Umyelana Okwenza Impilo Ibe Nzima Kakhulu

The Parenting Habit That Is Making Life Harder

Iningi labazali lenza konke okusemandleni alo. Bafunda, bacwaninga, bakhathazeka, bahlele, futhi bazama ukuphendula ngokucabangayo. Lapho okuthile kungahambi kahle ngengane, umzwelo wokungenelela ngokushesha nokukwenza kube ngcono. Lo mzwelo uvela othandweni. Futhi uvela ekucindezelweni ukuthi wenze ubuzali ngendlela efanele.

Okuhlekisayo ukuthi, umkhuba owodwa ohloselwe ukwenza okuhle uvame ukwenza impilo yomndeni ibe nzima kakhulu kunokuba ibe lula. Kwandisa ukucindezeleka, kubhebhethekisa izimpi zamandla, futhi kushiya abazali bezizwa bejwayele ukucindezeleka. Umkhuba akukhona ukuntuleka kwesiyalo noma isikhathi esiningi sesikrini. Umkhuba wokulungisa njalo.

Ukuthi "Ukulungisa Okungapheli" Kubukeka Kanjani Ekukhuliseni Kwansuku Zonke

Ukulungisa okungapheli kwenzeka lapho abantu abadala bezizwa benesibopho sokulungisa ngokushesha imizwa, ukuziphatha, noma ukungakhululeki.

Kubonakala njengokuphuthuma ukuxazulula yonke inkinga, ukuchaza imizwa, ukuxoxisana ngazo zonke izinto, ukulungisa ukuziphatha ngesikhathi sangempela, nokuzama ukugcina konke kuthule futhi kubushelelezi nganoma yiziphi izindleko.

Abazali balungisa usizi ngokuphazamisa, balungisa ukukhungatheka ngokungenelela, balungisa isithukuthezi ngokujabulisa, futhi balungisa ingxabano ngokulamula ngokushesha. Inhloso ukunakekela. Umthelela ukugcwala komsebenzi.

Kungani Ukulungisa Okungapheli Kubonakala Kubalulekile

Abazali abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuba umzali omuhle kusho ukuvimbela ukucindezeleka. Izingane kufanele zijabule, zilawuleke, zisebenzisane, futhi zithuthuke.

Ukucindezela komphakathi kuqinisa le nkolelo. Abazali bazungezwe izeluleko ezibonisa ukuthi isikhathi ngasinye esinokushintsha kwemizwa sidinga isiqondiso, ukucabanga, noma ukufundiswa.

Lokhu kudala umthetho ongashiwongo: uma ingane ikhathazekile, umzali uhlulekile ngaphandle kokuba angenelele ngokushesha.

Ukuthi Ukulungisa Okungapheli Kuwuthinta Kanjani Uhlelo Lwezinzwa

Lapho abazali bephuthuma ukulungisa konke, izingane azitholi ithuba lokuqedela imijikelezo yokucindezeleka ngokwazo.

Uhlelo lwezinzwa ludinga ukuzwa ukungakhululeki nokululama. Ukulungisa okungapheli kuphazamisa le nqubo.

Izingane zihlala zixhomeke ekulawulweni kwangaphandle esikhundleni sokwakha ukulawula kwangaphakathi. Abantu abadala bahlala beqaphile njalo, befuna into elandelayo abazoyiphatha.

Wonke umuntu ukhathazekile.

Kungani Ukulungisa Okungapheli Kwandisa Izimpi Zokuziphatha

Izingane zifunda ngesipiliyoni. Lapho yonke inselele iphathwa ngazo, azakhi ukubekezela ekukhungathekeni noma ukuzethemba ekuxazululeni izinkinga.

Ubunzima obuncane buqala ukuzwakala bungaphezu kwamandla ngoba izingane azikaze zizijwayeze ukubhekana nabo.

Ukuziphatha kuyashintsha hhayi ngoba izingane ziyakhohlisa, kodwa ngoba azinazo izithuba zokuzilawula ngokwazo.

