Phew! Kujwayelekile. Umhlahlandlela Weminyaka ngeminyaka wokuthi Yini Ongayilindela Ezinganeni Nentsha - Futhi Yini Eyidingayo Kithi

Ukuba yingane noma usemusha akukona okokukhanya - kunzima laphaya! Kunezinto ezibalulekile okufanele zenziwe, yibona kuphela abangayenza. Ubunjalo bale misebenzi buncike esigabeni sokuthuthuka abakuso. Ukwazi ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha okuvamile kwezingane kanye nentsha kungasiza ekuhleleni indlela yawo wonke umuntu ohilelekile.

Ngisho njengabantu abadala, singase sithambekele ekuthukutheleni, izinyembezi futhi sifune ukunikeza umhlaba (noma abantu abathile kuwo) isifutho esinamandla ngezinye izikhathi. Ngokwengxenye enkulu, singabambelela kumadrama nanoma yini engasifaka enkingeni, kodwa nangawo wonke ulwazi lwethu, ubuchopho bethu obukhule ngokugcwele, namandla ethu okubona emakhoneni, kunzima ngezinye izinsuku. Cabanga nje ukuthi kunjani ezinganeni zethu.

Ukuqonda lokho izingane zethu ezilwa nakho kanye nemigomo yokuthuthuka ezisebenzela kuyo kuzokwenza ukuziphatha kwazo 'okukhungathekisa' kakhulu ukubhekana nakho. Izinto zizohamba kahle uma singabanika indawo nokusekelwa abakudingayo ukuze benze noma yini abayidingayo. Kunjalo, akukho kulokhu okusho ukudela ngokuphelele imingcele yethu mayelana nokuthi yini elungile nengalungile mayelana nokuziphatha. Okushoyo ukuphendula ngokuhlakanipha okukhulu, ukucaca kanye nemiphumela efaneleke kakhulu. Impilo ivele ibe lula kuwo wonke umuntu uma sesikwazi ukubheka izinto kancane.

Nazi izigaba ezibalulekile zentuthuko kanye nokuziphatha okunzima okungase kufike nazo. Ngokuvamile uzothola ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo , nakuba ingalawuleki futhi idida ngezinye izikhathi, kungokwemvelo ngokuphelele futhi kuwuphawu lokuthi ingane yakho iyachuma futhi ithuthuka ngendlela ehloselwe ukuba yenze ngayo.

Iminyaka yezigaba iwumhlahlandlela nje. Lapho uhlola ukuze ubone ukuthi izingane zakho zisendleleni efanele yini, funda izigaba ezizungeze iminyaka yangempela yengane yakho. Ukuqhubekela phambili ngezigaba kubaluleke kakhulu kuneminyaka lokhu okwenzeka ngayo. Uma nje izingane zihamba ngezigaba, akunandaba ukuthi zifika lapho kancane kunezinye izingane.

Izinsana Nezingane (izinyanga ezi-0-12).

• Konke kuzongena emlonyeni - izandla, izinyawo, ukudla, amathoyizi, izicathulo - usho lokho.
• Uma bekhala, kukhona abakudingayo - ukulala, ukugonwa, ukudla, ukushintsha. Okwamanje abakabi nawo amazwi okuxhumana, kodwa ukukhala kuyindlela ephumelela ngendlela emangalisayo yokuba izingane ezingabantu zithole abantu abakhulu ukuze zibahambisele izintaba. Enye yezinto ezinhle ngezingane ukuthi azisoze zacela okungaphezu kwalokho ezikudingayo.
• Qaphela abantu ongabazi futhi ungase ucasuke lapho abantu obaziyo bengekho eduze.
• Izingane zizobuka. Bathanda ubuso futhi bazobuka ubuso empilweni yangempela, ezincwadini nasezibukweni. Oh ukuba neminyaka lapho ukugqolozela abanye abantu kwamukelekile emphakathini - futhi kumnandi.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

