It takes time to feel attached to someone you just met, even if they grew inside you, so try to drop the guilt and get to know them.
What’s important is that you’re able to take care of your child, she says. “Sing to them, touch them, feed them. Once you take responsibility in that way, your caring will come.” MacNamara stresses that attachment isn’t a task to achieve; it’s something that develops over time.
To help your connection along, watch for early signs that your baby has fallen in love with you— example, when they follow your voice, gaze at your face and snuggle into you. As difficult as those early days and weeks with your new baby can be, you’ll find yourself melting with love soon enough. But if you are concerned about how you’re feeling about your new baby, don’t hesitate to contact your healthcare provider. You may be experiencing the baby blues or postpartum depression, both of which are common and treatable.Â
