Abazali abaningi bakhathazeka ngezinto ezisobala eziyingozi ekhaya. Izitebhisi, amachibi okubhukuda, izinto ezibukhali, amalangabi avulekile. Lezi zingozi zibonakala futhi zicindezela, ngakho zithola ukunakwa kusenesikhathi.
Nokho enye yezinto ezivame kakhulu ezibanga ukugcwala kwamakamelo abagulayo abantwana isicashe obala. Isekhaya cishe ngalinye, isetshenziswa nsuku zonke, futhi ayivamile ukubanga ukukhathazeka kuze kube yilapho kukhona okungahambi kahle.
Ifenisha.
Ifenisha engaphukile.
Ifenisha engaphephile ngokwedizayini.
Ifenisha evamile yasendlini abazali abayethemba ngaphandle kokungabaza.
Kungani Ukulimala Kwefenisha Kuvame Ngaphezu Kokulindeleka Kwabazali
Ukulimala okuhlobene nefenisha kuthumela izinkulungwane zabantwana emakamelweni abagulayo minyaka yonke. Lokhu kulimala kusukela ekushayweni nasekulimaleni okuncane kuya ekulimaleni okukhulu ekhanda nasekulimaleni kwangaphakathi.
Okuphelelisa ifenisha kakhulu akukhona ukuthi ibukeka isabisa. Ukuthi izwakala ijwayelekile.
Abazali babona ifenisha njengengxenye yesizinda. Abantwana bayibona njengento okumele bakhwase, bayidonsa, bayisunduza, futhi bayihlole.
Amakhabethe okugqoka aba izitebhisi.
Amashalofu ezincwadi aba izakhiwo zokukhuphuka.
Amatafula ekofi aba izindawo zokwethula.
Izitendi ze-TV ziba izinto zokubambelela.
Lapho ilukuluku lihlangana namandla adonsela phansi, umphumela ungaba mubi kakhulu.
Ingozi Ecashe Yokuphezu Kwezingozi Zokuphenduka
Enye yezingosi ezimbi kakhulu futhi ezingakulinganiswa kahle ukugoqeka kwefenisha.
Izingozi zokuwa zenzeka lapho ucezu lwefenisha luwela phezu kwengane. Lezi zigameko zivame ukubandakanya amakhabethe, amakhabethe amadrowa, amashalofu ezincwadi, kanye nama-televishini abekwe ezindaweni ezingazinzile.
Abantwana akudingeki ukuthi bakhwase ukuze kube nokugoqeka. Ukudonsa nje idrowa, ukuvula amadrowa amaningi ngesikhathi esisodwa, noma ukutshekisela isisindo sabo phambili kungashintsha indawo yesisindo.
Uma ifenisha isiqala ukutsheka, ihamba ngokushesha. Abantwana abanalo isikhathi sokusabela noma sokusuka.
Kungani Ukulimala Kwekhanda Kuvame Kangaka Kulezi Zingozi
Izingane ezincane zithambekele kakhulu ekulimaleni kwekhanda. Amakhanda azo makhulu futhi anzima kakhulu kunengxenye yonke yomzimba wawo, okwenza kube maningi amathuba okuthi ashaye kuqala lapho ewa.
Lapho ifenisha ishintsha, ivame ukuwela ngasekubeni ekhanda.
Amakamelo abagulayo avame ukubona:
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Ukushaqeka
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Ukuphuka kwebunzi
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Ukulimala kobuso
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Ukopha kwangaphakathi
Lokhu kulimala kungenzeka ngemizuzwana futhi kuvame ukwenzeka lapho umuntu omdala eseduze.
“Bengikhona” Iyetimu Ejwayelekile
Abazali abaningi bachaza izingozi zefenisha ngendlela efanayo.
“Bengisekamelo.”
“Ngiye ngajika nje.”
“Bengingakholwa ukuthi bangakufinyelela lokho.”
