Ibhulogi yakamuva Amaholide asehlobo alungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/the-summer-holidays/Thumela ikhofi. Thumela ushokoledi. Thumela usizo (Faka amanye amahlaya kamama ajwayelekile lapha).Ngabe ngisebenzise isithombe esihle sika-Amy esilungele usuku lwakhe lokugcina esikoleni kule bhulogi.Kodwa-ke, angikwazi ngoba naphezu kwemizamo yami eqhubekayo yokuhlela, ngiguqule izinsuku zami, ngalifunda kabi igama lekhalenda lesikhathi, futhi empeleni ngacabanga ukuthi kusasa usuku lwakhe lokugcina.Ngakho-ke njengoba ngibhala lokhu ngiba buhlungu kakhulu. Ngikwazile ngandlela thize ukufinyeza cishe izinsuku ezimbili zomsebenzi wamahhala wezingane zibe usuku olulodwa.Ngilungiselele imithi nokudla okunomkhuhlane, ngilihlele kabusha igumbi lika-Amy, ngibuyise izingcingo engiziphuthe ngesikhathi ngisejimini ngaphambili, ngihambe nenja, phakathi kweminye imisebenzi eminingi.Uxolo, igumbi lokulala elingcolile eliboniswe esithombeni, nginesiqiniseko sokuthi sonke besingathanda kakhulu usuku oluhle lokugcina lwesithombe sesikole esingeke senzeke manje!Angiluzwa uvalo abantu abaningi abanalo maqondana namaholide ezikole.Ngibheke ngabomvu ukuthi u-Amy abekhona ngokuningi futhi ngibone ukuthi yiziphi izigigaba esingafinyelela kuzo. Kodwa ngiyakwesaba ukukhathala okuzofika nakho.Bengilokhu ngenza umzamo oqotho wokumfaka ohlakeni lwakhe lokuhamba kakhulu, nokumphakamisa kakhulu.Konke kudla isikhathi kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi kuyinto efanele ukuyenza.Into elula kakhulu ayihlali ilungile.Uma u-Amy engathola indlela yakhe, besiyochitha usuku lonke sihamba (futhi ubezoba nomculo wakhe ngaso sonke isikhathi noma aqaphele ukudonsa izinwele ezithukuthele.)Njengoba ngithanda ukuzama ukuqina nokuphumela emvelweni, kudingekile kakhulu ngokomzimba.Kulo nyaka kunanini ngaphambili, njengoba u-Amy eseneminyaka engu-8, ngizithola ngiqhathanisa ubuntwana bakhe nobami.Akuyona into enhle ukuyenza, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi kungokwemvelo.Kungenza ngibone ukuthi kungakanani ukuhlela okwengeziwe okungena ezintweni nokuthi kungakanani okungabandakanyi konke.Cishe zonke iklabhu zamaholide noma usuku lomsebenzi lubonakala luqondiswe ezinganeni ezikwaziyo ukuziphilisa/ezinokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.Kungokunye nje okumele sikuphuthele. Asikutholi ukukhetha. Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma kuvela isikhangiso ezinkundleni zami zokuxhumana ngenxa yaso ngizizwa ngicasukile ngokwazi ukuthi asikho isidingo sokubuza.Kungani abantu abaludinga kakhulu usizo kube yibona abasala bengenalo? Kungani izingane zethu zingawatholi amathuba afanayo nontanga yazo?Ngike ngabatshela abantu ngaphambili ukuthi ngamaholidi ezikole silwela kanjani ukwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke.Labo abangekho esimweni sethu ngezinye izikhathi baye baphendule ngokuthi “oh, imisebenzi ingalinda! Kukhona njalo kusasa!”Kodwa ngokudabukisayo cha. Izingubo zokulala ezingcolile zansuku zonke, ukuphathwa kwezindawo zamashubhu/ukugcina inhlanzeko, ukulungisa imithi, ukungenelela kwezokwelapha njll konke akuthathi usuku lokuphumula.Impela, ezinye zalezo zinto kungenzeka zilinde kancane, kodwa empeleni cha. Indlu yethu inama-cogs amaningi angabonakali aphendukayo. Uma i-cog eyodwa iminyene ngakho konke kuyama, noma kubi nakakhulu.Ngeshwa ngathi, umdlalo ozimele awunakwenzeka. Izinga lokujabula nokusebenza kwendodakazi yami linqunywa kuphela kulokho labo abaseduze kwayo abayenzela kona.Kuyingcindezi enkulu kodwa ngizizwa nginecala cishe njalo lokuthi engikwenzayo akwanele.Ngiphatheka kabi