Ukuthi Ukudlala Kwangaphandle Okungavinjelwe Kwelapha Kanjani Izingane

NguJanis Gioia, iComfortingAnxiousChildren.com

Ingabe ufuna ukuthuthukisa izindlela zokwelapha zengane yakho ngokuthile okungazolisa ngaso leso sikhathi, kuyilinganisele futhi kuyibeke phakathi? Ungathanda ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi ithuthukise:

umzimba onempilo, onamandla
ingqondo yokudala
ubuhlakani bezenhlalo nezomzwelo
amakhono amakhulu okuqonda

Ungathanda uku:

yehlisa ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho
ukwandisa ukuhlanganiswa kokucubungula kwakhe kwezinzwa
ngcono ukulawula kwakhe ngokomzwelo
andise ukunaka kwakhe imisebenzi

Ungakwazi, kalula. Nansi indlela yokwenza lokhu: Nikeza ingane yakho isikhathi esandisiwe sokudlala okungaphazamiseki, okuqondiswe enganeni ngokwemvelo.

Hhayi kuma-playset epulasitiki anemibala egqamile. Hhayi njengengxenye yeqembu lezemidlalo lezokuvakasha lesizini. Hhayi emisebenzini yabantu abadala eqeqeshwe noma eqondisiwe yangemva kwesikole.

Sikhuluma ngokwakha izinqaba, ukubamba amaxoxo, ukuchaphaza emachibini odaka, ukugibela amatshe nokugingqika emagqumeni. Cishe amahora achithwa emahlathini, emasimini, kuzo zonke izinhlobo zesimo sezulu. Ukwehla nokungcola. Njengoba senza lapho siseyizingane. Izinto ezingaziwa ezinganeni zanamuhla njengempilo engenazo izinto zikagesi.

Ukucwiliswa Kwemvelo Okungukhiye Wokuthuthuka Kwengane Enempilo

U-Angela Hanscom, MOT, OTR/L, ungumelaphi wezingane osebenza emsebenzini, kanye nombhali wencwadi ethi Balanced and Barefoot. Incwadi yakhe ikhombisa abazali nothisha ukuthi ukudlalela ngaphandle okungakhawulelwe kubaluleke kangakanani ezinzwa zezingane, zenhlalo, zemizwa, ingqondo kanye nempilo yengqondo.

U-Angela uthi, "Ukukhiphela izingane ngaphandle, ukucwiliswa kwemvelo, nokuhamba ngaphandle kwelapha kakhulu. Ukuntuleka kokudlala ngaphandle okungavinjelwe kuye kwaba nomthelela ezinganeni eziningi ezidinga izinsizakalo zokwelapha ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwezinzwa, ukukhathazeka, ukuphazamiseka kokunaka nokukhubazeka kwengqondo. ."

"Abazali abakhulisa izingane kanye nalabo abanezidingo ezikhethekile bethula izinkinga ezithinta izinzwa kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Izingane namuhla azikubekezeleli ukuthintwa, zithuke imisindo emikhulu, zinyakaze ekilasini, futhi ziziphathe ngendlela enolaka kakhulu kunalokho ezazikwenza eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule. "

U-Hanscom futhi ungumsunguli we-TimberNook, uhlelo olusekelwe emvelweni oluzuze umklomelo oluzuza ukuduma e-US nakwamanye amazwe.

“Imvelo iyaphilisa,” kusho u-Angela. "Imibala nemisindo yemvelo inikeza izisusa ezizolile ngokwemvelo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, imvelo inselele futhi ihlanganisa izinzwa njengoba izingane zizulazula endaweni engalingani futhi zithatha izingozi ezifanele ubudala njengokukhuphuka izihlahla namadwala asendulo."

Ucwaningo mayelana nezinzuzo zokwelapha nezokwelapha zemvelo zifakazela okushiwo u-Angela. Ekubuyekezeni izincwadi ezikhuluma ngale ndaba, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwezemvelo uLouise Chawla sathola ukuthi ukusebenzisana nemvelo kunezinzuzo eziningi zempilo yengqondo nengokomzimba yezingane.1

Izingane ezikwazi ukufinyelela imvelo zijabulela:

okuhlangenwe nakho okuningi kwemizwa eminingi
ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka kwengqondo kanye nokucindezeleka
amandla anda
ukuhlanganiswa okungcono kwezimoto nokulinganisela
Izisindo ezijwayelekile kanye ne-body mass index (BMI)
ikhono elikhulayo lokugxila nokugxilisa ingqondo
ukuthatheka okuncane
ukwanda kokuziphatha kwe-prosocial
ukudlala komphakathi okunobuciko okwengeziwe/ukudlala okucabangayo okwengeziwe

I-TimberNook Isiza Izingane Ziphinde Zithole Ubuciko Bokudlala Obulahlekile

Izinhlelo ze-TimberNook zisehlathini, zigcwele imifudlana emazombezombe, izihlahla eziwile, amachibi odaka namagquma. Ngenkathi zilapho, izingane zawo wonke amakhono zixhumana nemvelo, ngokwazo kanye nomunye nomunye.