Izingane zinomsebenzi obalulekile okufanele zenze - zidinga ukufunda ukuthi zingalethemba noma cha umhlaba kanye nabantu abakuwo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, bazosebenza kanzima ukuze bakunike amathuba okubabonisa ukuthi baphephe futhi bavikeleke kangakanani. Bangase bangabi namagama amaningi kodwa bangabakhulumi abancane abahlakaniphile uma kuziwa ekwaziseni uma okuthile kungalungile. Hlala unaka izidingo zabo ukuze bezwe umhlaba njengophephile futhi uvikelekile kubo. Baphe ukudla belambile, ubaduduze uma bethukile, ubagone lapho bedinga ukuba nawe. Lokhu kuzokwakha isisekelo sokuhlola kwabo umhlaba, ukuzimela kwabo, ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kwabo, kanye nobudlelwano babo.

Iminyaka engu-1-2.

• Kuzosebenzisana kakhulu.
• Akukho ukuqonda inhloso - bayabona, benza ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi kungani noma kusho ukuthini. Isibonelo, lapho ziluma, akukhona ukulimaza, lapho zithatha amathoyizi kwezinye izingane akukona ukucasula, kufanele ... kahle, wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi izinto zifuna ukumbamba, kulungile. Noma ukudla.
• Izolandela ilukuluku labo futhi izodonsa izinto phansi noma ihlukanise ukuze ibone ukuthi kwenzekani. I-Ditto ngokujikijela noma yini phansi.
• Awukwazi ukwaba ngokwentuthuko.
• Kungase kubonakale kunamandla futhi kunobugovu, kodwa khumbula ukuthi noma yini abayithandayo noma abacabanga ukuthi ingeyabo izobonwa njengezandiso zabo. Kunjalo, akekho omunye onelungelo lokuyithatha!
• Ukuqala ukuqonda ukuba nempahla, kanye nokuthuthukisa umuzwa oqinile wobumina.
• Amagama amabili abawathandayo ukusho ukuthi, 'Okwami!' futhi 'Cha!'
• Amagama amabili angawathandi kakhulu ukuwezwa, 'Okwami!' futhi 'Cha!'
• Ngokuvamile ivuka ebusuku.
• Ngasekupheleni kwalesi sigaba, bangase badelele nakakhulu njengoba beqala ukuzama ukuzimela. Bangase bathukuthele ngoba bakhungatheka ngenxa yokuntula kwabo amagama nokungakwazi kwabo ukukhuluma.
• Ukufutheka kuzophinde kushukunyiswe umuzwa wabo wemizwa emikhulu (ukukhungatheka, intukuthelo, ukudabuka, amahloni) abangenawo amazwi ayo.
• Kuzoba maningi amathuba okuthi udlale eduze nezinye izingane, kunokuba udlale nazo.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

• Isikhathi sabo sokunaka sisesifushane, ngakho-ke sebenzisa ukuphazamiseka ukuze ubaqondise kulokho ongafuni ukuthi bakwenze.
• Uma ubanikeza umthetho omusha noma isiqondiso, kungenzeka ukuthi omdala uzolibaleka. Kwesinye isikhathi uzothanda ukunaka kwabo okufushane. Ngezinye izikhathi ngeke.
• Yiba nombono oqondile lapho ubabona benza okufanele.
• Qala ukubazisa izinto ezingalungile.
• Unganaki izinto ezincane. Kuningi okumele sikufunde ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthi ungakulayishi kakhulu. Mabajwayele izinto ezibalulekile kuqala.
• Ingane yakho izobe isiqala ukuqonda ukuthi yini oyibuzayo kodwa ngenxa yengqondo yakho enengqondo, yeka ukulindela ukuthi izokwenza njengoba ucela. Qhubeka ubuza futhi uqondise, kodwa ungazithatheli ngokwakho uma kungenzeki ngqo. Noma nhlobo.
• Yiba nomusa futhi ube mnene lapho ulungisa. Benza konke okusemandleni abo ngalokho abanakho. Uma ucela kakhulu ungagcina unengane ekhathazeke kakhulu noma edelela kakhulu noma engazethembi kangako eneminyaka emithathu.
• Basize babeke amagama kulokho abakuzwayo, 'Kuyacasula uma kufanele uqoqe amathoyizi akho futhi ufuna ukuqhubeka nokudlala akunjalo.'