futhi ngokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ngingathanda ngempela ukuphumula.Ngiseyingane ngangingumdlali ozimele, ngangi (futhi namanje ngise) ngingenalwazi futhi ngangidweba ngenjabulo usuku lonke, ngifunde, noma ngifake imibala. Ngangibukela amafilimu (ngezinye izikhathi ividiyo efanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe!) futhi ngenkathi ngazi Ngizobe ngisebenza kanzima kulabo abanginakekelayo, ngiyazi ukuthi isikhathi esiningi ngangilula kwezinye izici.Ngakho ngempela ukuqhathanisa akusebenzi. U-Amy akawuthandi umsebenzi wezandla, akakujabuleli ukufundwa, futhi akanantshisekelo ngempela kuma-teddies.Noma ngabe wayekhona, wayesazodinga umuntu ozomsiza. Ngiyakhathazeka ngezinye izikhathi kufanele ukuthi ukhungathekile, noma unesizungu ngami.Kuwuhambo oluqhubekayo ngokomqondo.Ezinye zezinsuku zethu zokuphuma zihamba kahle kakhulu, ezinye ziyinhlekelele. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyafana kunoma yimuphi umndeni.Kodwa ngithola ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi uma u-Amy engakuthandi ngempela okuthile, kungibuyisela emuva.Isibonelo, ngesikhathi sokugcina lapho siya endaweni yasolwandle waba nesiqephu esibi kakhulu sokucasuka.Anginaso isiqiniseko sokuthi kwakuyindaba yezinzwa njengoba indawo yayimatasa, ukuthi wayenezinhlungu, noma wayenesizungu.Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, wayengaduduzeki.Kube wumqansa ukumkhipha kuleli bhilidi njengoba bekumatasatasa. Kwamdumaza ngoba nakhona wayenesikhathi esibi esenza into eyayithandwa yiwo wonke umuntu.Kwenzeka okufanayo ebhayisikobho nasezindaweni ezithile zekhofi. Ngiyazi ukuthi ingxenye yawo ukukhanya nendawo.Ngibonile eminyakeni edlule futhi manje sengingakwazi ukungena ndawana thize futhi ngazi ukuthi kungenzeka yini akhathazeke noma cha.Ukuthola ukulingana phakathi kokuzama izinto ezintsha nokunamathela kulokho esikwaziyo ukuthi kunzima.Sifuna ukunweba umbono ka-Amy futhi simnike lonke ithuba lokujabulela izinto eziningi.Ngokulinganayo, kufanele songe amandla futhi sikhethe ngokucophelela ukuthi senzeni.Ngaphandle kwalokho, sizifaka engcupheni yokusibangela izinkinga zempilo yengqondo, ukumosha imali, uphethiloli namandla.Ngezinye izikhathi uzosimangaza futhi ngalolo suku ajabulele okuthile okusha - noma angase ajabulele okuthile avame ukungakuthandi lapho enabanakekeli.Kubonakala sengathi izinkanyezi eziningi kufanele ziqondanise izinsuku ezingcono kakhulu… ukuntuleka kobuhlungu, ukungakhathali kakhulu, ukungadli okuningi, umsebenzi ofanele ngesikhathi esifanele sosuku, umculo/amathoyizi afanelekile njll.Kulo nyaka ngihlanganisa uhlu lwezinto okufanele zenziwe, nezindawo esingathanda ukuya kuzo.Ngokusobala, lokhu kuhlala kungashintsha. Ukuntuleka kokulala, ukugula, imizwa, izinto eziningi zingathinta lokhu. Bese-ke, izindleko zikaphethiloli, amanani entengo, ukushintsha izinsiza, isimo sezulu nokunye.U-Amy uthanda izinguquko eziningi zesikhundla kanye nezinguquko zomsebenzi.Konke lokhu kungase kukhathale, kodwa nginethemba lokuthi ngizozama ukudla ngendlela ehluzekile, ngihlale ngimanzi, futhi ngiphumule ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze ngibe ngumama adinga ukuba ngibe nguye.Akuvamile ukuthi afune “usuku lobuvila”, ayikho inketho yokuvele akhiphe ifilimu njll futhi ngikwamukele lokhu.Wenzani ngamaholidi akho esikole? Noma yimaphi amathiphu ongadlula kuwo?Sifisela wonke umuntu okuhle kodwa.Okuthunyelwe Amaholide ehlobo avele kuqala ku-Firefly Blog.************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -support/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/disabilities/