Izindleko Zomzwelo Kubazali

Ukulungisa okungapheli kugcina abazali esimweni sokuba nesibopho esiningi. Akukho ukuphumula, ngisho nangesikhathi sokuthula.

Abazali bazizwa benecala ngokuphumula futhi bekhathazekile lapho bengangeneleli. Ukukhathala kuba yinto evamile.

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, intukuthelo ingangena, nakuba abazali bezithanda kakhulu izingane zabo.

Kungani Ukulungisa Imizwa Kubuya Nomthelela Omubi

Imizwa akuyona izinkinga okumele zixazululwe. Yizinto eziza futhi zihambe.

Lapho abantu abadala bephuthuma ukuthulisa noma ukuchaza imizwa, izingane zifunda ukuthi imizwa ayikhululekile noma ayemukelekile.

Lokhu kuvame ukuholela ekuphenduleni okukhulu komzwelo kamuva, ngoba imizwa ayikaze icutshungulwe ngokugcwele.

Ukuvumela imizwa ukuba ibekhona kuvame ukulawula kakhulu kunokuzama ukuyisusa.

Umehluko Phakathi Kokusekela Nokulungisa

Ukusekela kusho ukuba khona, ukutholakala, nokuthula ngaphandle kokungena esikhundleni.

Ukulungisa kusho ukungenelela ukulawula umphumela, ukusheshisa ukululama, noma ukuvimbela ukungakhululeki.

Izingane ziyazuza kakhulu ngokuba khona kunangezixazululo.

Umuntu omdala ozolile eduze kuvame ukuba yikho konke okudingekayo ukuze kulawulwe.

Kungani Ukuphumula Kuzwakala Kunzima Kangaka

Ukuphumula kungazwakala njengokunganakwa, ikakhulukazi kubazali abanesineke.

Kuvusa ukwesaba ukuthi izingane zizohlupheka kakhulu, zisele ngemuva, noma zingazwakalelwa ukwesekwa.

Empeleni, ukuphumula ngendlela efanele kwakha ukuqina, ukuzethemba, namandla emizwa.

Kuvumela izingane ukuba zifunde ukuthi zingabhekana nakho.

Okushintshayo Lapho Abazali Belungisa Kancane

Lapho abazali belungisa kancane, izingane zikhathazeka kancane ekuqaleni.

Bese kwenzeka okubalulekile. Izingane ziqala ukuzama, ukuzivumelanisa nezimo, nokululama.

Ukuzethemba kuyakhula. Ukushuba kwemizwa kuyancipha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Abazali bazizwa bengenaso isibopho esincane sokuphatha zonke izikhathi.

Impilo yomndeni iba lula.

Ukuthi Ukulungisa Okungapheli Kubonakala Kanjani Emindenini Emincane

Emakhaya aminyene, ukulungisa okungapheli kukhuliswa ukucindezela kwesikhathi nokukhathala.

Abazali bayangenelela ngokushesha ngoba alikho ithuba lezinqubo ezinensayo.

Lokhu kudala umjikelezo lapho isivinini sithatha indawo yokulawula khona futhi ukuphuthuma kuthatha indawo yokuxhumana.

Ukuhamba kancane kuphula lo mjikelezo.

Umthelela Wezempilo Wokulungisa Okungapheli

Ukucindezeleka okungapheli kuthinta ukulala, ukungavikeleki, ukugaya, nokuphila kahle ngokomzwelo.

Imindeni ebambekile esimweni sokulungisa njalo ihlala ibhekana nokungezwani okuqhubekayo, ukugula njalo, nokukhathala.

Ukunciphisa ukulungisa kunciphisa ukucindezela. Impilo ivame ukuthuthuka ngenxa yalokho.

Okumele Ukwenze Esikhundleni Sokulungisa

Phumula ngaphambi kokungenelela. Qaphela ukuthi isimo asiphephile noma asikhululekile yini.

Nikeza ukuba khona esikhundleni sezixazululo. Hlala eduze. Gcina izwi lakho lizolile.

