Ngesikhathi ukhulelwe ingane yakho yokuqala, kwakukhona isikhathi sokugxila ngokuphelele ekukhulelweni uqobo.
Wawungakwazi ukulandelela zonke izimpawu, ufunde izihloko ezingenakubalwa, uqhathanise osayizi bezithelo zengane masonto onke futhi uchithe amahora ucabanga impilo nengane yakho encane. Kwakukhona izikhathi zokulindela ngokuthula kanye namathuba okulungiselela ngokomzwelo uhambo oluzayo.
Ukukhulelwa kwesibili kuvame ukubonakala kuhluke kakhulu.
Kulokhu, impilo ayime ngoba nje ulindele. Kukhona ukudla kwasemini okufanele ukwenze, amathoyizi okufanele uwalande, izikhwama zesikole okufanele uzipakise kanye nabantu abancane abasadinga ukunakwa kwakho nsuku zonke. Ngenkathi ukhulisa umntwana, uphinde ukhulise ngokuqhubekayo omunye umntwana.
Kumama abaningi abakhulelwe okwesibili, leli qiniso lingazizwa limkhulu ngokumangalisayo.
Okunye kokumangaza okukhulu ukuthi ukukhulelwa kubonakala kudlula ngokushesha kangakanani. Phakathi kokunakekela umntwana omncane noma omkhulu kanye nokuphatha imisebenzi yansuku zonke yomndeni, omama abaningi bathola ukuthi banesikhathi esincane sokugxila ekukhulelweni kwabo kunalokho ababekulindele.
Lokho ngezinye izikhathi kungadala imizwa yecala.
Abanye omama bakhathazeka ngokuthi abaxhumani nengane yabo engakazalwa ngendlela efanayo ababenze ngayo ngesikhathi bekhulelwe okokuqala. Abanye bazizwa benecala ngokudinga ukuphumula okwengeziwe lapho ingane yabo endala ifuna ukunakwa njalo.
Iqiniso liwukuthi isipiliyoni sakho sihlukile, akusincane.
Uthando nokuxhumana okwakha nengane yakho yesibili akuncikile ekutheni uqedele kangakanani izincwadi zokukhulelwa noma ukuthi uhlala phansi kaningi kangakanani uzizwa ukhahlela. Izidingo zempilo yomndeni zisho ukuthi ukunakwa kwakho kwabelwa ngezindlela ezintsha.
Ukukhathala ngokomzimba kungazizwa kukhulu kakhulu.
Ngokungafani nokukhulelwa kokuqala, awakho amathuba okuchitha impelasonto yonke uphumula lapho kukuthatha ukukhathala. Omama abaningi abakhulelwe okwesibili balwa nesicanucanu sasekuseni, ubuhlungu beqolo noma ukungakhululeki kokukhulelwa ngenkathi bephakamisa abantwana abancane, beya emisebenzini futhi bephatha amashejuli amaningi.
Lena yindawo lapho ukuzwelana kuba kubalulekile.
Omama abaningi bazibekela izinto abangeke bakwazi ukuzenza ngesikhathi bekhulelwe okwesibili. Balindele ukugcina amandla afanayo, ukwenza indlu ihlale ihlanzekile futhi bahlale bekhona ngokugcwele kubo bonke ababazungezile.
Eqinisweni, lesi sikhathi sivame ukudinga ukuguquguquka nokwesekwa.
Ukucela usizo, ukwenza izinqubo zansuku zonke zibe lula nokunciphisa izindinganiso ezingenzeki kungashintsha okuningi. Ukukhulelwa kungokwesikhashana, futhi kulungile uma ezinye izinto zingenziwa ngokuphelele.
Enye inselele omama abaningi ababhekana nayo ukuphatha imizwelo yengane yabo endala.
Izingane zingasabela ekufikeni okuzayo komfowabo noma udadewabo ngezindlela ezahlukene. Abanye bajabula ngokushesha, kanti abanye baba namahloni, bathande ukuba nemizwelo kakhulu noma bafune kakhulu njengoba beqhubeka nezinguquko ezizayo.
Ukuqonda ukuthi lezi zinsalo zijwayelekile kungasiza abazali ukuba baqhubeke noshintsho ngesineke esikhulu.
Naphezu kwezinselele, kukhona nenjabulo ehlukile eza nokukhulelwa kwesibili.
Ukubuka ingane endala ilungiselela ukuba umfowabo noma udadewabo kudala izikhathi ezingekho ngesikhathi kukhulelwa okokuqala. Omama abaningi bachaza ukuzizwa beqiniseka kakhudlwana, benganakwethuka kancane futhi bakwazi ukuzethemba ngoba bake baqhubeka nokukhulelwa nobuntwana bokuqala ngaphambili.
Uhambo lungazizwa luphithana, luyinkathazo kakhulu futhi lugcwele izinxushunxushu kunangesikhathi sokuqala, kodwa futhi luletha imibono emisha nokuzethemba okujulile.
Konke ukukhulelwa kwesibili kuxoxa indaba ehlukile. Kungase kungabi yisipiliyoni esithulile osikhumbula ngaphambili, kodwa lokho akusenzi singabi nanjongo.
Ufuna ukuthola ukuthi yini enye omama abakhulelwe okwesibili ababefisa ukuyazi mayelana nokulinganisa ukukhulelwa nobuntwana? Funda isihloko esiphelele ku-BabyYumYum:
https://babyyumyum.com/second-time-moms-balancing-pregnancy-and-parenting/