U-Angela uthi ehlathini, "Isihlahla esiwile siphenduka umkhumbi wamarokhethi, isikebhe noma indiza. Induku iphenduka induku, isigxobo sokudoba, ihhashi okufanele ligibele phezu kwalo ... amaqabunga angaba yisithako sesobho, ipropu. ezobuciko, imithi, imali, i-decor, nokunye. Amathuba awapheli."

Izingane "ziphethe" umuzwa wazo wokudlala e-TimberNook. Bangase babone imishayo yokhuni yokwakha inqaba, igingqike amagquma futhi ichaphaze emanzini odaka. Benza noma yini abayifunayo noma lutho nhlobo. Abantu abadala bakhona ukuze baqondise, hhayi ukuqondisa.

Ngokungeziwe ekwakheni amakhono amahle nabi kakhulu emisipha, amakhono okukhuluma kanye nokuziphatha kwe-prosocial, izingane ziba nemicabango engeziwe futhi zenze izinto ezihlakaniphile. Lokhu kwakha ukuzethemba futhi kuthuthukisa ukuqonda.

"Ngokudlala nokuthatha ingozi, izingane zifunda ngabo. Zifunda ngezithakazelo zazo, amakhono kanye nendlela yokulawula imizwa yazo."

U-Angela uyachaza, "Izingane zifunda ukubhekana nokukhungatheka kwazo, ukwesaba nokukhathazeka njengoba zigibela ngempumelelo emadwaleni amakhulu, njengoba zihlola imingcele yazo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo isikhathi ngasinye lapho zidlala. Ukudlala ngokukhululeka ngaphandle kuthuthukisa izinzwa, kwakha imisipha namathambo aqinile futhi ikhuthaza amasosha omzimba anempilo."

"Kuningi okuhlela kusengaphambili ukuze kulungiswe isiza ukuze izingane zize zizodlala. Sinezinto eziningi zemvelo ezixegayo ezifana namakhekhe ezihlahla, amatshe, amapulangwe ezinkuni, izinti namagobolondo."

"Siphinde sibe namabhodwe namapani, obhasikidi, amathreyi, ama-trinkets amancane nobucwebe bemvunulo. Izingcezu zendwangu namashidi akhanyayo kunikeza ugqozi olukhulu lokudlala okucatshangwayo."
UTeece Nowell, MS, LCPC, unomkhuba wangasese wezempilo yengqondo eWest River, eMaryland. Uphinde abe ngumhlinzeki we-TimberNook oqeqeshiwe futhi unikeza ulwazi lwenkulisa yasehlathini unyaka wonke.

“Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane inenkinga engakanani, noma ukuxilongwa kwayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isifo sokukhathazeka, i-ADD, ukungasebenzi kahle kwezinzwa, ukucindezeleka, izinkinga zentukuthelo—zonke lezi zinto ziyancibilika lapho izingane zingekho ngokwemvelo,” kusho uTeece.

Nakuba ukukhathazeka kwezingane noma ukucindezeleka kungase kubangelwe ukungalingani kwamakhemikhali, okudinga imithi, izingane eziningi, ngokokuhlangenwe nakho kukaTeece, zisizwa kangcono ngokwelashwa kwemvelo. “Imvelo ngokwayo iyaphulukisa...kunomoya ngayo…indalo ingokwemvelo…kunomoya-mpilo omningi ehlathini,” kuchaza uTeece. "Imvelo iyaduduza futhi iyapholisa ... ivele ikwenze ube nesisekelo."

"Ngalesi sisekelo semvelo kanye nenjabulo yomdlalo wemvelo wamahhala, ongavinjelwe, izingane zixhumeke emhlabeni, kuzona nakwabanye ngendlela engokwemvelo."

