Izingane noma intsha “egcwele ukucasuka” futhi ethambekele ekucasukeni noma—okunye—ecindezelekile nengenandaba nayo isiyinsakavukela.
Izingane ezihlale zicasuka zivame ukuba sesimweni sokuvuka ngokungavamile, futhi zingase zibonakale “zinezintambo futhi zikhathele.” Okusho ukuthi bayayaluza kodwa baphelelwe amandla. Ngenxa yokuthi amazinga aphakeme okuvuka njalo athinta inkumbulo kanye nekhono lokuhlobana, lezi zingane zingase zithwale kanzima ngokwezemfundo nangokwenhlalo.
Ngesinye isikhathi, ingane enalezi zimpawu ingase inikezwe ukuxilongwa kwempilo yengqondo njengokucindezeleka okukhulu, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuguquguqukayo, noma i-ADHD, futhi inikezwe ukwelashwa okuhambisanayo, okuhlanganisa ukwelapha nemithi. Kodwa ngokuvamile lezi zindlela zokwelapha azisebenzi kahle kakhulu, futhi ukwehla kuyaqhubeka.
Kwenzakalani?
Bobabili abazali nabelaphi bangase “bakhonkothe umuthi ongafanele.” Okusho ukuthi, bazama ukwelapha lokho okubukeka njengencwadi yenkinga yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kodwa behluleka ukukhipha futhi baxazulule imbangela evamile yemvelo yezimpawu ezinjalo-ukusetshenziswa kwansuku zonke kwe-electronics. Ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngiye ngabona ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona yini ukuxilonga “okuyiqiniso” okucashile, ukwelapha ngempumelelo ingane ene-mood dysregulation namuhla kudinga ukuba kuqedwe ngokuphelele ukusetshenziswa kwe-electronics amasonto ambalwa—“ukushesha kwe-electronic”—ukuvumela isimiso sezinzwa. ukuze "ukusetha kabusha."
Uma kwenziwa kahle, lokhu kungenelela kungaveza ubuthongo obujulile, isimo sengqondo esikhanyayo futhi ngisho nakakhulu, ukugxila okungcono nokuhleleka, kanye nokwanda komsebenzi womzimba. Ikhono lokubekezelela ingcindezi liyathuthuka, ngakho ukuncibilika kuncipha kukho kokubili imvamisa nokuqina. Ingane iqala ukujabulela izinto eyayijwayele ukuzenza, idonseka kakhulu emvelweni, kanye nemidlalo ecatshangelwayo noma yokudala ibuya. Entsha nasebancane, ukwanda kokuziphatha komuntu siqu kubonakala—okuphambene ngokuphelele nokunganaki nokuphelelwa ithemba.
Kuyinto enhle.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuzila kwe-elekthronikhi kunciphisa noma kuqeda isidingo somuthi kuyilapho kunikeza ezinye izindlela zokwelapha ezisebenza kangcono. Ukulala okuthuthukisiwe, ukuvivinya umzimba okwengeziwe, nokuxhumana okwengeziwe ubuso nobuso nabanye kwandisa izinzuzo—ukukhuphuka komfutho! Ngemva kokuzila ukudla, lapho ingqondo isisethwe kabusha, umzali angakwazi ukunquma ngokucophelela ukuthi ingane ingabekezelela malini uma ngabe imaphi ama-electronics asetshenziswa ngaphandle kokubuya kwezimpawu.
Ukukhawulela izinto zikagesi kungase kungaxazululi yonke into, kodwa ngokuvamile isixhumanisi esingekho ekwelashweni lapho izingane zibambekile.
Kodwa kungani ukungenelela okusheshayo kwe-elekthronikhi kuphumelela kangaka? Ngoba ihlehlisa okuningi kokungasebenzi kahle komzimba okukhiqizwa isikhathi sesikrini sansuku zonke.
Ubuchopho bezingane buzwela kakhulu ekusetshenzisweni kwe-electronics kunalokho iningi lethu elikuqaphelayo. Eqinisweni, ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, akuthathi ukugqugquzelwa okuningi kwe-elekthronikhi ukulahla ubuchopho obuzwelayo nobusathuthuka. Futhi, abazali abaningi bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi isikhathi sesikrini esisebenzisanayo—ukusetshenziswa kwe-inthanethi noma inkundla yezokuxhumana, ukuthumela imiyalezo, ukuthumela i-imeyili, nokudlala amageyimu—akuyona ingozi, ikakhulukazi uma kuqhathaniswa nesikhathi sesikrini sokungenzi lutho njengokubuka i-TV. Eqinisweni, isikhathi sesikrini esisebenzisanayo cishe singadala izinkinga zokulala, ukuma kwenhliziyo, nokuqonda, ngoba kungenzeka kakhulu kubangele ukusetshenziswa okudabukisayo nokuphoqelelayo.