Lezi zikhathi zigqamisa iqiniso elibalulekile. Ukugada kuphela akukuvimbeli ukulimala kwefenisha.
Abantwana bahamba ngokushesha. Ifenisha iyaphenduka ngokushesha. Abantu abadala abakwazi ukusabela ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Yingakho ukuthembela ekubukeni kuphela kunganele.
Kungani Ifenisha Izizwa Iphephile Ngisho Noma Ingesiyo
Ifenisha yakhelwe abantu abadala, hhayi abantwana.
Yakhelwe ukubamba isisindo phansi, hhayi ngaphandle. Lapho kudonswa amadrowa, kukhwawa amashalofu, noma kuvulwa iminyango, ifenisha iziphatha ngokuhlukile kunalokho okulindelekile.
Ifenisha eminingi futhi ayigxilile ezindongeni ngokuzenzakalelayo. Ngaphandle kokubopha, ngisho nezinto ezinzima zingagoqeka kalula ngendlela emangalisayo.
Ngoba akukho okubonakala kuphukile noma kungaphephile, abazali bacabanga ukuthi ingozi iphansi.
Lokhu kucabanga yikhona okwenza ifenisha ibe yingozi kakhulu.
Igumbi Lokuphumula Liyindawo Yengozi Enkulu
Igumbi lokuphumula liyinye yezindawo ezivame kakhulu zokulimala okuhlobene nefenisha.
Yilapho imindeni iphumula khona. Lapho ukunakwa kwahlukaniswa khona. Lapho izingane zidlala ngokukhululeka khona.
Amayunithi e-TV, amatafula ekofi, amakhabethe aphansi, kanye namayunithi amashalofu avame ukufinyeleleka kalula. Izingane zikhwasa lapho zinesizungu, zijabule, noma zifuna ukunakwa.
Ama-televishini afaka olunye uhlobo lwengozi. Izikrini ezinkulu ezibekwe ezitendini ezingazinzile zingawa phambili uma zidonswa noma zishaywa.
Ngisho nama-TV asanda kuphuma angabanga ukulimala okukhulu ngenxa yosayizi nobukhulu bawo.
Amakamelo Okulala Awaphephile Njengoba Ezizwa
Amakamelo okulala abantwana ayindawo enye yengozi enkulu.
Amakhabethe, amakhabethe okugqoka, amayunithi okugcina amathoyizi, kanye namashalofu ezincwadi avame ukubekwa ezindongeni ngaphandle kokubopha. Izingane zikhwasa ukuze zifinyelele amathoyizi, izingubo, noma izinjongo ezibangelwa yilukuluku.
Izingozi zasebusuku nazo zivamile. Ukukhanyisa okuphansi, imizimba ekhathele, nokugada okuncane kwandisa ingozi.
Ngoba amakamelo okulala azizwa angawabantu futhi ephephile, ukuhlolwa kokuphepha kuvame ukweqiwa.
Kungani Ukuthuthuka Kwengane Kwandisa Ingozi Ngokuhamba Kwesikhathi
Ukulimala kwefenisha kuvame ukwenzeka ngemuva kokuthuthuka.
Ingane ebingakwazi ukukhuphuka ngesonto eledlule ingakwazi manje. Usana olungazange luvule amadrowa manje seluwakhipha ngalinye ngalinye. Umfundi wasenkulisa uzama ukulinganisa nokuphakama.
Abazali bavame ukubukela phansi ukuthi ikhono lishintsha ngokushesha kangakanani.
Ifenisha ebeyiphephile izinyanga ingaba yingozi cishe ngobusuku obubodwa.
Yingakho ukwenza izinto ziphephe ingane kanye kuphela kungasebenzi.
Kungani Ukubopha Ifenisha Kubaluleke Kakhulu Kunalokho Abazali Abakucabangayo
Ukubopha ifenisha ezindongeni kungenye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokunciphisa ingozi yokugoqeka.
