Ibhulogi yakamuva ethi Ungangiqali Ngezwi elithi “Just” isilungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/dont-get-me-started-on-the-word-just / “Ngiyabona indodana yakho ayihambi. O, uzokhula kulokho! Mgcine nje ezilolonga, uzofika lapho!” “Asikho isidingo sokuthi umdlise, usekhule ngokwanele ukuzenzela. Vele umnikeze isipuni, uzoqonda." “Uma uqhubeka umenzela izinto, akasoze afunda. Vele umyeke ehluleke ezintweni, futhi uzofunda ukuzivumelanisa nezimo.” Uyakuzwa ukububula kwami okukhungathekile ngesikrini? Sonke sike saba lapha, sabhekana nomuntu esingamazi onenhloso enhle (noma ilungu lomndeni) ofuna nje ukusinika iseluleko esihle kakhulu sokukhulisa izingane. Kwesinye isikhathi ungazibona zisuka kude nekhilomitha. Esitolo, bavala amehlo nawe, bamomotheka futhi, ngesizathu esithile, bakwenzele wena kanye nezidingo zakho ezengeziwe zengane. Uziqinise, ngethemba lokuthi bazokhuluma into enhle kodwa abangakululeki. Uma unjengami, lelo themba livame ukushabalala. Manje, ngizama ukuba ngumuntu olinganiselwe. Ngizama kanzima ukubona isisusa sezenzo zomuntu futhi ngiphendule ngokufanele. Kodwa ngiyavuma, lapho ngithola iseluleko engasicelanga ngendodana yami, isineke sami siba sincane kakhulu, ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukube nje izeluleko esizinikwayo bezilula ukuthi indodana yami izifeze. Noma kulula ukufeza. Noma kuhambisana. Noma… uthola umbono. Kungani kungikhathaza kangaka? Ukuphawula kwalaba bantu abanezisusa ezinhle, kusiphazamisa isikhathi izingane zethu ezisifaka ekufundeni ukwenza izinto. Kunciphisa ukuthi "nje" wenze lokhu noma lokhuya. Ezinganeni zethu, akukho nje ukucosha isipuni; noma baphakamise amakhanda abo, noma nje ukuxhumana nontanga, noma nje ukukhuluma ngemicabango yabo. Le misebenzi idinga isineke esikhulu, ukuzimisela ngokomzimba, namandla angokomzwelo. Kuyinhlamba ukuthi lokhu kubekwe esitatimendeni “esilungile”. Kuyinhlamba enganeni yami, futhi kuyangicasula. Imibono ngiyayazisa Uyazi ukuthi umbono kabani engibheka emuva ngibone ukubaluleka kwawo? Udokotela wokuqala wezinzwa owelapha indodana yami inezinsuku ezimbalwa ubudala. Lowo dokotela wezinzwa wabheka i-MRI yendodana yami futhi wayibheka ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Wangitshela, ngokungangabazeki, ukuthi indodana yami izoba nokubambezeleka okukhulu kwentuthuko. Impela, ngaleso sikhathi ngangingazi ukuthi lelo gama lingakanani. Kodwa manje sengiyabona ukuthi ukukhuluma kukadokotela okucacile nokuqondile ngalokho okwakulindelwe kwangivumela ukuba ngizilungiselele. Ukube uthe, “Indodana yakho izoba nokubambezeleka kokukhula,” ukulindela bekuyoba okuhluke ngokuphelele. Lelo gama elilula - nje - lisho ukuthi izinselele zinganqotshwa kalula. Ukuphatha okulindelekile Njengoba kunje, ngizama ukungalindeli amakhono endodana yami noma intshisekelo yayo ekuqedeni imisebenzi. Yebo, ngicabanga ukuthi indodana yami ingenza izinto eziningi ethanda ukuzenza. Uzimisele, unesifiso esinamandla, uyazivumelanisa nezimo, futhi uvulekele ukufunda. Uhlakaniphile futhi angaba nenkani ekwenzeni izinto yedwa. Lezi zonke izimfanelo ezinhle, futhi ngizigubha eduze kwakhe nsuku zonke. Akasoze abe yingane nje okufanele ngabe yenza u-x noma y kule minyaka. Ungaphezu kwalokho. Okuthunyelwe Ungangiqali Egameni elithi “Vele” kuvele kuqala ku-Firefly Blog. ************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/