"Kuke kwaba khona abazali abangitshela ukuthi, 'O, indodana yami ayisoze yahamba ingafakile izicathulo odakeni…ngeke!' Ngemva kwezinsuku ezingu-3 e-TimberNook uguqe ngamadolo emfudlaneni onodaka futhi ngithatha isithombe ngisithumele kumama wakhe. Umama uyamangala. Uthi, 'Teece, umthole kanjani ukuthi enze lokho?'

UTeece uyahleka. "Ngimtshela ukuthi angizange ngimenze enze lutho. Yilokho nje okwenzekayo lapho izingane zicwila emvelweni. Izinto ezibonwayo, amaphunga, imisindo, indlela okwenziwa ngayo izinto...kuziphumuza. Kuyayelapha."

"Yebo," kuqhubeka uTeece, "Kukhona nokucindezela kontanga okuhle kokubona ezinye izingane zichaphaza odakeni…zikhuphuka emadwaleni. Zicabanga, 'Heyi, nami ngifuna ukwenza lokho!' Konke kumayelana nokuxhumana nemvelo, ngokwabo kanye nabanye. Bazizwa bekhululekile ukuthatha amashansi uma umdlalo ungavinjelwe futhi imithetho kuphela ukuthi kufanele babone umuntu omdala futhi bahloniphane kanye nemvelo."

UBrenda Richards, OTR/L, ungumelaphi wezingane osebenza emsebenzini futhi ungumhlinzeki oqeqeshiwe we-TimberNook e-Ashtabula, e-Ohio. UBrenda uthi, "Cishe u-30% wezingane ezihambela izinhlelo zethu zinesidingo esikhethekile esihlonziwe."

I-TimberNook inxusa zonke izingane, futhi ikakhulukazi lezo ezikhubazekile njengokuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, ukuphazamiseka kwe-autism spectrum, ukukhubazeka kwengqondo kanye ne-ADD kanye ne-Oppositional Defiance Disorder, ngoba imvelo iwukwelapha impilo yabo ekhuthazwe ngokweqile.

Awekho amasethi okudlala epulasitiki anemibala egqamile, awekho amathebulethi, ama-smartphones nanoma imaphi amagajethi e-electronic akhalayo noma akhipha ukukhanya okuluhlaza okwehlisa i-melatonin. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukukhanya okuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka okuvela kumishini kagesi kubangela izinkinga zempilo ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, okuhlanganisa ukudangala nokukhathazeka.

E-TimberNook, ukukhuthazeka kuvela ekuncikiseni emuva esihlahleni esikhulu nokubona isibhakabhaka esiluhlaza ngaphezu kokuhlunga emaqabunga. Ingane izwa umoya ebusweni bayo nelanga lifudumeza isikhumba sayo njengoba izinzwane zayo zitshuza odakeni. Lokhu kuzizwisa kwemizwa kusiza izingane ukuba zixazulule izinkinga zazo, noma ngabe ziyini, ngokudlala.

U-Angela uthi, "Njengomelaphi wemisebenzi, ngiyazi ukuthi izinkinga zezinzwa ziyinselele enkulu kubantwana abanezidingo ezikhethekile. Isibonelo, izingane eziningi azikuthandi ukuthinta kancane." Ukuthinta okuncane umuzwa wethegi yempahla ethinta isikhumba, isinambuzane esikhasa phezu kwakho, uphaphe engalweni yakho, noma izinto ezihuquzelayo noma ezinamathelayo. Ukuthinta okuncane, kwezingane ezinezinkinga zezinzwa ngokuvamile kubangela ukukhathazeka noma ukundiza noma impendulo yokulwa.

“Lapho ingane imba obhuqwini, ithola ukucindezeleka okujulile okuzolile kokusebenza kwemisipha esindayo, okuphikisa noma okuvala umuzwa wokuthinta okuncane wokungcola ezandleni zakho,” kusho u-Angela. "Asikwazi ukuphinda izinzuzo zokwelapha zokucwiliswa emvelweni kunoma yimiphi imitholampilo yethu yokwelapha emsebenzini. Lokho izingane ezingakufeza ngesonto e-TimberNook asikwazanga ukukusiza onyakeni wokwelashwa kwendabuko."

UTeece uyavuma. "Uma ngingavala umkhuba wami wangasese wokwelashwa kwengqondo, futhi ngivele ngiphathe izingane ngaphandle ngokwemvelo, bengingakwenza." Uyahleka abese enezela, "Futhi ngiyawuthanda umkhuba wami, ngiyakuthanda engikwenzayo, kodwa awukho umkhuba wokwelapha osheshayo futhi ophulukisayo njengosemvelweni."

