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IZINGANE ZIVAMISE UKUHLUKANA EMVA KWESIKOLE. NANSI KUNGANI FUTHI YINI OKUMELE UYENZE.

Zilungiselele! Ingane yakho ingase ifike ekhaya ngemva kokuphuma kwesikole noma inkulisa bese iwela ezinyaweni zakho. Lokhu ngikubiza ngokuthi “Ngemva Kokugoqa Kokuvinjelwa Kwesikole.” Kuyinto!

Eqinisweni, ungakubona lokhu kumlingani wakho noma kuwe uqobo. Uyaqhuba, uqondise, ukhiqize, ucabange, umomotheke, ugcine izinto engqondweni yakho yangaphakathi ofisa ukukusho kuzwakale, bese ungena emnyango wakho wangaphambili ukuze uphenduke umuntu onolaka, onohlanya.

Nasi isizathu!

Kudingeka amandla amaningi, ugqozi olungokwengqondo, ukucindezelwa ngokomzwelo, nokuzithiba ukuze sizigcine singcono kakhulu lapho sisemsebenzini, ekunakekeleni izingane, noma esikoleni sabanye abantu.

Siyaziphoqa ukuthi singabi ngabantu abanolaka, sihlanyise abantu lapho ukwenza kanjalo kungase kube nemiphumela emibi kakhulu njengokulahlekelwa imisebenzi, ukuthunyelwa ehhovisi likathishanhloko, noma ukuphuthelwa yisikhathi se-sandbox. Kukangaki phakathi nosuku ufisa sengathi ungavele utshele othile noma uhambe uyokhala endlini yangasese? Kodwa asenzi – senza esikudingayo ukuze “sibe abahle” noma sigcine ukuthula.

Ngemuva kokuthi singakwenzi lokho usuku lonke, sifika lapho singenawo amandla okugcina lokhu kuzibamba, futhi kuzwakala njengebhamuza elikhulu elidinga ukuqhuma.

Enye yezingane zami yayikuthanda ukuya esikoleni sikahulumeni, kodwa nsuku zonke yayikhala izinyembezi lapho ifika ekhaya. Wayengazi ukuthi kungani ekhala, kodwa ngangazi ukuthi wayedinga nje ukuwohloka ngemva kokuwugcina usuku lonke. Ngigweme isikhathi sokudlala somngane noma imisebenzi ehleliwe ngemva nje kwesikole ukuze abe nesikhathi sokuhlanganisa kabusha. Kulo nyaka kuzohluka, njengoba ezobe ehambele  isikole esisha esizimele esisiqalayo . Bengikukhumbula lokhu kunamandla lapho ngidala uhlelo lwethu lwansuku zonke.

Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu okuguquguqukayo kwenzeka nakubazali. Ngiyazibuza ukuthi kungani amafilimu ethanda Kubi Mama futhi Osisi benza kahle kakhulu! Abalingisi kulawa mafilimu balahlekelwa ngokuphelele ukuzibamba futhi bazizwa bengcono ngemva kokuhlanya. Ngiqinisekile abaningi bethu bafuna nje ukudedela njengoba benza! Ngiyazibuza futhi ukuthi ngabe kungani izinkundla zokuxhumana zisiphazamisa kalula. Ngemva kokwenza izinto okungenzeka asifuni ukuzenza ngokuphelele, kodwa okufanele sizenze, sizizwa singcono ngokuhleka amavidiyo ezingane ezizifutha ngepayipi noma imidlwane elala imile.

Kunezinto eziyisikhombisa esingayenza, futhi sifundise izingane zethu ukuthi zizenze, ukukhulula leli bhamuza lokubamba eliqhuma lapho sifika ekhaya. Ungase uzame lezi nozakwenu.

XHUMANA KABUSHA KAHLE

Bingelela ingane yakho ngokumomotheka nangokugona esikhundleni sokuthi, “Ingabe ukhona umsebenzi wesikole onawo?” noma “Ngizwile ukuthi usenkingeni namuhla.” Ungabuzi futhi ukuthi, “Belunjani usuku lwakho?” Akekho ofuna ngempela ukuphendula lo mbuzo.

