UMichele Borba, u-EdD, umbhali wencwadi ethi The Big Book of Parenting Solutions, uthi, "Le minyaka (3-5) iphakathi kweminyaka ekhuthele futhi ekhungathekisayo mayelana nokukhulisa izingane. Nawa amaphutha ayisishiyagalombili avamile abazali bezingane zasenkulisa abawenza kanye nokulungisa okuthile okuhlakaniphile ukusiza ukugwema noma ukuxazulula izinkinga.
1. Ukuduka Kakhulu Emikhondweni
Ukungaguquguquki kuyisihluthulelo kubantwana basenkulisa, kusho udokotela wezingane uTanya Remer Altmann, umbhali we Izingcingo zikaMama: UDkt. Tanya Uphendula Imibuzo Ephezulu Eyi-101 Yabazali Ngezingane kanye Izingane ezisacathula. Ungaguquguquki kuyo yonke ibhodi -- noma ngabe isiyalo, imikhuba yokulala, noma isimiso sesikhathi sokudla.
2. Ukugxila Kokubi
Kulula ukulalela izenzo ezingezinhle zengane yakho -- njengokuklabalasa nokuklabalasa -- futhi ungazinaki ezinhle. Qaphela lapho ingane yakho yenza okuthile okuhle, bese uvuza ukuziphatha okuhle.
3. Ukulahlekelwa Izimpawu Eziyisixwayiso
Abazali bavame ukuzama ukubonisana nezingane lapho zisebunzimeni intukuthelo, iphindaphinda, "Yehlisa umoya, yehlisa umoya." Kodwa lokho kufana nokuzama ukubonisana nenhlanzi yegolide, kusho uBorba. "Unamandla ngokushesha ngaphambi kwesikhathi lapho usengakwazi ukuphazamisa noma ukulindela. Kodwa uma intukuthelo isigcwele amandla, ulahlekelwa yikho. Ingane ayikuzwa." Thola futhi ulindele ukuthi ziyini izimpawu zemvelo eziyisixwayiso zengane yakho, kusho u-Borba. Okujwayelekile yindlala, ukukhathala, nesithukuthezi.
4. Ukukhuthaza Ukububula
Ingabe ukukhala kwengane yakho kuyakuhlanyisa? Ngokwesibonelo, ingabe iyakwenyusa odongeni lapho, ngaphambi nje kwesidlo sakusihlwa ngenkathi ilungiselela ukulungisa ukudla, ingane yakho iqala ukukhala, "Ngifuna ukuya epaki," noma "Ngifuna ukuyodlala no-Riley."
Ngokuziphatha okungenalo ulaka, njengokukhala noma ukuthukuthela, ungcono uma ungaphenduli kukho nhlobo. Uma ungaguquguquki, u-Borba uthi, ingane yakho izocabanga, "Hhayi-ke, lokho akusebenzanga."
5. Ukuhlela Kakhulu Ingane Yakho
Abazali bavame ukuhlela inqwaba yemisebenzi, njengamakilasi okudansa noma omculo. Bese bezibuza ukuthi kungani ingane yabo ingalali embhedeni ivele ilale zisuka nje emva kwemisebenzi eminingi okumele ngabe ibenze bakhathala.
Ungayisheli kakhulu ingane yakho noma uyisuse emsebenzini owodwa uye komunye. Nikeza ingane yakho isikhathi sokuziphumulela ngokudlala mahhala lapho ifika ekhaya ivela esikoleni.
6. Ukubukela phansi Ukubaluleka Kokudlala
Abazali abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi kufanele babhalisele izingane zabo izinhlelo zokuzicebisa ukuze zibanikeze ugqozi. Kodwa akunjalo ngempela. Vumela ingane yakho isikhathi nendawo yokudlala mahhala. Khumbula ukuthi izingane zasenkulisa zichaza umdlalo ngokuthi "okwenzayo uma uthola ukukhetha okufanele ukwenze."
7. Ukuphazanyiswa I-Daily Grind
Ingane yakho ingase idlale kahle ngokuzimela, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi ayikufuni ukunakwa. “Kunento izingane eziphuthelwa kuyo uma abazali bengafiki phansi badlale nazo,” kusho uCohen. Setha isibali sikhathi, yiba nomdlandla, futhi uhlale uhileleke ngesikhathi sakho esinqunyiwe sokudlala nengane yakho.
8. Ukusabela Ngokweqile Emangeni
UCohen uthi ukuqamba amanga kuyabaxaka ngempela abazali. Ukhuthaza abazali ukuthi babone ukuziphatha njengokuzama kunokuba "into yokuziphatha." Ungathathi ngamawala. Yazi ukuthi ukutshela i-fib noma ezimbili kuyingxenye evamile yokukhula kwengane yakho.
Umthombo https://www.webmd.com/parenting/guide/parenting-preschoolers-mistakes