U-Teece wabelana ngendaba yempumelelo ukuze aqinisekise isitatimende sakhe. "Intombazanyana enesizinda sokuhlukumezeka kanye nezinkinga zentukuthelo yavakashela inkambu yami yase-TimberNook. Ezinsukwini ezintathu zokuqala, ayizange ikhulume nenye ingane. Uma ingane ikhuluma nayo yayibhoka kubo."

"Wayehamba nenduku enkulu, njengodondolo, futhi wayeyigxoba phansi, iqhume, iqhume, iqhume, ngesinyathelo ngasinye asithathayo," kusho uTeece. "Ezinsukwini ezintathu kamuva, le ntombazanyana yayisemanzini, ihamba nezinye izingane, ihleka futhi ithela amanzi ekhanda layo."

"Abeluleki bekamu bashaqeka. Bangibuza ukuthi kwenzekeni. Kwakulula. Intombazanyana yayishiye ngemuva izenzakalo ezicindezelayo empilweni yayo. Emvelweni, yathola isimo sokuzola. Ngisho nokubuka ezinye izingane kulabo abambalwa bokuqala. izinsuku...ukuba sehlathini, kunuka amaqabunga, ukubona izihlahla, ukuzwa umoya ezinweleni zakhe…zonke lezo zinto zidambisa ukukhathazeka, zidambise ukuhlukumezeka, phulukisa ingane.”

U-Angela uthi ezinye izingane zingase zidinge "izitebhisi zezingane" ukuze zifinyelele lapho zikhululekile ukuhamba zingafake zicathulo noma ukufaka iminwe odakeni, futhi lokho kulungile. "Ngokuqhubeka nokuchayeka ngaphandle, ukwakheka, iphunga, utshani, udaka-izingane ziqala ukubekezelela ukuzwa."

Amathiphu Okusiza Ingane Yakho Ukudlala Kwemvelo

Izinhlelo ze-TimberNook zise-United States eCalifornia, Florida, Indiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Missouri, New Hampshire, New York, North Carolina, nase-Ohio. INew Zealand inikeza izinhlelo eHawkes Bay, eChristchurch naseWellington. Izinhlelo e-Australia ziyeza maduze.

Iningi labaqondisi be-TimberNook kanye nabasebenzi bohlelo banezizinda ekukhuleni kwezingane, ekwelapheni umsebenzi, ekuguleni kokukhuluma nokukhuluma ngolimi, ukwelapha ngokomzimba, ukwelulekwa ngempilo yengqondo kanye nemfundo. Uma ingekho i-TimberNook endaweni yakini, usengakwazi ukunikeza ingane yakho izinzuzo zokudlala kwemvelo okungakhawulelwe okungaphazanyiswa. U-Angela unikeza iziphakamiso eziningi encwadini yakhe ethi, Balanced and Barefoot . Nansi imibono emihlanu yokuqalisa:

"Ukukhipha ingane yakho ngaphandle kuwukwelapha," kusho u-Angela. "I-tweeting yezinyoni isiza ekuqwashiseni indawo. Ukuzwa umoya nokufudumala kwelanga kuthungela izinzwa esikhumbeni. Zonke lezi zinto ezishukumisayo zishuna kahle ukuqwashisa kwazo izinzwa."
Qala ingadi. “Njengoba wenza ingadi ingane yakho ingase igqugquzeleke ukuba imbe obishini futhi ihlole ngefosholo,” kusho u-Angela.
Thola amapaki anezinto zemvelo ongazihlola njengemifudlana, izinkuni, amadwala nezindawo ezinotshani. Izindawo zangaphandle ezicebile nezikhuthazayo zikhuthaza izingane ngezindlela ezihlela ukudlala noma ukuya endaweni yokudlala yasendaweni, egcwele amasethi emidlalo epulasitiki kanye nemboza ngabo izithombo zesondo ezisihliwe ezingakwazi ukuyenza.
Nikeza izingane isikhathi ngaphandle. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, u-Angela usho amahora ambalwa. Uthi kuthatha okungenani imizuzu engamashumi amane nanhlanu ukuthi izingane zingene ekudlaleni okujulile kobuciko nokunenjongo. Kuthatha isikhathi ukuthola ukuthi uzodlala ini bese ulingisa leso sikimu sokudlala.
Khuthaza izingane ukuthi zidlale ezindaweni ezahlukene: ogwini, emahlathini, ngasemfudlaneni nasezindaweni ezinodaka. Ngokuhlinzeka ngezimo ezihlukahlukene zokudlala, uzoqhubeka