Ibhalwe nguDiana Popescu
Sonke siyazi ukuthi izingane ezigqugquzelekile, ezishisekayo zijabule kakhulu futhi zaneliseke kakhudlwana. Kodwa ukukhula nokukhubazeka kungase kukhungathekise ngezinye izikhathi. Izingane zingase zizithole seziqhathanisa imizimba yazo nontanga yazo abanamandla, noma zikhungathekiswe ukungakwazi kwazo ukwenza imisebenzi ethile kalula noma ngokushesha. Njengomzali wengane ekhubazekile, kunezindlela eziningana ongaqinisekisa ngazo ukuthi ingane yakho ithola isikhuthazo nokusekelwa ekudingayo ukuze iphumelele ngokukhubazeka kwayo (kunokuba naphezu kwakho).
Thola ukuthi Yini Ekhuthaza Ingane Yakho
Ezinye izingane zinezisusa zangaphakathi kanti ezinye zinezisusa zangaphandle. Kungaba usizo kakhulu ukuthola ukuthi yini ekhuthaza ingane yakho, njengoba ingazisa indlela owethula ngayo imisebenzi kuyo.
Ugqozi lwangaphakathi yilapho ukwaneliseka kokuzikhandla kwanele ukufeza okuthile okukukhuthazayo ukuthi uqhubeke usebenza kanzima. Ezinganeni ezinezisusa zangaphakathi, hlanganisa izikhathi zokuphumula osukwini lwazo kanye nezinhlobonhlobo eziningi ukuze zigcine isimiso esikhiqizayo nesilinganiselayo.
Ukwenza into eyodwa isikhathi eside—noma ukwenza into efanayo usuku nosuku—kungaba yisicefe, nakuba khumbula ukuthi ezinye izingane zingase ziphumelele kulolo hlelo ngokwalo. Kunoma ikuphi, siza ingane yakho ilondoloze ugqozi ngokugcina iso kulokho ekujabulelayo—nokunciphisa noma yimiphi imisebenzi ebonakala ingayithandi.
Ugqozi lwangaphandle yilapho imiklomelo yangaphandle efana namamaki amahle, ukunconywa nokugunyazwa kubagqugquzeli. Ukunikeza ingane yakho ukuqinisa okuhle—kungaba ngendlela yokudumisa ngamazwi noma uhlobo oluthile lwesistimu yemivuzo—kungayisiza ukuba ihlale ikhuthazekile. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi futhi banempendulo eyakhayo kumphakathi, ngokusebenza kwabo kanzima namakhono aqashelwa ontanga yabo (mhlawumbe esikoleni noma ekilabhini yezemidlalo noma endaweni yokungcebeleka).
Khuthaza Ingane Yakho Ukuba Yamukele Ezemidlalo
Umgijimi okhubazekile uSophie Warner ufunga ngezinzuzo zemidlalo nokuzivocavoca kubantu abakhubazekile. "Kuyaxaka," esho, "ukuthi abantu abakhubazekile mancane amathuba okuba bavocavoce uma kuyibo ababona izinzuzo ezinkulu." Njengengxenye yomsebenzi wakhe we-Cerebral Palsy: I-Advice for Parents hub yabameli abangochwepheshe u-Bolt Burdon Kemp, uSophia ubeka ezinye zezizathu zokuthi kungani ezemidlalo zingazuzisa kangaka:
- Yehlisa izimpawu: USophia uthi ukugijima njalo nokuzivocavoca kusiza ukugcina izimpawu zakhe zokukhubazeka ebuchosheni zingekho, okuhlanganisa imisipha eqinile, ukukhathala kanye nezinkinga zokulinganisela. Uncoma ukubhukuda njengomdlalo omuhle we-cerebral palsy njengoba kusiza ukwelula imisipha eqinile kanye nemisipha.
- Ithuthukisa isimo sengqondo: Ngokuncipha kwezinye zezimpawu zokukhubazeka kwakhe kufika ukukhuphuka kwamazinga enjabulo. “Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola into oyithandayo,” kusho uSophia, egcizelela ukubaluleka kokuzama imidlalo eminingi ukuze uthole ekufanele.
- Inika amandla ubungane: Joyina amaqembu namakilabhu njengoba uzama ezemidlalo nemisebenzi emisha. Ngeke nje uhlangane nabantu ababelana 'ngokusebenza' njengomgomo, kodwa ungase futhi uhlangane nabantu abanokukhubazeka okufanayo. “Kungaqinisa idolo ukuqhathanisa amanothi nokuzwa okwenzeka kubantu abasesimweni esifanayo,” kusho uSophia.
Thola Umkhaya Uhileleke
Ukuba ukuphela kwengane ekhubazekile emkhayeni—noma uwena wedwa eqenjini lontanga yakho—ungazizwa unesizungu. Siza ingane yakho yakhe futhi igcine ubudlelwano nabantu abaseduze kwayo ngokwenza umndeni ubandakanyeke ekwelapheni, ekwelapheni nasekwelashweni. Hlanganisa ukwelapha kwabo empilweni yomndeni ejwayelekile futhi uzame ukulungisa izindlela zokwelapha ukuze wonke umndeni ubambe iqhaza. Ukuyisa ingane yakho emaqenjini ezemidlalo kungaba yingxenye ebalulekile yale nqubo, njengoba ithola ukuchitha isikhathi nabanye eqenjini labo lontanga. Konke lokhu kuzosiza ingane yakho ukuthi ithuthukise izibopho eziqinile nezingane zakubo futhi yakhe ubudlelwano nabanye.
Njengoba ubheka ukugqugquzela ingane yakho, khumbula ukuthi zonke izingane zihlukile. Thola ukuthi yini ethandwa ingane yakho, ngenisa imisebenzi emisha nejabulisayo esimisweni sayo futhi ube nesandla ekuthuthukiseni ubudlelwano obuqinile nabantu ejabulela ukuchitha isikhathi nabo. Gcina ukwesekwa nesikhuthazo kuqhubeka ukuphila kwabo konke ukuze uthole ingane ejabule, eyaneliseke kakhudlwana, enomdlandla futhi egqugquzelekile.
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