Lokhu okuthunyelwe kwezivakashi kubhalwe nguMelanie Hempe, RN, umama wezingane ezine nomsunguli weFamilies Managing Media.
Njengomzali, yini efika engqondweni yakho lapho uzwa igama elithi “iholide”? Ikhefu esimisweni? Ukuxegisa izintambo? Ukuzitika ngemisebenzi ejabulisayo (nokudla!) ubungeke ujwayele ukuhlanganyela?
Enganeni, kusho ukuthi “Umama nobaba abasebenzi futhi bayanginaka.” Kuyiqiniso, izingane zakho zilangazelela isikhathi nawe. Ukuphumula komndeni kuyithuba elicebile lengxoxo, ukudala izinkumbulo, nokuba khona ngempela komunye nomunye. Le yimigomo emihle, kodwa leyo engalahleka kalula uma imidlalo yevidiyo ingena epotimendeni lakho.
Ngaphambi kokuthi ungene kuleyo ndawo yeholide, yehlisa imoto, misa isitulo sakho segumbi lokuphumula bese ucwila encwadini yakho yasehlobo, cishe uzozwa...
“Mama, ngingawudlala umdlalo wami wevidiyo?”
"Baba, ngingayithola iphasiwedi ye-WiFi?"
“Mama, thina (bonke abazala bami) sifuna ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo!”
Sinempendulo elula kuwe.
CHA.
Izizathu Ezingu-9 Zokushiya Imidlalo Yamavidiyo Ekhaya Ngesikhathi Seholide
1. Izingqondo ezisencane zidinga ukuphumula.
Ubuchopho bengane yakho buzozuza ekuphumuleni esimisweni sesikrini. Iholide isikhathi esibalulekile sokuthi izingane zizame izinto ezintsha, zivakashele nomndeni, ziphumule, zihlele kabusha futhi zinikeze ingqondo imvume yokuxhumana nemvelo, impilo yangempela, nabantu bangempela esikhundleni sokulungisa umhlaba obonakalayo wegeyimu yabo. Khumbula, umdlalo akuwona umsebenzi "wokuphumula" wobuchopho; kunalokho iqala ukukhiqiza i-dopamine futhi ivule imbangela yesikhungo sokulwa-noma-indiza ukukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka nokucasuka—hhayi izici abazali ngokuvamile abafuna ukuzibona ezinganeni zabo lapho bevakashile.
2. Amaholide yithuba elivuthiwe lokujulisa izibopho zomndeni kanye nokwakha amakhono okuxhumana nabantu.
Ungaphambanisi elinye lamathuba akho angcono kakhulu okuxhumana njengomndeni ngenxa yemidlalo yevidiyo! Ingane yakho ayikwazi ukusondelana nawe noma izingane zakubo ngenkathi ixhunywe kugeyimu yevidiyo—ngisho noma kuyigeyimu yevidiyo edlalwa wonke umuntu ndawonye. Imisebenzi yomndeni engenasikrini ivumela ukuzwana ubuhlakani, ukuthintana kwamehlo, kanye nokuxhumana okuhlanganisa ukubuka nokuhumusha isimo sobuso, ulimi lomzimba kanye nephimbo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi imidlalo yevidiyo yakhe amakhono anjalo.
3. Iholide lamahhala lisusa isilingo “somzanyana osebenza ngogesi”.
Siyazi ukuthi kulinga kangakanani ukusebenzisa isikrini njengomzanyana ozenzakalelayo lapho okufunayo kunguwe wehla kancane. Zama ukuba nesikhathi esithulile nawo wonke umuntu ngaphandle kusukela ngo-2-4pm. Ngaleso sikhathi sosuku wonke umuntu udinga ukuphumula kuhlanganise nabantu abadala. Thatha okuthile okupholile ozokuphuza—zama ukuhlela isiphuzo esihlukile esijabulisayo sosuku ngalunye—bese uya endlini yakho yokulala “nokufundwa kolwandle” noma imagazini elethelwe le njongo ngokukhethekile. Ukusebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukufundisa izingane zakho ukuthi zingahlala kanjani zodwa ngaphandle kwesikrini ezandleni zazo kungenye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu ongazenzela izingane zakho. Abazithandi izincwadi namaphazili? Melana nesifiso sokubavumela bavule i-YouTube noma i-TV ngalesi sikhathi sokuphumula. Bafundise ukuthi bangadlala kanjani i-solitaire kunalokho. Uma belala kulungile, futhi! Imicimbi yasebusuku ingase ibe lula ukuyiphatha ngesikhathi esithile sokuphumula phakathi nosuku.