Iminyaka emi-3.

• Izozama ukuzimela. Kungase kuholele ekucasukeni.
• Izofuna ukulawula okwengeziwe. Kungase kuholele ekucasukeni.
• Uzokhungatheka lapho ephoxekile. Kungase kuholele ekucasukeni.
• Kungase kubonakale ukwanda kokucasuka.
• Izoshintsha phakathi kokufuna ukuzimela ('Ngiyakwenza!', noma 'ngedwa') nokufuna ukuphathwa njengomuntu omncane ('ngithwale' noma 'uyakwenza').
• Izokwakha okunamathiselwe okukhethekile egameni elithi 'cha' futhi izoprakthiza njalo. Ngisho nalapho bengase basho 'yebo'. (Ahhhh izingane ezisacathula! Ngenhlanhla, ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kuzinikeze ikhono elijulile lokuthandeka ngenkathi zilele. Lokhu kubalulekile kulezo zenzakalo eziyinhlekelele, njengalapho uphuthelwa khona isaziso sokuthi amasemishi manje asezonikezwa njengonxantathu abancane, hhayi izikwele ezincane njenge ngaphambilini bekubhekwa njengokwamukelekayo. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, vele uhambe nakho - uzodinga amandla akho lapho bebona ukuthi awuwuthenganga umuthi wokuxubha no-Elsa eshubhuni.)
• Angangingiza noma angingiza.
• Bazoqala ukulawula indawo yabo ngokufuna ukuhlela imisebenzi, benze izinto ngokwabo, bazame ukufaka inselele.
• Angase alokhu ekushayela ucingo uma esekulalisiwe.
• Kungase kuthuthukise ukwesaba okungazelelwe kanye nama-phobias.
• Kungase kudide okwangempela nokuzenzisa , ngakho-ke ungaba nomngane oyedwa noma iqoqo lemicabango.
• Namanje ngeke ikuqonde ukwabelana futhi izovame ukugomela ubunikazi, 'Okwami!'.
• Angase abonise umona lapho umzali enaka ezinye izingane.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

• Bhala lokhu phansi, 'Ngeke kube njena kuze kube phakade'. Manje yinamathisele esibukweni sakho lapho uzoyibona khona nsuku zonke.
• Bazise uma benza into kahle. Bafuna ukwazi ukuthi ujabulile ngabo nokuthi benza kahle.
• Yiba mnene lapho bekwenza kabi. Ingane yakho ifuna ukwenza okufanele kodwa inezinto okufanele izenze nezindawo okufanele ibe nazo. Ungehli kakhulu emaphutheni – basakucabanga konke futhi banendlela okumele bayihambe. Bheka amaphutha njengamathuba okubafundisa okuthile okubalulekile.
• Ungabi nemithetho eminingi futhi uhambisane naleyo onayo. Imithetho eminingi nemiphumela egcwele yonke indawo izobadida futhi izobeka inkawu emhlane wakho. Uma ubafundisa ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi bayakwazi ukuphunyula, bazoqhubeka. Ubungakhathazeka uma bengakwenzi.
• Sebenzisa u-'cha' ngobumnene nangokulinganisela. Ufuna ukukhuthaza ukuhlola nokuhlola kwabo ngomhlaba kanye nendawo yawo kuwo. Baqondise, kodwa ungasusi ukuziqalela kwabo. Futhi ungabaniki isizathu esingaphezu kwalokho okufanele bakusebenzise kuwena.
• Banikeze inkululeko nendawo yokudlala futhi ukhuthaze ukuhlola kwabo ngokudlala ngokomzimba nangokomcabango. Sekela imizamo yabo yokuqala umdlalo ukuze bezwe amandla abo okuthonya indawo yabo.
• Khuthaza ukwenza izinqumo kodwa unciphise ukukhetha ('Ungathanda ukugeza kuqala noma ukhethe izingubo zokulala kuqala? Ungathanda ukugqoka ihembe elibomvu noma ihembe eliphuzi namuhla? Ungakhetha ummbila noma ukwatapheya ngokudla kwakho kwakusihlwa?' Bese-ke, mhlawumbe uma sebebakhudlwana ... 'Ungathanda ukungenzela itiye noma ikhofi?' Oh ake sizitike ngokuba nokwenzeka okuhle kwakho konke okwesikhashana.)
• Ungazizwa unecala ngokuzinika isikhathi sakho ukuze ushaje kabusha. Izimpi zizoba lula uma usugcwalisiwe.
• Yiba nemikhuba yokulala. Isikhathi sokulala kule minyaka singakhandla kuwo wonke umuntu. Yenzani isiko futhi nikuvumele kube okuthandeka kini nobabili - indaba, ukugona, isifutho se-lavender ezungeze igumbi, ukuqabula, namagama athi, 'Ngiyakuthanda. Umfana Omuhle Wasebusuku,' - noma okunye.

