Ibhulogi yakamuva Ingabe izinto ziyashintsha zibe ngcono/futhi ngesilinganiso esifanele? isilungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/are-things-changing-for-the-better-and-at-the-correct-rate/
Enye yezingoma engizikhonzile ithi “Ngibambelele enganekwaneni. Siya phambili kodwa asikafiki.” Ushintsho alunakugwenywa. Izimo zengqondo ziyashintsha. Ukucwaswa kuphonselwa inselelo. Kunezinsuku lapho ngibonga khona ngokuphila esikhathini esikuso. Nakuba izinto zingase zingahambi kahle, futhi kuhlale kunendlela ende okufanele ihanjwe, izinto ziba ngcono ngezindlela eziningi. Ngiyabonga ngokukhula okuqhubekayo kwezinsiza zokushintshela njengesibonelo. Okuningi kwalokhu okutholakalayo kukhombisa ukuvuma nesivumelwano sokuthi abantu abakhubazekile bafanelwe amalungelo afanayo okuya endlini yangasese njengawo wonke umuntu futhi bakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle isikhathi eside. Ngibonga amabhizinisi amaningi manje ahlanganisa izimpawu ze-PODD/PECs kumamenyu awo kanye namanye amaphepha ukuze labo abaxhumana ngaphandle kokukhuluma babe nezwi. Ngibonga kakhulu amapaki ambalwa akhona aqinisekisa ukuthi kukhona okuthile kwawo wonke umuntu onekhono angakujabulela. Ngiyaqaphela ukuthi emashumini eminyaka kuphela adlule, ingane enokukhubazeka okuncane kunoka-Amy, yayingakhuthazwa ukuba ikhuliswe ekhaya labantu abayizithulu (noma ngenye indlela isikhungo). Ngeke ngijule kukho ukuze ngingangeni enkingeni ekhona, kodwa ngingasho ukuthi inqubekelaphambili isiyenziwe. Ukuphathwa kwabantu abakhubazekile ngokomlando bekuyinto embi kakhulu. Nanamuhla ngiyazazi izinto ezenzekayo okungafanele. Kuyangethusa ngokweqiniso futhi kungenza ngilale ebusuku. Ngihlale ngibonga kuwo wonke umuntu okhona oke wakhankasela izinguquko. Ukhankasele amalungelo. Akufanele badinge, kodwa ngiyajabula ngokuthi benza kanjalo. Kulula kakhulu ukucwasa nokwenza noma yiluphi uhlobo lwedlanzana lube sengcupheni kodwa nginomuzwa wokuthi ngokuvamile kuyayanda, mhlawumbe ekufikeni kwezinkundla zokuxhumana kanye nokuqwashisa ... ukuthi abantu abaningi banikezwa inkundla yokwenza ushintsho. Naphezu kwakho konke lokhu kubonga, kusangizwisa ubuhlungu ukuthi ubandlululo lukhona futhi luyohlala lukhona. Imindeni efana neyethu iphila ngaphansi kosongo oluqhubekayo lokuthi izinkonzo ezibalulekile zizosuswa, uxhaso luhoxiswa, izinguquko ezinzuzweni nokunye. Sesivele siphila usuku nosuku nokungaqiniseki kwezempilo komuntu esimnakekelayo. Senza njalo izinqumo cishe zansuku zonke ezingase ziguqule impilo. Kubukeka sengathi ngiyanyakaza njengamanje kusukela “umhlaba usuqala ukuqonda… izinto ziba ngcono” kuye lapho ngiwela esimweni sokukholelwa ukuthi ukhona kanye nokwesaba isimo somhlaba. Ngiyazi ukuthi akuyona nje imindeni efana neyethu ezizwayo. Ubhadane nezinye izenzakalo zomhlaba ziye zabangela abaningi bethu ukuba bacabange ngobubi nakakhulu ukuthi ngabe kunjani ekuphileni. Ngichithe isikhathi esiningi enyangeni edlule nginobuhlungu benhliziyo ngenxa yesimo sase-Ukraine. Ngiyazibuza ukuthi umkhaya ofana