Akukho lutho olunamandla njengendaba ngaphambi kokulala—ikakhulukazi kule minyaka yesikhathi sesikrini esiqhubekayo. Njengoba sijula engxoxweni, siqala ukubona ukuthi indaba yokulala iyisiphetho esihle kanjani sosuku. Ngakho-ke ake sicabange kabusha futhi sibuyise lesi sikhathi esikhethekile sokuwohloka kwabo bobabili umzali nengane.
Akuyona nje into esiyenzela izingane zethu—izinzuzo zitholwa nakithi. Asigcini nje ngokufundela izingane zethu, siyafunda nge izingane zethu. Nazi izizathu ezinhlanu zokuthi kungani indaba yesikhathi sokulala iyisiko lomndeni elinamandla kakhulu:
Ukuvalwa kokuphela kosuku
Indaba yesikhathi sokulala ingamela ngendlela engokomfanekiso iphoyinti lokuvala ezinsukwini zethu eziqhubekayo, ezihlala zivuliwe, nezingapheli. Ngisho nezingane zethu, njengoba zifunda esikoleni samabanga aphansi, seziqala ukuzwa izingcindezi zomhlaba 24/7. Ngokubambisana singaqala ukudangala, siyeke ukukhathazeka okungase kugcwalise usuku.
Ezinganeni zethu, ukugeza, ukuxubha amazinyo, namaphijama kuqala inqubo ehamba kancane. Kithina bazali, kubalulekile futhi ukuthi siguqule ngokugcwele ukunaka kwethu nobukhona bethu kulesi sikhathi esikhethekile—sisiphathe njengendawo engaphazamiseki, esingcwele (sishiya idivayisi yethu ngaphandle kwegumbi!).
Ukuzizwa uphephile futhi uvikelekile
Cishe awukho umuzwa ophephile noma olondekile odlula ukutotoswa nomzali—ukulalela izwi lakhe eliduduzayo. Ukubambisana kukhuliswa njengoba indaba ekhethekile isihambisa emhlabeni ongase ube khona. Futhi, amazinga okucindezeleka aqala ukwehla kubo bobabili umzali nengane njengoba amandla athambile eqala ukusizungezile. Ukwenza lesi siko lothando siphindaphindwe ubusuku ngabunye kukhuthaza uthando olungenamibandela oluvikela abancane bethu emizweni engenakugwemeka yokuba sengozini echaza okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu.
Ukulala okunempilo nokuphupha okungcono
Ochwepheshe bokulala baveza ukuthi izindaba zokulala zingasiza kanjani kokubili ingane nomzali lala kahle ebusuku. Kunengqondo ngokuphelele. Iphimbo lothando lomzali lingase futhi lidale ukuhlotshaniswa okunamandla nokulala—kwehlise ubuchopho—futhi kusize ingane ukuba idedele usuku. Njengoba intsha yethu ingena ebuthongweni obujulile ngemva kokuxoxa indaba, ingqondo iyaqhubeka “idlala” nalolu lwazi olusha—igxilisa imizwa, izithombe namaphethini wezindaba okuzwiwe.
Ngamanye amazwi, i-subconscious enamandla iyaqhubeka nokwenza umlingo wayo njengoba ingane ilele, ibeka isisekelo sokungena kahle ngosuku olulandelayo.
Ukubandakanya umcabango
Izindaba zokulala zingenye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokuvusa umcabango wengane. Ucwaningo luyakuveza lokho ukufunda indaba kuhluke ngokuphelele kunokubukela uhlelo lwe-TV noma imuvi. Ukulalela indaba kudinga ukubamba iqhaza okuthe xaxa njengoba besebenzisa ingqondo yabo ukubona ngeso lengqondo okwenzekayo futhi bacabange ngokuthi yiziphi izinqumo abebengazikhetha ukuba bekungumlingiswa. Le mibono emisha ikhuthaza izingane zethu ukuba zizicabangele ngokwazo amaqiniso amasha nobunikazi. Izindaba zabo abazithandayo ziqala ukubumba kahle eyabo indaba yempilo.
Iyaxhuma futhi iyazwela
Njengoba nje izindaba zisiza izingane zethu ukuba zenze umuzwa wazo wobuntu, ziphinde zizisize ukuthi zizwelane nabanye. Intsha yethu ingathola induduzo ngokuphathelene nomlingiswa osendabeni obhekene nenselele efanayo—kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umngane omkhulu othuthayo noma ukulahlekelwa isilwane esifuywayo. Akumangazi ukuthi izindaba zingasiza izingane zethu zithole isibindi (nokubhala) ukuze zibhekane nezinto ebezibonakala zikude kakhulu kunokuhlangenwe nakho kwazo.
Ezinganeni ezisesimweni esingaqinisekile (njengesehlukaniso noma ukushonelwa yilungu lomndeni), indaba ngaphambi kokulala ingabasiza ukuba baqale ukwakha iqiniso elisha. Noma kunjalo, izindlela eziyigugu kakhulu zokuxhumana eziqhutshwa izindaba zangaphambi kokulala yilezo phakathi komzali nengane—esinye sezibikezelo ezinamandla zempumelelo nenjabulo ekuphileni kwezingane zethu.