Nakhu ukubheka izindlela eziyisithupha ze-physiological ezichaza ukuthambekela kwe-electronics ukukhiqiza ukuphazamiseka kwemizwelo:
1. Isikhathi sesikrini siphazamisa ukulala futhi sisusa ukuvumelanisa iwashi lomzimba.
Ngenxa yokuthi ukukhanya okuvela kumadivayisi esikrini kulingisa imini, kucindezela i-melatonin, isignali yokulala ekhishwa ubumnyama. Imizuzu nje yokukhuthazwa kwesikrini ingabambezela ukukhishwa kwe-melatonin ngamahora ambalwa futhi yenze iwashi lomzimba lingavumelani. Uma iwashi lomzimba seliphazamisekile, zonke izinhlobo zokunye ukusabela okungenampilo zenzeka, njengokungalingani kwama-hormone nokuvuvukala kobuchopho. Futhi, ukuvuka kwenkanuko akukuvumeli ukulala okujulile, futhi ukulala okujulile kuyindlela esiphulukisa ngayo.
2. Isikhathi sesikrini siqeda ukungezwani komzimba ohlelweni lokuvuza lobuchopho.
Izingane eziningi “zibambekile” ku-electronics, futhi empeleni imidlalo ikhipha i-dopamine eningi—ikhemikhali “yokuzizwa ujabule”—kangangokuthi lapho kuskenwa ubuchopho kubukeka kufana nokusetshenziswa kwe-cocaine. Kodwa lapho izindlela zokuklomelisa zisetshenziswa ngokweqile, ziyancipha ukuzwela, futhi ukukhuthazwa okwengeziwe kuyadingeka ukuze uthole injabulo. Ngaleso sikhathi, i-dopamine nayo ibalulekile ekugxilweni nasekukhuthazeni, ngakho-ke akudingekile ukusho, ngisho nezinguquko ezincane ekuzweleni kwe-dopamine zingadala umonakalo endleleni ingane ezizwa ngayo nokusebenza kahle.
3. Isikhathi sesikrini sikhiqiza “ukukhanya ebusuku.”
Ukukhanya ebusuku okuvela kuma-elekthronikhi kuye kwaxhunyaniswa nokudangala kanye nobungozi bokuzibulala ezifundweni eziningi. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo lwezilwane lubonisa ukuthi ukuchayeka ekukhanyeni okusekelwe esikrinini ngaphambi noma phakathi nokulala kubangela ukudangala, ngisho nalapho isilwane singasibheki isikrini. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bayanqikaza ukukhawulela ukusetshenziswa kwezinto zikagesi ekamelweni lengane ngoba bekhathazeka ngokuthi ingane izongena esimweni sokuphelelwa ithemba—kodwa empeleni ukususa ukukhanya ebusuku kuyisivikelo.
4. Isikhathi sesikrini sidala ukusabela kwengcindezi.
Kokubili ukucindezeleka okukhulu (ukulwa-noma-ukundiza) kanye nokucindezeleka okungapheli kukhiqiza izinguquko kukhemikhali yobuchopho namahomoni angandisa ukucasuka. Ngempela, i-cortisol, i-hormone yokucindezeleka okungapheli, ibonakala iyimbangela nomphumela wokucindezeleka—idala umjikelezo ononya. Ukwengeza, izindlela zokungezwani nokulutheka zicindezela ingxenye engaphambili yobuchopho, indawo lapho ukulawulwa kwemizwelo kwenzeka ngempela.
5. Isikhathi sesikrini sigcwalisa kakhulu isistimu yezinzwa, siphula ukunaka, futhi siqede amandla okubamba ingqondo.
Ochwepheshe bathi ngokuvamile okubangela ukuqhuma nokuba nobudlova ukungagxili kahle. Lapho ukunakwa kuncipha, kanjalo nekhono lokucubungula indawo yomuntu yangaphakathi nengaphandle, ngakho izidingo ezincane ziba ezinkulu. Ngokuqeda amandla engqondo ngokufaka okuphezulu okubukwayo nokuqonda, isikhathi sesikrini sinikela ekugcinweni okuphansi. Enye indlela "yokuthuthukisa" okwesikhashana izinqolobane eziphelile iwukuthukuthela, ngakho-ke ukuncibilika kube yindlela yokubhekana nayo.
6. Isikhathi sesikrini sehlisa amazinga okusebenza ngokomzimba kanye nokuchayeka “esikhathini esiluhlaza.”
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi isikhathi esingaphandle, ikakhulukazi ukuxhumana nemvelo, singabuyisela ukunaka, ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka, nokunciphisa ulaka. Ngakho-ke, isikhathi esichithwa kugesi sinciphisa ukuchayeka kuzithuthukisi zemvelo.
Ezweni lanamuhla, kungase kubonakale kuwubuhlanya ukukhawulela izinto zikagesi kakhulu. Kodwa uma izingane zidonsa kanzima, asizenzisi umusa ngokushiya izinto zikagesi zisendaweni futhi sithemba ukuthi zingaphela amandla ngokusebenzisa ogesi "ngokulinganisela." Akusebenzi nje. Ngokuphambene, ngokuvumela isimiso sezinzwa ukuba sibuyele esimweni semvelo ngokwengeziwe ngokuzila ukudla okuqinile, singathatha isinyathelo sokuqala sokusiza ingane ukuba izole, iqine futhi ijabule kakhudlwana.
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