Ibhulogi yakamuva Uhlobo Oluhlukile Lokuba Umama lulungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/a-different-kind-of-motherhood/ Eminyakeni engu-12 edlule njengoba ngilindele ukufika kwengane yami yokuqala ngaba nombono ongacacile wokuthi umama uzobukeka kanjani. Ngangiye emakilasini abakhulelwe, ngangizilungiselele ngendlela engangingeke ngizilungiselele ngayo ukudla kwasebusuku, ukushintsha amanabukeni, ukuncelisa amazinyo njll. Ngemva kokukhulelwa kanzima ngangilangazelele kakhulu ukuhlangana nalo muntu omncane owayesecishe ukuzalwa. . Ukuba ngumama akubonanga futhi akubukeki ngendlela ebengiyilindele. Impela kukhona izingcezu ezijwayelekile, ilondolo engapheli kodwa kunezinye izingxenye ebengingazi ukuthi zizoba yingxenye yempilo yethu. Angikaze ngilindele ukuthi ngisazoshintsha amanabukeni kule minyaka, noma ukuthi ngabe ngabe ngishintshe kakhulu kule minyaka kusukela isiqhumane sami sendodana sangena emhlabeni. Abazali be-SN bathuthukisa uhlobo lwamakhono okumela okufanele amanxusa ngempela abe nomona njengoba siqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zethu zinikezwa ukwesekwa, izinsiza, izinto zokusebenza njll ezizidingayo nezizifaneleyo. Sifunda ukuzulazula kumasistimu namaphepha abonakala ekhona ukwenza kube nzima ukweseka esibathandayo kunokuba kube lula, ngaso sonke isikhathi siqinisekisa ukuthi umsebenzi wesikole uyenziwa nokuthi amakhaya ethu awahlukani ngokuphelele (yize ungabheki kakhulu eyami!). Omama nobaba bezokwelapha nokho, siwuhlobo oluhlukile ngisho naphakathi kwemindeni yama-SN. Kuyisibopho esakhelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe ewodini Lokuncike Kakhulu kanye Nabagula Kakhulu, kusukela ekwabelaneni ngezindaba ezinzima kakhulu ezingazizwa noma imuphi umzali, nasekubambeleleni ngawo wonke amandla ethu njengoba izingane zethu zilwela ukuphila. Sinezibazi, sikhathele yimpi, ngokungananaziyo sivame ukubukeka singcolile futhi asihlali sithola injabulo ngemva kwalokho okufanele izingane zethu ezinhle. Kodwa nokho, ngizizwa ngibonga kakhulu ngokuba yingxenye yaleli qembu elilimele nelishayiwe labazali abamangalisayo. Ukuba ngumama akuyona into engangiyilindele. Kunonya, kungcolile futhi kungaphula inhliziyo. Kodwa ukubona umfana wami ezuza izinto, ukumbuka enza izinto ngendlela yakhe nokubona lokho kumomotheka kwakhe okumangalisayo umuzwa omkhulu kunayo yonke eMhlabeni. Ngempela uyisizinda somhlaba wami futhi ukuba uMama wakhe kuyimpumelelo enkulu kunazo zonke empilweni yami. Ngiyazi kabuhlungu ukuthi akubona bonke abangani bami abasenezingane zabo lapha kubo, abanye basafisa ukuba uMama. Abanye ngomama bezingane abangazalanga; abaningi basanda kuqala uhambo olungaqinisekile nezingane zabo ngemva kokuzwa ukuxilongwa kwabo okokuqala ngqa. Abesifazane bayizidalwa ezimangalisayo – ukuthi ufika kanjani ekubeni umama akusho lutho, ukuthi wenzani ngakho okubalulekile. Okuthunyelwe Uhlobo Oluhlukile Lobumama luvele kuqala ku-Firefly Blog. ************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -support/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/disabilities/
