Ibhulogi yakamuva Isikhathi sokucubungula - Abazali Bezempilo Eyinkimbinkimbi nokucindezeleka kulungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/time-to-process-complex-health-parents-stress/Ngezinye izikhathi awukwazi ukuphila okwamanje. Kuthiwani uma kuyisikhathi esibuhlungu kakhulu nesiyinselele?Ululama kanjani ezenzakalweni ezicindezelayo? Uzizulazula kanjani ngenkathi zenzeka?Izolo u-Amy ubesezinhlungwini ngenxa yezinkinga zesikhumba ezibukhali. Umphumela walokhu waba ukuthi wayecindezelekile ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.Lapho ecindezelekile uklebhula izinwele zakhe, uyabacindezela futhi akhahlele abaseduze kwakhe.Akakwazi ukududuza ngalezo zikhathi. Ongakwenza ukuhlala uzolile, nesineke, futhi uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukugwema ukulimala.Ngokujabulisayo lezi zikhathi zenzeka kancane kunalokho ezazivame ukwenzeka, kodwa ngaleso sikhathi ngiyakwazi ukuzwa amazinga ami okucindezeleka enyuka futhi ekhuphuka.Umhlathi wami uyaqina futhi ugoqe, imisipha yami iyaqina, futhi inhliziyo yami ishaya ngamandla.Ngaleso sikhathi ongakwenza ukuqhubeka uphefumula, futhi uzikhumbuze - ngale ndlela akhuluma ngayo ngobuhlungu, lesi sikhathi sizodlula.Muva nje, u-Amy ube nama-ambulensi ambalwa ngenxa yezinkinga zokuphefumula.Ngalezo zikhathi uba luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, edonsa kanzima ukuphefumula, ehlehla, futhi ebukeka engaphili. I-Adrenaline iyakhahlela futhi ngimmise kabusha, ngimhlole ukuthi amathambo akhe, ngimunce, ngimqinisekise, futhi ngichaze engikwenzayo.Ngibize i-ambulensi. Isifuba sami siqinile, imilenze yami ibuthakathaka. Ngaphandle nginokuthula. Ngaphakathi ngiyisiphithiphithi. Vele udlule kulesi sikhathi. Abezimo eziphuthumayo bazobe belapha maduze, uzophila, futhi sizophila sonke.Ku-ambulensi iqolo lami liyanyakaza njengoba ngizabalaza ukubeka ingane yami ethukile.Usenomoya-mpilo futhi uphapheme manje, kodwa ucindezeleke kakhulu. Abasebenzi balokhu bengitshela ukuthi ngimgcine eqondile, futhi ngiyachaza futhi ukuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka ngo-Amy.Amalambu aluhlaza manje avuliwe ukuze asifikise lapho ngokushesha. Sizoba lapho maduze, lokhu kumayelana naye, hhayi mina.Aqhubeke nokuzama ukumduduza nokumvimba ukuthi angazilimazi.Esibhedlela ngiyathula njengoba ngichaza ukuthi kwenzekeni okwesithathu, mhlawumbe okwesine.Ngiphinde ngilahle uhlu lwakhe lwemithi, okwesithathu, mhlawumbe okwesine. Lena inqubo - ungalwi nayo. Vele ubekezele futhi uchaze. Uzoba sekhaya ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, ngethemba.Phambili Phambili ngesonto.Izinto manje sezingcono kakhulu ngokwezempilo. Izinkinga ezisongela ukuphila manje sezithathelwa indawo yizinkinga ezivamile zansuku zonke ezifana nokushintsha imishini yezokwelapha enephutha, ukuxosha imishanguzo esibhedlela, nokuthola indawo yokugcina izinto zokuphakela amashubhu.Sisosukwini oluhle lomndeni sizikhiphe. Umoya waseNkwindla uhlanzekile, ilanga liyakhanya, u-Amy usesimweni esihle.Ngokushesha sibhekene nokuthi “yini inkinga yakhe? Kungani ekulesosihlalo?”