Iminyaka engu-4.

• Izoqala ukugxeka futhi izochaza umhlaba ngamagama alula. Izinto nabantu zizolunga noma zingalungile, ezinhle noma ezimbi, ezinhle noma ezingezinhle.
• Bazoqala ukuqaphela amandla amazwi abo futhi kwesinye isikhathi bazowasebenzisela ukuthola indlela yabo noma ukulawula abanye. Ulwazi lwabo lolimi lusazoxega, ngakho-ke bavame ukusekela abakushoyo ngezenzo (ukushaya, ukusunduza, ukubamba) noma okungasho amazwi (iphimbo, ivolumu, isimo sobuso, ukuma/ukuma).
• Izoba ukuncintisana.
• Usazofiphalisa okungokoqobo kanye nenganekwane ngezinye izikhathi. Angase akhulume amanga, izindaba eziwubukhazikhazi, noma abe nabangane/abangane abacabangayo.
• Basakha umuzwa wabo wokuzibona futhi bezama ukuzimela, ngakho bangase babe nenkani, badelele futhi baqine.
• Izokwenza zonke izinhlobo zezinto ukugwema isikhathi sokulala.
• Kungenzeka ube namaphupho amabi.
• Angase hlakulela ukwesaba zobumnyama noma ube nomcabango okhathazekile wokuhlukaniswa nomzali noma umnakekeli.
• Uzoqala ukujabulela ukudlala nezinye izingane kunokumane uhambisane nazo.
• Bazovivinya imikhawulo yabo nawe kodwa basazoba nomdlandla wokujabulisa futhi bakusize lapho bekwazi.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

• Lapho ubeka imithetho, xoxa nabo ngokuthi kungani imithetho ibalulekile. Banelukuluku lokwazi futhi bathuthukisa imibono yabo mayelana nokuthi umhlaba usebenza kanjani. Akusho ukuthi 'bazoyithola' ngokushesha, noma ukuthi bazothobela.
• Gcina izicelo zakho zilula.
• Bafuna kakhulu ukukujabulisa. Bazise noma nini lapho ubona ukuziphatha okuhle.
• Ungaxabani nengane eneminyaka emine. Ungenzi nje. Bayokwenza noma yiluphi usuku futhi uma bengenawo amagama noma impikiswano ezwakalayo, bazohlala bebuza ukuthi 'kungani'.
• Uma kukhulunywa ngokuziphatha ngendlela engathandeki, buza ukuthi kwenzekeni kodwa ungabuzi ukuthi kungani bekwenze lokho. Ukubuza 'Kungani wenze lokho?' izovele ikhuthaze amanga ngoba umngcele phakathi kwefantasy neqiniso emhlabeni wengane eneminyaka emine ukhululekile kakhulu - kakhulu.
• Uma benza okuthile okungalungile, sebenzisa imiphumela emnene kodwa uchaze ukuthi kungani ukuziphatha kungalungile nokuthi uyazi ukuthi bangenza kangcono ngokuzayo. Badinga ukwazi ukuthi uyakholelwa kubo - bazokwenza njengoba wenza.
• Ungaguquguquki. Uma ungacabangi ukuthi kubalulekile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuphoqelela umthetho, ingane yakho, ngokuqondakalayo, izocabanga ukuthi ngeke kuhlale kubalulekile ukuwulandela.
• Khuthaza ukuzimela kwabo kodwa khumbula ukuthi basebancane. Makube ngabantu abancane lapho becindezelekile noma bekhathele.
• Baqabule futhi ubagone kakhulu, nakuba 'sengabantu abakhulu manje.'

