reading a book together or tell stories to your child.
Mistake 3: Offering Too Much Help
We need to teach children to tolerate struggle," Braun says. At the same time, there’s nothing wrong with offering praise and encouragement. "Be a cheerleader," Braun says. "Say, 'You can do this!'"
Mistake 4: Talking Too Much
Once you tell your toddler to do something, Phelan says, don't talk about it or make eye contact. If the child disobeys, give a brief verbal warning or count to three. If the child refuses to toe the line, give a time-out or another immediate consequence. No explaining.
Mistake 5: Serving Only Kiddie Food
Encourage your child to try "grown-up" fare. "A good percentage of kids are willing to try a new food if they see mommy and daddy enjoying it," Altmann says. "If they push back, keep putting it on their plate. Some kids need to try things a dozen or more times before they take to it."
Mistake 6: Getting Rid of the Crib
The time to get rid of the crib is when your child asks for a bed or starts climbing out of the crib. For most kids, that comes between the ages of 2 and 3 or when a child reaches a height of about 35 inches.
Mistake 7: Starting Potty Training Too Soon
"Children learn to use the toilet when they're ready," Altmann says. "The process shouldn't be rushed."
Mistake 8: Allowing Too Much Screen Time
Keep your toddler busy with reading and other creative pursuits. Have conversations-and encourage talking as well as listening. "The longer you can hold off exposing your child to TV, the better," Altmann says.
Mistake 9: Trying to Stop a Tantrum
Braun says parents must remember that the child matters more than the opinions of other people -- especially strangers. If people glare or offer unwanted advice, simply smile and say something like, "Gosh, do you remember what it was like?" Then scoop up the wailing child and find a place away from prying eyes for the tantrum to run its course. Once it does, offer the child a hug and go on with your day.