4. Ukukhawulela isikhathi segeyimu eholidini kuvula umnyango wokusungula nokuhlola.
Siyazi ukuthi isikhathi segeyimu ngokuvamile siyisinqumo sokuqala sengane uma kuziwa ekuzijabuliseni ngenxa yokuthi siwumzamo omncane, umsebenzi onomvuzo omkhulu. Futhi ngenxa yemvelo yokulutha yemidlalo yevidiyo, izingane cishe zizokhetha ukuhlala egumbini eline-air conditioning nesikrini sazo esikhundleni sokuhlangana nabangane abasha, ukumba izinkalankala, ukudoba noma ukuhamba ngalolo hambo lomndeni noma ukugibela ibhayisikili. Nikeza ingane yakho noma osemusha isipho sesikhathi esingahlelekile ngokungavumeli imidlalo yevidiyo ukuthi ize eholidini lakho. Uma imidlalo ingatholakali, bazothola ezinye izinto abangazenza futhi bazihlole. Cabangela ukubatholela incwadi entsha yokubhalela noma i-sketch pad yohambo ukuze ugcine incwadi yezokuvakasha. Uma befuna ukuthatha izithombe, cabangela enye yamakhamera amasha e-Instax Mini; Izingane zingathatha izithombe zezinto ezizijabulisa futhi zizinamathisele encwadini yazo. Ngeke bakhathazeke kangako ngokuthumela lokho kushona kwelanga okuhle ukuze bonke abangani babo bakubone futhi empeleni bakujabulele ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwesikrini. Khuthaza izingane zakho ukuthi zenze izinqumo zobuciko futhi zigqashule umkhuba wokukhetha isikrini ngaphezu kokuphila okusha.
5. Ingane yakho izothola ukuzivocavoca okwengeziwe kanye novithamini D.
Ngaphandle komdlalo wevidiyo ozoyiphazamisa, ingane yakho izothola ukunyakaza okwengeziwe, ukukhanya kwelanga okwengeziwe, kanye nokudlala kwangempela okumahhadlahhadla nokugingqika—izithako ezibalulekile ekukhuleni kobuchopho ngokugcwele. Esikhundleni sokusongwa kusofa ngengubo nethuluzi, kuthiwani ngokulwa komcamelo, inqaba yengubo, noma umdlalo wokucasha? Umdlali uzophuthelwa imisebenzi yakudala efana nokubamba okhanyikhanyi kanye nomaka wethoshi uma begone igeyimu yabo. Futhi kunemisebenzi eminingi “yokunyakaza” eyenzeka ngokuzenzakalelayo ngesikhathi sokuvakasha umdlali wakho azophuthelwa uma evinjwa izinto zikagesi.
6. Umdlali unqatshelwe ukudala izinkumbulo.
Imidlalo yamageyimu isusa ingane emphakathini, ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba ekuhlanganyeleni nasekuphumuleni nomndeni. Ingane yakho idinga ukufunda indlela yokuphumula ngokukubuka ukwenza. Uma ingane yakho ixhunyiwe, izophuthelwa izinkumbulo eziyigugu ezenzeka ngesikhathi esisodwa nokuphumula. Kuyi-a amahloni ukuphuthelwa yizindaba ogogo nomkhulu ababelana ngazo ngoMama noBaba, amahlaya ahlekisayo kaMalume uKarl, izingxoxo zomndeni ezithakazelisayo neziqinisekisiwe ukuhleka. Ukuhlangabezana nezinto ezintsha ndawonye kwenza isikhathi seholide sibe mnandi, singabizi, sikhumbuleke, futhi sibe nempilo.
7. Ingane yakho idinga ukuzwa uthando.
Bazali, ingane yenu izozizwa ithandwa kakhulu ngaphandle kwezinto zikagesi. Ngithembe kulokhu. Uma uthi “cha” emidlalweni yamavidiyo uma useholidini, usuke utshela ingane yakho ukuthi ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi nayo, uyayithanda futhi awufuni kube khona okuzophazamisa isikhathi ndawonye. Akunandaba ukuthi basabela kanjani. Ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, ufuna ukuthi umkhethe esikhundleni sokupakisha umdlalo. Ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, uzojabula ngokuthi ushiye amadivayisi ekhaya. Ngempela, izingane eziningi ziyazi ezingeni elithile ukuthi zidinga ikhefu.
8. Uzokwazi kangcono ingane yakho.
Ubani owaziyo ukuthi yini ongayithola ngengane yakho uma igeyimu ingamphazamisi. Ngaphandle komdlalo ngendlela, uzoba namathuba amaningi okumba ujule futhi wazi kahle ingane yakho.