Iminyaka emihlanu.

• Izokuqonda ukubaluleka kwemithetho kodwa ingase iphambuke emithethweni lapho idlala. Imithetho ivame 'ukuguquguquka' - kubo okungenani.
• Angasola abanye ngokukopela uma bengawini umdlalo.
• Uzoqala ukukhombisa uzwela nokuqonda ukuthi abanye abantu bangase babe nemibono ehlukile kweyabo.
• Bazokwazi ukwabelana kodwa basengathola kunzima, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa ezintweni zabo ezikhethekile.
• Kungase kusabe ukwehluleka, ukugxekwa kanye nezinto ezixakile njengezipoki noma izilo.
• Isikhathi sokunaka sizoqala ukwanda okuzoba nomthelela ohlotsheni lwezingxoxo ozokwazi ukuba nazo nabo.
• Kungase kubonakale 'njengochwepheshe' kukho konke.
• Uzojabulela ukuncokola futhi uzoqala ukuhlakulela amahlaya 'ebhodwe'.
• Bazobe befuna ukuzenzela izinqumo, ikakhulukazi mayelana nokuthi bazogqokani nokuthi bazodlani.
• Uma uqala esikoleni, kungase kube nomsindo, ukuzwela kakhulu noma ukukhathala kunokuvamile. Kuyakhathaza ukuhlala uthule futhi ugxilise ingqondo isikhathi eside.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

• Khuthaza noma yini ezokwenza ingane yakho inyakaze, ikakhulukazi uma iseqenjini noma ithimba nabanye. Lokhu kuzosiza ingane yakho ukuba ithuthukise amakhono abalulekile njengokushintshana, ukuzwana nabanye, ukusebenza ndawonye, ​​ukuxoxisana, ukuyekethisa, nokuwina noma ukulahlekelwa ngomusa.
• Beka eceleni isikhathi usuku nosuku ukuze udlale nengane yakho noma nichithe isikhathi esisodwa ndawonye. Lokhu kuzonikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokukuvumela ukuthi ungene emhlabeni wabo, ozohlala ungenye yezindawo ezinhle kakhulu ongaba kuzo. Kusuka lapha ungathola umuzwa wokuthi kwenzekani ezingqondweni zabo ezichuma kahle.
• Qala ukwandisa ukwazi ukufunda ngokomzwelo kwengane yakho ngokuqamba nokuxoxa ngemizwa.
• Xhuma imiklomelo nezibopho. 'Kunganjani ungisize ngisuse itafula bese ungathola uphudingi?'
• Qhubeka ugcine imithetho ilula futhi uzame ukungabi miningi kakhulu.

Iminyaka eyisithupha.

• Kungenzeka ukuthi bazokwazi okuningi kunawe. Babuze nje.
• Ingase iqale ukucasuka futhi.
• Angaqala ukuhlola imikhawulo kodwa asazofuna ukukujabulisa futhi akusize.
• Bayofuna ukudunyiswa ngomsebenzi wabo wesikole nangezinto ezinhle abazenzayo.
• Uzofuna ukwazi amakhono amasha futhi azizwe enekhono.
• Ungase ukhathazeke ngokuba kude nawe.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

• Khuthaza imizamo yabo futhi ubonge lapho besebenze kanzima.
• Khuthaza umzamo phezu komphumela ukuze ubasize bathuthukise ingqondo yokukhula kanye nokuzethemba okuqinile emandleni abo okuzuza.
• Qinisekisa ukuthi bathola ukwesekwa abakudingayo uma bedonsa kanzima esikoleni.
• Gwema ukudumisa ngokweqile noma ukudumisa okungasho lutho futhi ubazise ukuthi bakhethekile, kodwa banjalo nabanye abantu.

