Siphila ezweni elicindezelayo, yingakho kungakaze kube okubaluleke kakhulu ukugqugquzela ukukhuthazela ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo ezinganeni zethu.
Akukhona nje kuphela eqinile ngokwengqondo izingane ezikulungele kangcono ukubhekana nezinkinga zesikhathi esizayo zizodwa, kodwa izifundo bathole ukuthi nabo maningi amathuba okuba babe wafunda esikoleni futhi kwabo imisebenzi yesikhathi esizayo .
Ngeke kube lula kubazali, kodwa ukugwema lawa maphutha avamile kungasiza.
1. Ukunciphisa imizwa yengane yakho
Izingane zidinga ukwazi ukuthi kunempilo ukuveza nokukhuluma ngemizwa yazo. Lapho abazali betshela izingane zabo izinto ezinjengokuthi “ungaphatheki kabi ngalokho” noma “akuyona indaba enkulu,” basuke bedlulisela umyalezo wokuthi imizwa ayinandaba nokuthi kungcono ukuyicindezela.
Uma ingane yakho ibonisa izinkulumo zokwesaba phakathi nesiphepho esikhulu, isibonelo, icabanga ukuthi, “Ngiyazi ukuthi uyesaba njengamanje.” Bese ubabuza ukuthi yini abacabanga ukuthi izobenza bazizwe bengcono. Lokhu kubafundisa indlela yokulawula nokubhekana nemizwa bebodwa.
Umgomo uwukubasiza bazijwayeze izixazululo zezingxoxo baze bathole okuthile okusebenzayo.
2. Njalo ubasindisa ekuhlulekeni
Njengabazali, kunzima ukubuka izingane zethu zidonsa kanzima ezinseleleni esaziyo ukuthi singazilungisa kalula kubo .
Kodwa cabanga ngalokhu ngale ndlela: Uma ingane yakho ingenzi kahle esikoleni, uyazi ukuthi ukuyitshela izimpendulo zomsebenzi wesikole kuyoyibuyisela emuva, ngoba awukwazi ukuba sekilasini lapho kufanele iziqedele lezo zivivinyo iyodwa.
Ukwehluleka kuyingxenye enkulu yempumelelo. Uma izingane zingalokothi zinikezwe ithuba lokufunda izifundo eziza nokuhluleka, azisoze zahlakulela ukubekezela ezikudingayo ukuze zivuke ngemuva kokuhlehla.
3. Ukuzitika ngokweqile kwezingane zakho
Izingane zithanda izinto, futhi abazali bathanda ukuzinika zona. Kodwa ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi lapho unikeza izingane zakho noma yini eziyifunayo, ziphuthelwe amakhono ahlobene namandla engqondo, njengokuzithiba.
Ufuna izingane zakho zikhule zazi ukuthi kungenzeka ukufeza ezikufunayo - uma zikusebenzela. Abazali bangakwazi ukufundisa izingane zabo ukuthi zifunde ukuzithiba ngokubeka imithetho ecacile yezinto ezifana nokuqeda umsebenzi wesikole ngaphambi kwesikhathi sesikrini noma ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya ukuze zithuthukise imali (ukuze zikwazi ukuthenga izinto ngokwazo, kuyilapho zazi ukuthi uyitholile ).
4. Ukulindela ukuphelela
Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuthi ingane yakho iphokophele imigomo emikhulu futhi ibe ehamba phambili kukho konke. Kodwa akusiyo indlela izinto ezisebenza ngayo. Ukusetha ibha imikhondo ephezulu kakhulu kungaholela ezindabeni zokuzethemba kanye nokuzethemba kamuva ekuphileni.
Yakha amandla engqondo ezinganeni zakho ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi lokho okulindele kungokoqobo. Futhi ngisho noma izingane zakho zingahlangabezani nazo, izithiyo ezibhekana nazo zisazozifundisa izifundo ezibalulekile zokuphila nokuthi zingaphumelela kanjani ngokuzayo.
5. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi bahlale bekhululekile
Kunezinto eziningi ezingenza ingane yakho ingakhululeki, ikakhulukazi uma ihlanganisa ukwenza okuthile okusha: Ukuzama ukudla okusha, ukwenza abangane abasha, ukudlala umdlalo omusha noma ukuthutha amakhaya kanye nokuya esikoleni esisha.
Kodwa njengokwehluleka, ukwamukela izikhathi ezingakhululekile kungakhuphula amandla engqondo. Khuthaza izingane zakho ukuthi zizame izinto ezintsha. Basize baqale, ngoba leyo yingxenye enzima kakhulu. Kodwa lapho sebethathe leso sinyathelo sokuqala, bangase babone ukuthi akunzima njengoba bebecabanga ukuthi kuyoba njalo - futhi bangase baphumelele kukho!
6. Ukungabeki imingcele yomzali nengane
Ufuna izingane zakho zizenzele izinqumo, kodwa futhi zidinga ukwazi ukuthi ungumphathi. Isibonelo, uma ubekela ingane yakho eneminyaka engu-12 isikhathi sokufika ekhaya, qiniseka ukuthi unamathela kuso njalo ebusuku (noma ngangokunokwenzeka).
Izingane eziqinile ngokwengqondo zinabazali abakuqondayo ukubaluleka kwemingcele nokungaguquguquki. Ukuvuma kanye nokuvumela imithetho ukuthi kuxoxiswane ngayo kaningi kungaholela emibangweni yamandla phakathi kwakho nengane yakho.
7. Ukungazinakekeli
Lapho sikhula, kuba nzima nakakhulu ukulondoloza imikhuba enempilo (isb, ukudla okunempilo, ukuzivocavoca nsuku zonke, ukuthatha isikhathi sokuvuselela). Yingakho kubalulekile ukumodela imikhuba yokuzinakekela yezingane zakho.
Kubalulekile futhi ukuzijwayeza amakhono anempilo okubhekana nempilo phambi kwezingane zakho. Ngokwesibonelo, uma ucindezelekile ngomsebenzi, cabangela ukutshela ingane yakho, “Ngibe nosuku olukhathazayo kakhulu emsebenzini, futhi ngizophumula ngetiye nangencwadi.”
