Esinye sezici ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuba umzali ukukhulisa izingane ezibongayo.
Ukubonga kanye nomusa yizici ezimbili ezibalulekile zomuntu ezivame ukuholela ekubeni umuntu omdala wenjabulo yangaphakathi nokwaneliseka.
KODWA SINGAYIFUNDISA KANJANI ABANTWANA BETHU UKUBONGA?
Sekunzima kunanini ngaphambili ukufundisa izingane zethu ngokwazisa lapho siphila ezweni elinelungelo nelithanda izinto ezibonakalayo.
Nakuba kungenjalo yonke indawo, noma kuwo wonke umuntu, umphakathi usuba nelungelo futhi uphelelwa amandla.
Singasola izinto eziyisigidi, njengobuchwepheshe nezinkundla zokuxhumana. Nokho, iqiniso liwukuthi uma sihlakulela ukwazisa ezinganeni zethu kusukela zisencane, futhi sikuqopha ekujuleni ezinhliziyweni zazo, kuyoba imvelo yazo.
1. HOLWA NGESIBONELO
Enye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokufundisa izingane zethu ukwazisa iwukuhola ngesibonelo.
Khumbula umusho odumile, “Yenza njengoba ngisho, hhayi njengoba ngenza?”
Yebo… lokho ngeke kusiyise kude lapho sifundisa izingane zethu lolu hlobo lwesifundo.
Kufanele ubeke ukubonga esenzweni empilweni yakho yansuku zonke futhi uvumele nina zingane ukuthi nizibonele mathupha. Ngaleyo ndlela, lapho ulungiselela ukukhuluma nabo ngakho, uthembekile.
2. UMDLALO WOBUNGWA
Umdwebo osesithombeni wokubonga uwumsebenzi omuhle ongawenza nezingane zakho.
Isebenza njengesikhumbuzo esiqhubekayo sazo zonke izinto okufanele sizibonge. "Umdwebo odongeni obongayo" usiza izingane ukuthi zicabange ngazo zonke izinto ezinazo futhi okufanele zizibonge.
3. UKUVILA
Enye indlela enhle yokufundisa izingane indlela yokubonga iwukubasiza babone lokho okufanele babonge ngakho.
Izingane eziningi namuhla zikhula zinakho konke ezikudingayo kusukela zizalwa.
Lokho kungadala umuzwa welungelo ezinganeni zethu, okuthi uma unganakile uqhutshekwe zibe abantu abadala.
Kungumsebenzi wethu njengabazali ukubafundisa ngezwe. Okuhle nokubi. Mayelana nenhlanhla hhayi inhlanhla, ukuze bakwazi ukuthuthukisa ikhampasi ezwelayo.
Ukwenza umsebenzi wokuzithandela kuyindlela enhle yokusiza izingane zibone ukuthi umhlaba unjani ngempela. Ngokusiza abanye abangenayo inhlanhla kubenza bazibonele mathupha ukuthi babusisekile futhi banenhlanhla kangakanani.
4. UMNIKELO
Njengokuzinikela, ukunikela ngesikhathi, izinto, kanye/noma imali kuyindlela enhle yokwenza izingane ziqonde ukubaluleka nomthelela wokubonga nomusa.
Izingane zingaba nazo kakhulu izinto zazo, ikakhulukazi amathoyizi.
Ukubafundisa ukupha, hhayi nje kweminye imithombo, kodwa ezintweni zabo kuyisifundo esibaluleke kakhulu.
5. BEKA IMALI YEMALI
Kukangaki uzithola utshela izingane zakho ukuthi, “imali ayikhuli ezihlahleni” .
Ngikholelwa ukuthi enye yezinto ezibalulekile mayelana nokubonga nokubonga ukufundisa izingane kusenesikhathi ngokubaluleka kwemali.
6. BALA IZIBUSISO ZAKHO
Omunye umusho ohlekisayo esizwa abantu bewusho njalo uthi, “kufanele ubale izibusiso zakho” .
Kodwa uma sikhuluma iqiniso, ukube uyingane futhi abazali bakho bekutshela lokho, ubuyozibuza, “kusho ukuthini lokho ?”
Umgomo walo msebenzi wokubonga uwukwenza uhlu njengezinto ozithatha kalula.
Ngisho njengabantu abadala sivame ukukhohlwa indlela esibusiswe ngayo ngezinto ezincane kakhulu. Ngokubheka nje ngokushesha umhlaba osizungezile, eziningi zalezo zinto zingafika ekhaya.
7. IGCOKAMA LOKUBONGA
Ukuba nejenali yokubonga kusiza ukubeka izinto eziningi ekuqondeni.
Ijenali yokubonga ayiyona nje kuphela indlela enhle yokubhala phansi zonke izinto ezinhle empilweni yakho, kodwa ingasebenza njengesikhuthazo nesikhuthazo “ngezinsuku ezingezinhle kangako”.
Kungaba futhi indawo yokudala yokuthi izingane ziveze ngendlela eyakhayo.
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