Izibopho zodonga namakhithi okulwa nokugoqeka aklanyelwe ukubamba ifenisha endaweni ngisho nalapho idonswa phambili. Zilula, zithengeka, futhi zivame ukuhlanganiswa nefenisha kodwa zingasetshenziswa.
Abazali abaningi beqa ukubopha ngoba:
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Ifenisha izizwa inzima
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Ayizange ihambe ngaphambili
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Kubonakala kungadingekile
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Ukufaka kubonakala kungelula
Ngeshwa, isisindo kuphela asikuvimbeli ukugoqeka. Eqinisweni, ifenisha enzima ingabanga ukulimala okukhulu lapho iwa.
Amatafula Ekofi Namakhona Abukhali Asabalulekile
Ngenkathi ukugoqeka kubanga ukulimala okukhulu kakhulu, izingozi zefenisha zansuku zonke akufanele zinganakwe.
Amatafula ekofi, amatafula asemaceleni, namayunithi aphansi avame ukuba namakhona abukhali phezulu kwekhanda. Ukuwa kulezi zindawo kuvamile futhi kungabanga ukulimala kobuso, ukulimala kwamazinyo, nokushaqeka.
Ifenisha ethambile ayikuvimbeli ingozi ngokuphelele, ikakhulukazi lapho ihlanganiswa nokukhuphuka noma ukugxuma.
Kungani Ukujwayela Kubanga Ukungenzi Lutho
Enye yezinselele ezinkulu kakhulu ngokuphepha kwefenisha ukujwayela.
Abazali badlula ezintweni ezifanayo nsuku zonke ngaphandle kokubona ingozi. Izingane, nokho, zibona ithuba.
Uma indawo izizwa ijwayeleke kakhulu, abantu abadala bazoba mancane amandla okuba baqaphe.
Izingozi zivame ukwenzeka ngezikhathi ezijwayelekile, hhayi ezixakile.
Indlela Yokunciphisa Ukulimala Okuhlobene Nefenisha Ekhaya
Ukuvimbela okuphumelelayo kugxile emvelweni, hhayi ukuphelela.
Izinyathelo ezibalulekile zifaka:
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Ukubopha yonke ifenisha ende noma enzima ezindongeni
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Ukuvikela ama-TV ngendlela efanele noma ukuwafaka odongeni
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Ukugcina izinto ezinzima emadroweni aphansi
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Ukugwema ukubeka izinto ezikhangayo phezu kwefenisha
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Ukusebenzisa izivikeli zamakhona emaphethelweni abukhali
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Ukuhlolela ukuphepha kwefenisha njalo
Kubalulekile futhi ukubuka ukuthi izingane zisebenzisana kanjani nefenisha lapho zijabule, zikhathele, noma zinesizungu.
Ukufundisa Ukuziphatha Okuphephile Ngaphandle Kokuthembela Kukho
Izingane zingafunda imiqondo eyisisekelo yokuphepha, kodwa imfundo akufanele neze ithathe indawo yezinyathelo zokuphepha ezingokwenyama.
Ukutshela ingane ukuthi ingakhuphuki akuyivimbeli ukuthi izame. Izithiyo ezingokwenyama zinciphisa ingozi lapho ukugada kungasekho.
Umgomo ukuphepha okufakwe ungqimba. Imvelo kanye nokuqwashisa.
Isiphetho Abazali Abadinga Ukusizwa
Ifenisha ayibukeki iyingozi. Yingakho injalo.
Le nto evamile yasendlini ithumela izingane emakamelweni abagulayo kakhulu kunalokho abazali abaningi abakucabangayo, hhayi ngoba inephutha, kodwa ngoba ibukelwa phansi.
Lapho ukuphepha kwefenisha kuphathwa njengenqubo eqhubekayo kunokuba kube umsebenzi owodwa, amakhaya aphephile ngempela.
Ukuqwashisa, ukubopha, nokuhlolela njalo kubaluleke kakhulu kunokwesaba.
Ngezinye izikhathi izingozi eziyingozi kakhulu yilezo esiyeka ukuzibona.