Vumela izingane isikhathi sokubhekana nemizwa noma izinselele ngaphambi kokungenelela.

Ngena esikhundleni lapho kudingeka khona ukwesekwa ngempela.

Okufundwa Izingane Lapho Abazali Beyeka Ukulungisa Konke

Izingane zifunda ukuthi imizwa ingaphathwa, amaphutha ayingxenye yokufunda, nezinkinga zingaxazululwa.

Zakha ukwethemba kuzo esikhundleni sokuxhomeka kubantu abadala.

Lokhu kwethembana kusekela ukulawula imizwa, ukuqina, nokuzethemba.

Lapho Ukulungisa Kusadingeka

Ezinye izimo zidinga ukungenelela kwabantu abadala. Ukuphepha, imingcele, nokwesekwa kusabalulekile.

Umgomo akukhona ukungasizi, kodwa ukusiza ngamabomu kunokuba ngaphandle kokucabanga.

Ukunciphisa ukulungisa akusho ukunciphisa ukunakekela. Kusho ukwethemba okwengeziwe.

Ukuthi Lo Mkhuba Ushintsha Kanjani Ukusebenzisana Komndeni

Lapho ukulungisa okungapheli kuncipha, izimpi zamandla ziyancipha.

Izingane zizizwa zingalawulwa kangako. Abazali bazizwa bengenaso isibopho esincane ngazo zonke izinguquko zemizwa.

Ukuxhumana kuyathuthuka ngoba ukucindezela kuyehla.

Impilo yomndeni iba nokusebenzisana kakhulu futhi ayikhathazi kangako.

Kungani Lokhu Kubaluleke Kakhulu Namuhla

Izingane zesimanje zihlala zinamazinga aphezulu okukhuthazwa nokulindelwe.

Zidinga amathuba amaningi okuzijwayeza ukulawula, hhayi ukuphathwa okwengeziwe.

Ukunciphisa ukulungisa okungapheli kunikeza izingane lokho ezikudinga kakhulu: indawo yokukhula.

Imibuzo Ebuzwa Njalo Mayelana Nomkhuba Wokukhulisa Osenza Impilo Ibe Nzima Kakhulu

Kungani ukulungisa okungapheli kwandisa ukucindezeleka?

Ngoba kugcina abazali nezingane esimweni sokuba qaphile, kuvimbela ukulawula nokululama kwemvelo.

Ingabe ukuphumula kuyafana nokunganaki izingane?

Cha. Ukuphumula kusho ukuhlala ukhona ngaphandle kokungena esikhundleni.

Ingabe ingane yami izohlupheka kakhulu uma ngilungisa kancane?

Ngokufushane, yebo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, zakha amakhono okuphatha izinto ezinzima nokuqina.

Kuthiwani uma imizwa yengane yami iba yimbi?

Hlala uzolile futhi ukhona. Ukuba kubi kwemizwa kuvame ukudlula lapho izingane zingaphuthunyiswa ukuthula.

Ngiwazi kanjani isikhathi sokungenelela?

Ngena esikhundleni ukuze uphephe, hhayi ukungakhululeki. Izikhathi eziningi zemizwa azidingi ukulungiswa.

Ingabe lokhu kusebenza kuzo zonke izindlela?

Yebo. Ifomu liyashintsha, kodwa isimiso sisebenza kusukela ebuntwaneni kuya ekukhuleni.

Umkhuba wokukhulisa owenza impilo ibe nzima kakhulu akukona ukuntuleka komzamo. Umzamo omkhulu kakhulu endaweni engafanele. Ukulungisa okungapheli kugcina imindeni icindezelekile, ikhathele, futhi iphendula. Lapho abazali besuka ekulungiseni baye ekusekeleni, kwenzeka okunamandla. Izingane zifunda ukuthi zingabhekana nakho. Abazali bayaphefumula futhi. Impilo yomndeni iba nezolile hhayi ngoba izinkinga ziyanyamalala, kodwa ngoba wonke umuntu uvunyelwe isikhala sokubhekana nazo.

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