This may be a dangerous thing for me to say out loud... like sticking my head into a beehive as it is a very controversial topic.
First of all, every couple is entitled to make their own choices about when to start a family. Totally up to you as I have absolutely no place in your family. But I do want to represent my case to you as some food for thought.
EVERY YEAR YOU DELAY HAVING KIDS, IS ONE YEAR LESS YOU'LL KNOW THEM.
Let me explain.
My mom died last year. It sucks. My 3rd baby was only 4 weeks old and my mom never got to meet her. I felt sorry for myself. Rightly so. It sucks and it hurts. I see my baby every day and cannot believe that my mom, who so looked forward to her birth, was deprived of meeting her. And me, no daughter should have to raise a baby without her mother's help and wisdom.
But then one day someone asked me how my little brother was doing. He is 10 years my junior. My baby brother. And suddenly it hit me. I felt so ashamed. I was so wrapped up in my own hurt that I totally forgot about the hurt he is going through and how my being older puts me at an advantage.
He will never have Mom at his graduation ceremony (this happened 2 weeks ago and for me, it was one of the hardest 'firsts' seeing only him and dad in the photos). My mom was so proud of him. He was the smart kid. The one with distinctions. The one who studied actuarial sciences. She would've bragged all over the place.
He will never introduce a girlfriend to her.
She will not help him pick out an engagement ring.
She will not sit on the front church bench when his bride walks down the aisle.
She will not meet any of his children.
I had all that. Apart from my littlest, my mom was able to be a part of my other children's lives, even if it was only for a short while. I can even make the same argument with my own babies. My 2nd and 3rd children differ 4 years in age. What if I didn't wait that long? Maybe mom would've known her for a little while as well.
I know it is scary to take that first step in making the decision to start a family. Just know, it will totally be worth it. Literally, nothing compares to time spent with your babies.
I would like to conclude with a piece by Alex Cravens as I know a lot of people delay having kids due to the current state the world is in: