Kunesikhathi wonke umzali abhekana naso. Ubuka okwesikhashana, ubuye ubheke, bese ngokungazelelwe ingane yakho ifinyelela entweni ongakaze ucabange ukuthi ingayithola.
Leso sikhathi kuvame ukulandela ukwethuka, ukuzizwa unecala, nokuqonda abazali abaningi abakuthola sekwephuze kakhulu.
Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukufinyelela izinto ezithile zansuku zonke, ikhaya lakho aliphephile njengoba lizwakala.
Lokhu akuhambisani nokungabi nabugovu. Kumayelana nokuthi izingane zikhula ngokushesha kanjani, zizivumelanise nezimo, futhi zisishayise ngamangala.
Kungani Ukufinyelela Kubaluleke Ngaphezu Kweminyaka
Abazali bavame ukwenza ukuphepha kwezingane ngokusekelwe eminyakeni yobudala. Izivalo zezindlu zikagesi zifakwa lapho izingane ziqala ukukhasa. Izikhiya zamakhabethe ziyavela lapho izingane ezincane zihamba. Amasango okuphepha ayabekwa lapho izitebhisi ziba mnandi.
Inkinga ukuthi ukufinyelela akuhambisani nemithetho yobudala.
Ezinye izingane zigibela kusenesikhathi. Ezinye zelula ngaphezu kwalokho okulindelekile. Ezinye zisebenzisa ifenisha ngendlela yokudala ukuze zifinyelele okubonakala kungafinyeleleki.
Ukuphepha kufanele kusekelwe emandleni, hhayi eminyakeni yobudala.
Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukufinyelela okuthile okuyingozi, ingozi isivele ikhona, noma ngabe akukho okwenzekile okwamanje.
Izinto Eziyingozi Kakhulu Zivame Ukuba Sezingeni Eliphezulu Labantu Abadala
Abazali abaningi bagxila ezingozini ezisezingeni eliphansi. Izinto ezincane. Imikhiqizo yokuhlanza ngaphansi kukasinki. Amakhona abukhali endaweni yokukhasa.
Okunganakwa izinto ezibekwe ezingeni eliphakeme labantu abadala izingane ezizofinyelela kuzo ekugcineni.
Lezi zinto zifaka:
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Imithi egcinwe ezindaweni zokubeka izinto noma ematafuleni asemaceleni kombhede
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Iziphuzo ezishisayo ezishiywe ematafuleni noma emadeskini
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Imimese ebekwe ngemuva kwezindawana zokubeka izinto
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Izintambo zikagesi ezilenga ezindaweni
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Izinto ezisindayo ezigcinwe emashalofini
Izingane azidingi imvume noma izimpawu zokuxwayisa. Ilukuluku lodwa lanele.
Kungani Izingane Zifinyelela Ngaphambi Kokuba Abazali Balindele
Izingane zithuthukisa amakhono okuxazulula izinkinga kusenesikhathi kunalokho abantu abadala abaningi abakubonayo.
Zihudula izihlalo.
Zikhuphuka amadrowa.
Zizihudula zisebenzisa izibambo namashalofu.
Zifumbathisa izinto ukuze zifinyelele phezulu.
Lokhu kuziphatha kujwayelekile futhi kunempilo. Kuyingxenye yokufunda.
Ingozi iza lapho izindawo zingazivumelanisi nala makhono.
Ngaleso sikhathi ingane ifinyelela okuthile okungaphephile, kuvame ukuthi kade yazijwayeza amasonto ngaphandle kokunakwa.
Ingozi Efihlekile Yezindawana Zokubeka Izinto Namatafula
Izindawana zokubeka izinto zizwakala ziphephile ngoba azifinyeleleki ezinganeni ezincane.
Ziyeka ukuzizwa ziphephile ngokushesha okukhulu.
Iziphuzo ezishisayo, amaketela, izipheki ezihamba kancane, namapuleti okudla kuvame ukuba izimbangela zokusha nokuklwebheka ezinganeni ezincane. Eziningi zalezi zingozini zenzeka lapho ingane ihudula okuthile phansi kunokuba ifinyelele phezulu.
Intambo elengayo, isibambo esibhekise ngaphandle, noma inkomishi ebekwe eduze konqenqema kwanele.
Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukufinyelela indawo noma ihudule okuthile kuyo, ingozi isivele ikhona.
Ifenisha Yenza Konke Kufinyeleleke
Ifenisha yiyona enza kube lula ingozi.
Izihlalo, izituli, amabhokisi wamathoyizi, amadrowa, ngisho namasofa avumela izingane ukuba zikhuphuke phezulu kunalokho okulindelekile.
Ishalofu lezincwadi elibekwe eduze kwefasitela. Ikhabethe eduze kwefenisha. Isihlalo esishiywe eduze kwendawo yokubeka izinto.
Lezi zinhlanganisela zenza ukuphakama okuphephile kube izindawo eziyingozi ezifinyelelekayo.
Uma ifenisha ivumela ukufinyelela, into ephezulu kwayo ayisalokhu ingafinyeleleki.
Imithi Ingenye Yezingcuphe Ezinkulu Kakhulu
Imithi isalokhu ingenye yezizathu eziyinhloko zokuthi izingane ziphuthunyiswe eminyangweni yezimo eziphuthumayo.
Ngisho nokupakishwa okungazwakali kubantwana akuphephile kubantwana. Izingane eziningi zingavula iziqukathi ngokushesha kunalokho abantu abadala abakulindele.
Imithi egcinwe ezikhwameni, emadroweni asemaceleni kombhede, noma ezindaweni zokubeka izinto ekhishini iyingozi ikakhulukazi. Izingane azihlukanisi phakathi kwamashwidi namaphilisi.
Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukufinyelela imithi, ngisho kanye, ukuphepha kuye konakaliswa.
Imikhiqizo Yokuhlanza Nezithambisi Zivame Ukunganakwa
Imikhiqizo yokuhlanza ivame ukugcinwa ngaphansi kosinki, kodwa izifutho, izifutho, nezisuli zivame ukuqeda ezindaweni zokubeka izinto noma emashalofini.
Ukupakishwa okukhanyayo namakha aqinile kudonsa ukunaka.
Izingane zihlola ngezandla zazo nangemilomo yazo. Ukuginqa okukodwa noma ukuchaphaza kungadala umonakalo omkhulu.
Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukufinyelela noma yimuphi umkhiqizo wokuhlanza ngaphandle kwesikhiya noma isithiyo, ingozi isishesha.
Amafasitela, Izibambo, Nezindawo Zokuvula Abazali Abakhohlwa Ngazo
Ukufinyelela akukhona nje ngezinto. Kumayelana nokufinyelela.
Amafasitela anezibambo eziphansi. Iminyango enezikhiya ezishiywe ngaphakathi. Amarila evalini anefenisha yokugibela eduze.
Uma ingane ingakwazi ukufinyelela isibambo, ingasivula. Uma ingasivula, isimo siyashintsha ngokushesha.
Izingozi eziningi ezinzima azibangelwa ukuthi okuthile kwashiywa kuvulekile, kodwa ngoba ingane ingakwazi ukukufinyelela ngokungazelelwe.
Kungani “Ngangibukele” Kunganele
Abazali bavame ukuthembela ekubhekeni ukuze babuyisele ukufinyelela.
Iqiniso ukuthi ukubheka kwehluleka empilweni yangempela.
Amaselula ayakhala. Iminyango iyankopha. Abafowethu nodadewethu bayaphazamisa. Ukukhathala kunciphisa isikhathi sokuphendula.
Izingane zihamba ngokushesha kunalokho abantu abadala abangakwazi ukuphendula ngakho.
