Ibhulogi yakamuva, Ukuzizwa Ngedwa Njengezidingo Ezengeziwe Zomzali. isilungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/feeling-alone-as-an-additional-needs-parent/Ngahlala ngedwa ekamelweni eliseduze esibhedlela sezingane ngilinde indodana yami eyayibuya e-anesthesia yayo ye-16. Kuthuleke ekamelweni ngibuka ngefasitela emgwaqeni ophithizelayo ngaphansi ngazibuza ukuthi ngabe ukhona yini owaziyo ukuthi ngikhona. Ingabe ukhona owayenendaba?Isizungu sasingaphezu kwamandla.Ngema esangweni lesikole buthule, bonke abanye abazali beqhelelene. Izimemo zephathi ziyasatshalaliswa, izingxoxo eziningi nesasasa, kodwa angifakwanga. Ngingumzali wengane 'leyo'. Ohlukile, odlala yedwa futhi olwela ukuxhumana. Ingane engayitholi imidlalo edlalwa abanye futhi ngeke ihlanganyele nawo wonke umuntu.Isizungu singokomzwelo.Emuva ekhaya yonke into isimi ngomumo, njengoba ingane eyodwa ifika ekhaya iklabalasa, ijikijela futhi ibhubhisa. Izinto ziyabhidlika, izingane ziyaklabalasa, isidlo sakusihlwa siyakhohlwa futhi sishise futhi. Ngizizwa ngingenamandla njengoba bengingenaye usuku lonke ngakho angikwazanga ukuvimbela noma yikuphi. Ngimthumile manje uyangizonda. Ngemva kweminyango evaliwe akekho obona ubuhlungu ngenxa yesisindo somthwalo osindayo.Umzwangedwa uyaqeda amandla.Ukulwela izinkonzo. Ukuze uthole othile, noma ubani, ukuthi alalele. Thola ingane yami usizo eludingayo. Noma ukuze sikhuphukele phezulu ohlwini lokulinda olungapheli. Umzabalazo wokuthola ithemba, ukondla ingane yami nganoma iyiphi indlela. Izingcingo njalo, aphoyintimenti, konke ukukhuluma. Ukuphinda into efanayo kubantu abaningi uzama nje ukuthola othile ozosiza.Isizungu singaphezu kwamandla.Kodwa ingaphulwa. Isizungu singadamba. Nakuba kwakungekho muntu owayenami ngokoqobo kulelo gumbi lasesibhedlela noma emi eceleni kwami ebaleni lokudlala lesikole. Noma ungisiza ngibambe ingane yami njengoba idonsa kanzima ngemva kokuyibamba usuku lonke esikoleni noma ukuya emihlanganweni nama-aphoyintimenti engiwathola masonto onke. Babenami ngezinye izindlela. Baqonda.Ngangivame ukuzizwa nginesizungu ngoba ngangicabanga ukuthi yimi ngedwa ohamba kulolu hambo. Nokho nje emgwaqeni, edolobheni elilandelayo, edolobheni eliseduze, ngaphandle emaphandleni nasesikoleni esisodwa kwakukhona abanye abazali abanengane ehlukile. Abanye abazali abaziyo ukuthi kunjani ukuba nengane eqhuma ngemva kokuphuma kwesikole. Noma ubani ongasitholi leso simemo sephathi futhi olwela ukuthola izinsizakalo nokusekelwa okuphrofeshinali. Bengingazi ukuthi zikhona ngoba ngivumele isizungu singidle.Awuwedwa.Yebo, ukukhulisa ingane enesizungu enezidingo ezengeziwe futhi eminye imizabalazo ingase ihluke emndenini wami Kodwa, lokho akusho ukuthi abanye abakwazi ukuqonda nokusekela. Imayelana nokuthola isikhundla sakho, iqembu lakho lezigelekeqe, inethiwekhi yakho yokwesekwa engakwazi ukuhamba eduze kwakho futhi ikujabulele, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokho mathupha noma ku-inthanethi. Imayelana namaqembu asekelayo e-Googling endaweni yangakini, afuna amaqembu ezinkundla zokuxhumana ahlobene nesimo sengane yakho, noma ngisho namaqembu nje abanakekeli. Bakhona yonke indawo futhi uma uthola lapho uzizwa usekhaya kuzoshintsha impilo.Ngeke ngithembise ukuthi ngeke uzizwe unesizungu ngezinye izikhathi, kodwa engingakuthembisa ukuthi abanye bazoba khona futhi baqonde. Umlayezo, umbhalo, noma i-meme ehlekisayo ethunyelwe ngothando kungase kube konke okudingekayo ukukukhumbuza ukuthi njengoba lokhu kunzima awuwedwa ngempela.Lapho uzizwa unesizungu njengezidingo ezengeziwe umzali khumbula njalo ukuthi abanye bayakuqonda. Siyakukhathalela futhi siyakuhalalisela eduze kwakho.Okuthunyelwe Ukuzizwa Ngedwa Njengomzali Odinga Izidingo Ezengeziwe. ivele kuqala ku-Firefly Blog.************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -sekela/