9. Amaholide ayindawo evundile yokufunda ubuciko bokuhlela.
Izimpilo eziningi zezingane zihlelwa futhi zethulwe kuzo. Izingane eziningi azidali ezazo ezokuzijabulisa, kodwa ziphakelwa zona. Nsuku zonke ohambweni kunezinqumo okufanele zenziwe mayelana nokuthi yimiphi imisebenzi okufanele yenziwe ngalolo suku, ngokusekelwe esimweni sezulu, izindleko, izinga lenzalo, njll. Bazotshalwa imali eningi ohambweni uma beye basiza ekuhleleni. Abakwazi ukusiza ngokuhlela uma "isikhathi sabo sokuphumula" siphambi kwesikrini futhi bahlanganyela kuphela phakathi nemisebenzi ehleliwe esemthethweni. Iholide lihlanganisa yonke into: uhlelo, uhambo, indawo kanye nemisebenzi, ukudla, izindaba, ukuxoxwa kabusha kwezindaba, ngisho nomugqa wokulinda! Konke kwakha ubudlelwano, amakhono empilo, ukubekezela, nezindaba ezihlekisayo eziba yindaba yomndeni. Imidiya ingangena esikhundleni sethuba lokuthuthukisa izindaba zomndeni wakho.
Ingabe uzizwa unovalo ngoqhekeko olungase lubangelwe yisinqumo sakho? Nawa amathiphu okunciphisa ukungqubuzana:
Amathiphu Wokuvakasha Wamahhala
Ungapakishi ikhonsoli yegeyimu.
Ungapakishi noma yiziphi izinto eziphathwayo futhi ungabavumeli ukuthi baphathe amafoni abo. Abazidingi. Inzuzo eyinhloko yokungapakishi idivayisi akukhona ukukhawulela ukusetshenziswa kwayo ngesikhathi seholide nokuqeda isilingo sonke. Izingane zizoxoxisana ukuze zisetshenziswe uma zicabanga ukuthi kukhona ukutholakala. Awufuni nakancane ukuphatha lokhu eholidini njengoba ufuna wonke amandla akho ungene kubumnandi bomndeni. Udinga ikhefu ezimpikiswaneni zegeyimu, futhi!
Ungavumeli ukudlala emotweni.
Kuhle ukuthi izingane zakho zifunde izingoma ezingenangqondo ndawonye (yebo, nakuba kungase kukuhlanyise). Lokhu kuyadingeka ebuntwaneni umkhuba wokudlula! Futhi, uma uvumela ukudlala emotweni, lokho kusho ukuthi udlala imidlalo ngesikhathi sokuphumula. Vumela uJohn Jacob Jingleheimer Schmidt, umdlalo wepuleti lelayisense, kanye ne-I Spy bathathe indawo yomdlalo wabo ngesikhathi sokushayela. Omunye umqondo uwukwazisa izingane zakho ukuthi zizothola “amaphakeji amangalisayo” ambalwa ukuze ziwavule ezindaweni ezithile ohambweni (isb, elokuqala lingaba ngemva kwehora noma amamayela ayi-100). Kungaba amathoyizi amancane noma imidlalo “emisha” kubo. Lokhu ngeke nje kubanike okuthile okujabulisayo ongakwenza emotweni, kuzonikeza izingane zakho okuthile okufanele zikubheke ngabomvu! Ngaphezu kwalokho, phatha izincwadi, amabhuku alalelwayo, incwadi edwetshiwe, namakhadi okudlala, futhi uvule isikhathi esithile sokuthula emotweni. Izingane zakho akudingeki zixhunywe umzuzwana ngamunye wohambo (noma ukuphila kwazo).
Yima uqine lapho ingane yakho ikhononda .
Lapho ekhononda kakhulu, kuba nezinkinga ezengeziwe zokusebenzisa ngokweqile. Uma ethi umdlalo wakhe ukuphela kwendlela angakhululeka ngayo, chaza ukuthi udinga ukufunda ukuphumula ngezinye izindlela ngoba imidlalo ikhulula amakhemikhali (i-adrenaline ne-dopamine) ebuchosheni bakhe futhi ingqondo yakhe idinga ukuphumula.
Kafushane, asikho ngempela isikhala semidlalo yevidiyo ngesikhathi sokuvakasha komndeni. Cabanga ngakho njengokubeka i-ketchup eshibhile kufayela elibizayo. Uma uzovumela ukudlala, ingane yakho ingase futhi ihlale ekhaya (futhi idle i-hamburger!) Kungenjalo, umosha imali yakho ngesipiliyoni seholide. Vumela ingane yakho ukuthi ifunde ukubhukuda olwandle, izinhlanzi, indawo yokubuka kanye nokuqwala izintaba! Siza ingane yakho ukuthi ibe khona ngo-100% futhi ikwazi ukwenza ukuxhumana okunempilo nomndeni nemvelo eholidini lakho kuleli hlobo.
umthombo: https://www.psychologytoday.com/