DALA ISIKHALA

Nikeza ingane yakho isikhathi sokuzwa imicabango yayo ngemva nje kokuyithatha. Uma ushayela faka umsakazo uthule. Uma uhamba, yisho okuncane noma vele ubeke amazwana ezintweni ezinhle oziqaphelayo: “Uyibonile inyoni encane ephuzi ephuzi?” Lesi akusona isikhathi sezingxoxo ezinkulu.

BADILISE

Izingane eziningi zenza kangcono uma zingabuzwa ukuthi, “Ulambile?” Cabanga ukuthi amathangi amaningi ezingane zakho awanalutho lapho zifika ekhaya. Gcwalisa elomzimba nge ebalungisela ukudla engashongo lutho . Ukudla kwangempela njengezinti ze-veggie, izithelo ezisikiwe, ushizi, noma amantongomane kuzobanikeza amandla abawadingayo. Ngiphakamisa futhi ukubeka izingilazi zamanzi, futhi.

Nciphisa UKUHLANGABEZANA KWASEKHAYA NOMSINDO

Abantu empeleni bathintwa yilokho okusesikhaleni esibazungezile - abanye kakhulu kunabanye. Ngiyazi ukuthi ekuseni kungase kube matasa, kodwa zama ukuphuma endlini ehlanzekile ukuze ubuyele ekhaya. Ngangenza kahle kakhulu kulokhu ngaphambili ngakho nganquma ukuthi ubusuku ngabunye kwakufanele ngilungise “isikhathi esigcwele” (ngosizo lwabanye) ukuze indlu ingabi inhlekelele ekuseni. Ngiphinde ngivuke kusenesikhathi ukuze ngibeke ukudla kwasekuseni/ kwasemini ngaphambi kokuba ngihambe usuku.

Ukufika ekhaya ngemva kokuphuma kwesikole noma emsebenzini akusona isikhathi esihle sokushisa i-vacuum!

HLALA UXHUMANE USUKU LONKE

Sebenzisa indlela efanelekile yobudala kanye nobuntu ukuze uhlale uxhumene nengane yakho lapho ingekho kuwe phakathi nosuku. Ngibiza lezi amabhuloho okuxhumana . Ngisebenzise izinto ezifana namanothi amancane athunyelwe kwasemini noma ukupakisha ubumnandi obukhethekile bezingane zami.

HLANGANISA ISIKHATHI SOKUNCINZA

Kuye ngobuntu bengane yakho, nikeza indlela yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka ekupheleni kosuku. Nikeza ingane yakho ihole ukuze iqale ukukhuluma lapho isilungile. Lapho leso sikhathi sifika, ungabuza nganoma iziphi izikhathi ezishubile ngokomzwelo okungenzeka ukuthi zenzeka ngalolo suku.

Futhi, cabanga ngokusebenzisa “ukwelashwa kokudlala” nengane yakho ngisho noma isemusha! Abantu bawohloka ngokudlala, okusiza ukucubungula imicimbi yosuku. Nikeza isikhathi sokungenzi lutho/ ukuphumula noma ukudlala usuku ngendlela engokwenyama. Ezinye izingane ezincane zithanda ukubambana, ukugijima, noma ukulwa. Asebekhulile bangase bathande ukugibela ibhayisikili noma basebenzise amandla abo ensimbini ethile.

Lokhu kungase kuzwakale kungavamile, kodwa ukubheka phansi kungasiza ngempela! Kunesizathu sokuthi "i-inversion poses" inconywa ku-yoga - lokhu kunjalo indlela engiyithandayo ye-decompression .

KUJABULELE

"Ukuhleka kukhipha ukucindezeleka okufanayo nezinyembezi." Laura Markham, PhD. Ukuzijabulisa kuyindlela enhle yokukhulula ukungezwani kusukela ngosuku.

Umthombo: https://www.yummymummyclub.ca/blogs/andrea-nair-connect-four-parenting/20160830/after-school-restraint-collapse-help-your-child