Ibhulogi yakamuva Izindlela ezinhlanu zokusekela Izidingo Ezengeziwe izelamani, iqembu elinganakwa selilungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/five-ways-to-support-additional-needs-siblings-an- iqembu elinganakiwe/Le ndatshana ibhalwe yindodakazi kaMark Arnold, uPhoebe, owabelana ngolwazi lwayo lokukhula njengengane yakubo enezidingo ezengeziwe kumfowabo, uJames, kanye nokusinikeza isifundo sonke…Ekukhuleni kwami angivamile ukubona umndeni ofana nowami; kusukela ngisemncane ngangingumnakekeli womfowethu omncane, uJames, owatholakala ene-Autistic kanye Nezinkinga Zokufunda lapho eneminyaka engu-2 ½ mina ngineminyaka emihlanu.Ngesikhathi ngisemusha, uJames wayengasakhulumi futhi edinga ukunakekelwa ubusuku nemini.Njengomuntu osemusha lokhu 'kwakuyinto evamile' kimi, nokho, kwafika nezinselele zako njengoba ngihamba iminyaka yami yobusha nomfowethu okhubazekile.Lesi sihloko sabelana ngezindlela ezinhlanu abantu abangabazali, abanakekela, noma abasebenza nabo, izingane kanye nentsha abangasiza ngazo ekusekeleni izingane zakubo nentsha enezidingo ezengeziwe.1. QaphelaUkukhulisa ubuhlobo obuhle nomuntu osemusha kusiza ekugcineni ukukhulumisana okuwusizo kuvulekile.Ukukhuthaza lokhu kuvumela izingane zakini nabazali ukuba baxoxisane uma kukhona okwenzekile phakathi nesonto, noma ngobusuku bangaphambi kwalokho, futhi abazali bangase babheke noma yiziphi izinguquko ezingase zibe khona zokuziphatha noma uma osemusha 'engekho nhlobo'.Abantu abasha abasemkhayeni onezingane zakini ezinezidingo ezengeziwe banethuba elikhulayo lokuba nobunzima ngempilo yabo yengqondo ngenxa yempilo yabo yasekhaya eqinile.Abazali kanye nentsha bangasebenzisana ekuqondeni ukuthi yini engasebenza kangcono ukubasekela kahle (bheka: 4. 'Nikeza Ukusekela' kamuva, isibonelo).2. KhuthazaKubalulekile ukukhuthaza izingane zakini kanye nabantu abasha abanezidingo ezengeziwe ukuthi bacabange ngendlela abasabela ngayo ezimweni. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuvuma ukuthi bangase bakhungatheke ngengane yakubo, kodwa bese bebakhuthaza ukuba babonise ukubekezela nomusa.Ngezinye izikhathi umkhaya ubeka ingane yawo kuqala izidingo ezengeziwe ngenxa yezidingo zayo ezibalulekile, okungase kuholele ekutheni izingane zakubo zinganakwa abazali.Imiphumela yalokhu ingavela ngezindlela ezahlukene, njengokubheka ukunakwa okwengeziwe futhi mhlawumbe okungafanelekile kwenye indawo noma ukuba nezinkinga zokulawula.Indlela yokuphatha lokhu ukunikeza isikhuthazo nokunaka okufanele kanye nokuqonda ukuthi uma kunokuqubuka kokuziphatha kusho ukuthi ngokuvamile kunembangela efana nokuthile okwenzekayo mayelana nezingane zakubo, noma ukuthi zizizwa zinganakiwe.3. LalelaUma utshela othile ingane yakubo enezidingo ezengeziwe, abantu abasha bangaphatheka kabi, futhi abazali nabanakekeli bangase bangazi ukuthi bangasiza kanjani. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukufunda ukuthi umuntu omusha ukhululekile yini ukukhuluma ngengane yakubo nabanye abantu noma cha.Ngokuvamile, ngomuntu osemusha onengane yakini enezidingo ezengeziwe, kungase kube yinto evamile ukukhuluma ngomfowabo noma udadewabo ekhaya, ngakho ukumsiza ukuba aqale le ngxoxo ekhaya nakwezinye izimo kungase kumkhuthaze kakhulu osemusha.Lena ingxoxo ebalulekile okufanele ibe nayo njalo, njengoba inikeza intsha ithuba lokuxoxa ngokuphepha ngendlela ezizwa ngayo.Izelamani zivame ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi azikwazi ukukhuluma nabazali bazo ngezinkinga ezimpilweni zabo ngoba azifuni ukubeka okunye epuletini labazali bazo eligcwele kakade.Ukusiza izingane zakini zazi ukuthi KULUNGILE ukukhuluma, ikakhulukazi ezikhathini ezicindezelayo kubo bobabili nemindeni yabo, kubalulekile.4. Ukusekela okungokoqoboEnye indlela abazali