.Ngiyabonga ukuthi abantu bayabuza - kungcono kunokugqolozela, noma ukuziba. Kodwa inhliziyo yami ishona kancane. Kungani kudingeka sigqame? Kungani singeke sibe nokusebenzelana okunobungane okungagxilile ekukhubazekeni kuka-Amy?Ngaphakathi ngifisa ukumane ngibe normal, ngibe yisicefe ngisho. Yeka into entsha eyisicefe noma evamile. Ngiphefumula ngawo futhi ngifake izwi lami elijabulisayo elijabulisayo futhi ngichaze futhi ukuthi ukukhubazeka kobuchopho yindlela ubuchopho obulawula ngayo imisipha nokunye.Ngishaya ucingo ukuze ngijahe imishanguzo. Ngithandazela ngaphakathi ukuthi umamukeli akhulume nami ngomusa.Ngizwa ukukhungatheka kwezwi lakhe njengoba sekungokwesithathu ngifika phakathi nesonto. Ngizikhumbuza ukuthi ngiphefumule futhi ngihlale ngizolile.Ungalahli ukwethembeka futhi ukhale. “Kungani ungakwazi ukuya kudokotela ukuze uthole le mithi?” Ngiphendula okwesithathu ngesonto.Ngilwa nesifiso sokubhuqa noma imizwa futhi ngichaze ukuthi le mithi isibhedlela kuphela. Ngizama ukwenza inkulumo encane enesizotha.Ihamba indiva. Ngiyazitshela - mhlawumbe unosuku olubi kakhulu noma umatasatasa kakhulu - ungazithatheli ngokwakho, ungakuvumeli kuthinte usuku lwakho.Ngibhala lokhu nje ngizizwa ngiqina ngizizwa ngithukuthele.Ngezinye izikhathi akuzwakali ukuthi kufanele ukufake ngaphakathi ukudabuka nokukhungatheka okungaka.Okwamanje, kulesi sikhathi esithulile, ngingakucubungula konke. Ngingathatha isikhathi ukujabulela ikhofi elishisayo, ngazi ukuthi sisekhaya nokuthi konke kuhamba kahle.Ngiyakwazi ukujabulela ukuthi ifoni yami ayikhali, bonke abantu engibathandayo baphephile futhi baphile saka, futhi ngingaziqhenya ngokuthi sonke siphumelele.Ngezinye izikhathi awukwazi ukuphila okwamanje. Ngezinye izikhathi kufanele ubekezelele umzuzu wazi ukuthi izikhathi ezingcono zizolandela.Kwesinye isikhathi lezo zikhathi ozibekezelele zizokufica futhi zikudle.Wenzani ukubhekana nalokhu?Ngokwami, nginemithi yokukhathazeka, nokwelulekwa, futhi ngizama ngesikhathi sami sokuphumula ukuze ngihambe futhi ngiye ejimini.Ukuzivocavoca kuyithinta ngempela impilo yakho yengqondo. Kunganciphisa ama-hormone akho okucindezeleka futhi kukusize ukhulule amakhemikhali amnandi.Ngezinye izinsuku ngikhathele kakhulu futhi ngikhathele ngenxa yalokho - futhi lokho kulungile futhi. Kufanele ulalele umzimba wakho, futhi uma isikhathi sivuma - zinike ithuba lokuphulukisa.Kuzwakala kuwushizi kodwa ukuzinakekela kubaluleke kakhulu. Kunzima ukungena ezimpilweni zethu njengoba kungase kube okungalindelekile. Kodwa noma isiphi isikhathi ongakwazi ngaso, zama futhi uzenzele okuthile futhi ujabulele futhi ujabulele leso sikhathi.Uma udonsa kanzima - ngicela uhambe uyobona udokotela wakho. Khuluma nothile. Ungamane ugingqike futhi uhlupheke.Ukuphila kuyinselele kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa uma unengane enempilo eyinkimbinkimbi kuwukukhathazeka njalo ngempilo yakhe, kanye nokuzulazula ohlelweni oluvame ukuba nzima oluyizungezile.Okuthunyelwe Isikhathi sokucubungula - Abazali Bezempilo Eyinkimbinkimbi nokucindezeleka kuvele kuqala I-Firefly Blog.************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -support/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/disabilities/