Ukuphepha akufanele kuncike ekunakeni okungapheli. Kufanele kwakhelwe endaweni.
Indlela Yokuhlola Ukufinyelela Ngendlela Efanele
Umsebenzi owusizo ukubona ikhaya lakho ngeso lengane yakho.
Hlala phansi ezingeni layo. Buka ukuthi ihamba kanjani. Bheka ukuthi ithinta, ihudula, futhi ikhuphuke ini.
Zibuze:
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Ingafinyelela ini uma ikhuphuka
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Ingahudula ini phansi
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Ingafinyelela ini lapho ikhathele
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Kushintsha ini lapho ifenisha ihamba
Phinda lokhu kuhlolwa njalo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa noma ngemva kokuthuthuka okukhulu.
Ukwenza Ikhaya Lakho Liphephe Ngaphandle Kokudlula Kakhulu
Ukuphepha akusho ukususa konke noma ukudala ukwesaba.
Kusho ukunciphisa ukufinyelela ezingozini ezinzima ngenkathi kuvunyelwa ukuhlola.
Izinyathelo ezingokoqobo zifaka:
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Ukugcina izinto eziyingozi emakhabetheni akhiyiwe
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Ukugcina izindawo zingenazo izinto ezishisayo noma ezibukhali
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Ukubophelela ifenisha ezindongeni
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Ukusebenzisa izivimbelo zamafasitela
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Ukususa ifenisha ekwazi ukugibela kude nezingozi
Izinguquko ezincane zingavimbela izingozi ezinkulu.
Umcabango Wokuphepha Ovikele Izingane
Amakhaya aphephe kakhulu awawona avimbele kakhulu. Awawona aphendulayo kakhulu.
Abazali abahlola njalo ukufinyelela kunokuba bathembele emithethweni esekelwe eminyakeni yobudala balungiselelwe kangcono ushintsho.
Izingane ziyakhula. Amakhono ayashintsha. Ilukuluku liyanda.
Ukuphepha kufanele kuqhubeke.
Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukukufinyelela, kufanele kubhekwe kabili.
Imibuzo Ebuzwa Njalo
Iminyaka emingaki okufanele ngikhathazeke ngokufinyelela?
Ukufinyelela akuxhumene neminyaka ethile. Ezinye izingane zigibela kusenesikhathi, ezinye kamuva. Gxila emandleni kunaseminyakeni yobudala futhi uhlole kabusha njalo.
Ingabe iziqukathi ezingazwakali kubantwana zanele?
Cha. Ukungazwakali kubantwana akusho ukuphepha kubantwana. Iziqukathi zihamba kancane ukufinyelela kodwa azikuvimbeli. Imithi namakhemikhali kufanele kugcinwe kukhiyiwe njalo.
Kufanele ngihlole kabusha ikhaya lami ukuze liphephe kangaki?
Njalo ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngesikhathi sobuntwana bokuqala nangemva kwezinguquko ezinkulu zokuthuthuka ezifana nokukhasa, ukuhamba, noma ukugibela.
Kungcono ukufundisa ukuphepha noma ukususa izingozi?
Zombili zibalulekile. Ukufundisa ukuphepha kusiza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa izinyathelo zokuphepha ngokomzimba zibalulekile ngoba izingane zenza ngokushesha, ikakhulukazi lapho zikhathele noma zijabule.
Iyingozi enkulu kakhulu yokufinyelela engabonakali yini?
Imithi egcinwe ematafuleni asemaceleni kombhede, ezikhwameni, noma ezindaweni zokubeka izinto ekhishini ingenye yezingozi ezivame ukuphuthelwa.
Ingabe ukubheka kufaka esikhundleni sokwenza ukuphepha kwezingane?
Cha. Ukubheka kusekela ukuphepha kodwa akufanele kufake esikhundleni sokuvikela imvelo. Izingozi zivame ukwenzeka ngisho nalapho abantu abadala beseduze.