nabanakekeli abangakwazi ngayo ukusekela izingane zakubo zezingane kanye nabantu abasha abanezidingo ezengeziwe iwukuhlonza indawo ephephile lapho bengeza futhi bayisebenzise njengendawo ethule yokwenza isibonelo, ukuqedela umsebenzi wesikole.Lokhu kungaba sendlini yomngane noma yamalungu omndeni, umtapo wolwazi, noma ezinye izikole ezihlinzeka ngamakilabhu omsebenzi wesikole wasekhaya.Kulezi zindawo eziphephile, ukuqonda nokuhlangabezana nezidingo eziyisisekelo zezelamani kubalulekile, njengokweseka umuntu osemusha ngokumnika ukudla okulula uma ephuthelwe ukudla, noma indawo ethule yokuphumula noma yokuphumula.Futhi, kuyasiza ukuqaphela izinsiza ongaqondisa abantu abasha kuzo, njengokwelulekwa, amaqembu ezingane zakini, noma ukunakekelwa kwesikhashana. Lokhu kungenziwa ngokuphumelelayo, ngaphandle kokunyathela ezinzwaneni zabazali, ngokusebenzisana ukuze kuhlangatshezwane nezidingo zomuntu omusha.Kuhle ukuxhuma imindeni nezingane kanye nabantu abasha abanezidingo ezengeziwe ndawonye, ngakho-ke ukudala amathuba emindeni ukuthola lawo manethiwekhi, ukwabelana ngamatiye namakhofi, noma ukudala eminye imisebenzi njengendlela enhle yokondla yonke imindeni yabo, kuhlanganise nezingane zakubo.Inethiwekhi enkulu yokwesekwa yezelamani 'SIBS': www.sibs.org.ukInhlangano esiza ukusetha amanethiwekhi omndeni ezidingo ezengeziwe ithi 'Thatha 5 bese Uxoxa' www.take5andchat.org.uk5. UkuqeqeshwaEkukhuleni kwami ngathola iqembu lentsha yesonto lapho engangingathola khona isikhathi ngingekho ekhaya 'endaweni ephephile', okwasebenza njengekhefu kimi.Phakathi neminyaka yami yobusha, ngathola ithuba lokusebenzela nokuthola ikhefu emisebenzini yami yokunakekela ekhaya lapho ngihambela amaqembu entsha.Amaqembu entsha ayenikeza ukuphumula kumfowethu, kodwa kwakunezikhathi lapho ontanga yami ababenezidingo ezengeziwe behlangabezana nokukhuthazwa kanye nokugcwala kwezinzwa okwakuphumela ekubeni bakhungatheke futhi bacindezeleke.Ulwazi lwami nolwazi lwezidingo ezengeziwe kwasho ukuthi ngigcine nginikeza usekelo kuntanga ngenxa yabaholi bethu bentsha bentula ukuqeqeshwa okwengeziwe ngezidingo.Lokhu kwasusa isici sokuphumula sesonto futhi kwaholela ekubeni ngisuke ekubeni umnakekeli osemusha ekhaya ngibe namathemba afanayo kontanga yami esontweni.Abaholi bentsha abanezinga eliyisisekelo lokuqeqeshwa kwezidingo ezengeziwe benza isiqiniseko sokuthi amaqembu entsha angabandakanya izingane zazo zonke izidingo namakhono.Uma izingane zakini ziseqenjini elilodwa lentsha nomfowabo noma udadewabo onezidingo ezengeziwe, khona-ke ingane yakini ingase ijabule ukusiza ngokusekela nokunakekela kwayo, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi iyofuna ukugxila ekwenzeni izinto zayo siqu.Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umuntu osemusha akayena yedwa onesibopho ngengane yakubo enezidingo ezengeziwe ngenkathi eseqenjini lentsha kuyasiza njengoba kubavumela ukuba bazenzele izinqumo mayelana nemithwalo yabo yemfanelo yokunakekela.Thola ngokuqeqeshwa kwezidingo ezengeziwe lapha: www.urbansaints.org/additionalneedstrainingNgethemba ukuthi le mibono emihlanu ingasiza ekusekeleni izingane zakini ezinezidingo ezengeziwe, nokho, zingase zibe nemibono namasu ngokwazo asebenza kangcono kuzo.Qala ukuvula lezo zingxoxo, izingane zakini zingazuza ngempela ekusekelweni okwengeziwe kodwa zizizwe sengathi azinalungelo ngakho ngoba akuzona izingane zakini ezinezidingo ezengeziwe.Isikhuthazo sihamba ibanga elide ngakho ungesabi ukuqala leyo ngxoxo!Phoebe ArnoldOkuthunyelwe Izindlela ezinhlanu zokusekela Izidingo Ezengeziwe izelamani, iqembu elinganakwa livele kuqala Ku-Firefly Blog.************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -support/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/disabilities/