nowethu ungaphila kanjani emhlabeni uma ubhekene nesimo esifanayo. Uhambo oluya esuphamakethe lwanele kuwumsebenzi ohlelwe kahle, ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukubalekela ukwesaba ezweni lakithi. Ngicabanga ukuthi konke kumayelana nombono. Muva nje saziswe ukuthi idolobha lethu ekugcineni selithole izinsiza zeChanging Places. Angikwazi ukusho okwanele mayelana nokuthi lokhu kuzoziguqula kangakanani izinsuku zethu. Nokho-ke uhlangothi olubi kulokhu ukuthi uma lezo zikhungo zivaliwe ngenxa yezinkinga zokulungisa njll, kuba sengathi umhlabathi ongaphansi kwami uphahlazekile. Kunzima uma uhlela usuku ngokucophelela futhi ulandisa ngakho konke okwenzekayo bese ubhekana nophawu olushaqisayo olungasebenzi. Kwenzeke kithi ngesonto eledlule esibhedlela sasedolobheni. Bengilokhu ngizama ukuthola isampula yomchamo ku-Amy amahora ambalwa futhi kudingeke ukuba ngimsuse esihlalweni ngimyise ebhentshini izikhathi eziningana. Siyisonto kusukela ngalolo suku futhi ngenxa yokuphuka kwe-hoist ephukile iqolo lami lisathambile kusukela ngalolo suku. Ngezindlela eziningi ngingathi eminyakeni yami engu-8 ngingumama ka-Amy, izinto sezishintshile zaba ngcono. Kodwa-ke, lapho siphuma futhi sifinyelela emphakathini kungiphatha kabi kakhulu ukuthi kusenezitolo eziningi namakhefi njll esingakwazi ukungena ngenxa yezinyathelo. Ngiyazi emabhilidini amaningi kungase kungenzeki nganoma yisiphi isizathu, kodwa kusadumaza kakhulu. Ukungakwazi ukufinyelela kubangela imizwa yokuthi “asikho lapha”, “asifunwa”, “asisakaze sicatshangelwe ngakho”. Akuyona indlela enhle yokwehla futhi kusobala ukuthi ngingajwayele ukuzwela ngokweqile. Ngifuna nje ukuphila emhlabeni lapho wonke umuntu enempatho efanele namathuba. Lapho kucatshangelwa khona ukuqinisekisa ukuthi okuthile kuyafinyeleleka futhi kuyabandakanya. Angifuni ukuchitha impilo yami njalo ngizibuza ukuthi “sizongena ngalowo mnyango?” "Sizokwenzenjani uma singeke sikwazi ukumshintsha lapho?" njalo njalo. Okunye okungikhathazayo yizimo zengqondo zabantu. Uma u-Amy enomsindo futhi enezinkinga zezinzwa/izinselele zokuziphatha, ngifuna ukuthi abantu baqonde futhi bamukele. Ngiyazi ukuthi ayilungile kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo angifuni ukuba novalo ngokusabela kwabanye abantu. Ngifisa ukuthi kube nomqondo ophusile. Uma endaweni ethile "kusengumzali oyedwa kuphela" ngenxa yalolu bhubhane - yenza okuhlukile kumuntu odinga abanakekeli ababili! Lokhu akuceli "ukwelashwa okukhethekile", kimina lokhu kuwumqondo ojwayelekile. Vumela abantu bathole abakudingayo ukuze baphile futhi baphumelele. Zibuze ukuthi ukube ubusezicathulweni zami ubuzokwazi yini ukwenza konke lokho ngokuthi Ucabangani? Ingabe izinto ziyashintsha zibe ngcono noma zibe zimbi? Yiziphi izinguquko ongathanda ukuzibona? Okuthunyelwe Ingabe izinto ziyashintsha zibe ngcono/futhi ngezinga elifanele? ivele kuqala ku-Firefly Blog. ************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -support/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/disabilities/
