Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi ukuphepha kwezingane akudingeki kusetshenzwe noma okuthile okungenziwa ngokuchofoza nje. Ukuphepha kwezingane kuwumthwalo wawo wonke umzali nombheki.
Kungumsebenzi odinga ukunakwa nokuzibophezela okukhulu ngangokunokwenzeka. Futhi kungenxa yalesi sizathu ukuthi umqondo wokuhlela ukuphepha kwezingane ucatshangelwa.
Kokuyisisekelo, ukuhlela ukuphepha kwengane kuhlobene nokubeka isethi efanelekile yemithetho neziqondiso ezingasetshenziswa ukwengamela ingane yakho nakho konke okumzungezile. Isethi yemithetho nemihlahlandlela kufanele ihlelwe futhi ihlelwe ngokuvumelana nesikhathi nendawo edingekayo ukuze ingane yakho yenze ngendlela evamile. Ukuhlela kubalulekile njengoba lokhu kuzokulungiselela ukuthi wenze ngokuvumelana nalokho okuphephile ezinganeni zakho.
Nokho, ukuhlela ukuphepha kwezingane akulula njengoba ungase ucabange. Kuhilela umzamo nesikhathi sokuthola ukuthi yini engase ilungele ukuphepha kwengane yakho. Futhi, ngeke kwenziwe kalula ngaphandle kokwazi isimo sangempela noma inkinga endaweni yezingane.
Ingane ingase ibe nezinkinga ezingokomzimba, ezingokwengqondo, noma ezingokomzwelo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyiphi inkinga ekhungethe ingane ikushiya ukhathazekile, kungcono ukunquma ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, okuyinto ochwepheshe bokunakekela izingane abayisikisela.
Kubalulekile futhi ukucacisa ukuthi ubani okufanele uvikeleke. Kungaba ingane yakho noma ezinye izingane. Qaphela ukuthi izingane zivame ukwenza ngokuvumelana nalokho ezizokujabulela, ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi isimo sizoba ngcono noma siphephile kubo noma cha. Yilapho kanye lapho kufika khona umthwalo wemfanelo wabazali wokuphepha kwezingane. Khona-ke abazali kudingeka baqondise izingane zabo ngendlela engcono kakhulu, kungaba into ehlobene nokushintsha indlela yokuziphatha noma ukuyala ingane.
Lapho uhlela ukuphepha kwezingane, kuwumqondo ohlakaniphile futhi ukukhomba ngokuqondile ukuthi inkinga yenzeka nini futhi kanjani. Lokhu, yiqiniso, kungase kusebenze kulabo ababikezelayo. Mhlawumbe indlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza lokhu kwenzeke ukubuka ingane yakho nokuqapha izenzo zayo. Maqondana nalokhu, kuhle kuwo wonke umzali noma umbheki ukuba anqume ukuthi ubani ozobamba iqhaza ohlelweni lokuphepha kwezingane. Khumbula ukuthi lapho uhlela, kunezimo ezithile lapho ungase udinge usizo oluvela kwabanye abantu abanomthwalo wemfanelo. Zama ukwabelana ngohlelo lwakho lokuphepha lwengane yakho nabanakekeli abangochwepheshe, noma ngisho nalabo abazanyana abasanda kusebenza isikhathi esifushane. Ungase umangale ukuthi miningi kangakanani imibono engaba nomthelela ekwenzeni uhlelo lokuphepha kwengane yakho lusebenze.
Cabangela umkhawulo wesikhathi sohlelo lwakho. Zibuze ukuthi uhlelo luzosebenza isikhathi esingakanani futhi uzolucubungula kangaki. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukwenza uhlelo lokuphepha kwengane yakho lusebenze.
Kungase kube nemithetho eminingi kakhulu namathiphu okuphepha kwengane kodwa kungabi nethuba elingu-100% lokukhipha ingane kunoma iyiphi indawo eyingozi. Njengoba nje sifuna ukugcina izingane zethu ziphephile amahora angama-24 ngosuku, singenza okufana nethemba nokuthandaza. Asivume, noma sifuna ukuba ngasohlangothini lwabo njalo uma isiqhwaga sesikole sivela phambi kwabo, kunezikhathi lapho kufanele bafunde ukuzivikela. Akusho ngempela ukuthi uzobe uthumela izinyane lakho endle ukuze lizibonele, kodwa uvele ulivumele libhekane namaqiniso. Yiqiniso, ngaphambi kokuba wenze kanjalo, bekufanele ukwazi ukumnika amacebiso okuphepha kwengane azosiza ukugwema ingozi.
Izwe ligcwele abantu abanezinhloso ezimbi. Singase singakwazi ukuqonda izizathu zabo kodwa iningi labo lidla izisulu ezingenacala - izingane zethu. Ocwaningweni lwakamuva kutholakale ukuthi omama bakhathazeke kakhulu ngabathumbi nabahlukumeza ucansi kunokulimala ngengozi. Isizathu salokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukulimala kwengozi kungavinjelwa kalula ngokulandela amathiphu alula okuphepha kwengane. Omama banomuzwa wokuthi izenzakalo zokuthumba noma zokunukubezwa ngokobulili azinakuvinjelwa ngokuphelele ngisho nangezinyathelo ezithile zokuphepha.
Inkulumo ethi “ingozi engaziwa” ingelinye lamacebiso okuphepha kwezingane aye asetshenziswa kabanzi ukufundisa izingane indlela yokulwa nabathumbi abangaba abathumbi noma abahlukumezi bobulili. Nokho, isiqubulo satholakala sithathwa njengesoqobo kakhulu. Kutholakale ukuthi kunezigameko lapho izingane zibalekela abatakuli ngoba zifundiswe ukuthi zingakhulumi nabantu ezingabazi. I-National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) ayizange ibe nesiqubulo esithi “ingozi engaziwayo”. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amacala amaningi okuthumba enziwa othile izingane ezimaziyo noma ezimjwayele.
Ukugcina izingane ziphephile ezingozini kungafinyelelwa ngokuzijwayeza amathiphu okuphepha kwezingane. Ukugcina indlu ihlanzekile futhi ingenazo izithiyo, nokusebenzisa amabhande ezihlalo ngenkathi usemotweni kuyadingeka ukuze ugweme izigameko ezingafuneki. Amathiphu okuphepha kwezingane ngokuyisisekelo ayizinto ezinengqondo okufanele sizenze njengabazali. Ukungayivumeli ingane yakho ukuba izule lapho iyothenga kuyindlela enhle yokuyifundisa ukuthi ihlale ikubheka ngaphambi kokuba iye kwenye indawo.
Amathiphu okuphepha kwezingane awabandakanyi abazali kanye nabantu abadala kuphela. Izingane kufanele zikwazi ukuziqaphela nazo. Yize ziningi izingozi ezisiqaphile, akufanele sitshele izingane ukuthi umhlaba uyindawo engaphephile. Njengabazali, kufanele sibafundise ukuthi noma bangaki abantu ababi, bahlezi kukhona abalungile abalindele ukonga usuku.