Iminyaka eyisikhombisa.

• Bangase bathambekele ekukhonondeni, ngokuvamile ngabazali babo noma imithetho, kodwa futhi mayelana nabangane nezinye izingane.
• Uzozizwa engaqondwa abaningi.
• Kungaba okumangalisayo ngesikole, abangani noma impilo nje jikelele.
• Uzozama ukusebenzisa amagama ukuze akhulume ngendlela azizwa ngayo kodwa angase abe ekhungathekile futhi ethukuthele lapho becasukile.
• Uzobe eqaphela ukuthi abanye abantu bacabangani.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

• Lalela futhi uqinisekise lokho abakuzwayo futhi wazi ukuthi awudingi ukulungisa izinkinga zabo.
• Xoxani ngokuthi bangazixazulula kanjani izinto ezibabangela izinkinga. Banike isikhala futhi ubakhuthaze ukuthi baqhamuke nemibono yabo.
• Ungadonselwa kumadrama.
• Ungasheshi ucabange ukuthi izinto zimapeketwane ngoba bethi zinjalo.
• Gxumela kokuphozithivu.

Iminyaka eyisishiyagalombili.

• Uzofuna ukuthi ucabange ngendlela abacabanga ngayo futhi ngeke ube nokubekezelela okuncane ngokuhlukana kwakho kwemibono.
• Kuzozwela kakhulu kulokho okucabangayo ngabo.
• Uzovame ukulwa nomama.
• Ngeke kube khona okumpunga okuningi. Izinto zizoba mnyama noma zimhlophe, zilungile noma zingalungile, zizinhle noma zimbi.
• Lokhu kuthambekela kokucabanga ngokuphelele kungase kubangele inkinga encane ngobungane. Ziduduze ngokwazi ukuthi owakho ngeke kube nguwena kuphela umuntu omncane obhekene nalokhu. Bazolunga – lena ingxenye lapho befunda khona ngobungane kanye nendlela yokuphilisana nabantu.

Ukwesekwa abakudingayo.

• Uma uncoma ukuziphatha kwabo okuhle, cacisa ngalokho abakwenzile.
• Gwema ukuphikisana noma nini lapho ungakwazi. Ngokucabanga kwabo okumnyama nokumhlophe, ingxabano izosho nje ukuthi othile ulungile (bona) futhi othile unephutha (wena). Kunalokho, bacele ukuthi bachaze umbono wabo futhi ubakhuthaze ukuba babone izinto ngama-engeli ahlukene.
• Chithani isikhathi esiningi ndawonye ukuze niqinise ubudlelwano bokuhoxa okuza ngesikhathi sokuthomba.

Iminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye.

• Abangane bazoqala ukubaluleka kakhulu kunabazali, futhi lokhu kuzoqhubeka nasebusheni.
• Lokho abangani babo abakucabangayo kuzoqala ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu.
• Izonciphisa insimu yobungane ngokuba nobungane obuseduze, kodwa buncane kubo.
• Uzokwabelana ngamahlaya nezimfihlo nabangani.
• Izophikisana nemithetho neziqondiso futhi ingase ingakuhloniphi.
• Uzokwazi ukuba nothando nobuwula kodwa futhi uzothuthukisa ikhono lokuzicabangela yena yedwa, ingxabano kanye nolaka.

Okufanele ngikwenze.

• Banikeze amathuba okuzimela kanye nokuzenzela izinqumo.
• Gwema ukuba umphathi kakhulu noma ukuqondisa.
• Bakhuthaze ukuba baqale ukucabanga ngezinto ngenye indlela, 'Ubani angathini ngalokho?' 'Ucabanga ukuthi wazizwa kanjani lapho kwenzeka lokho?'

Iminyaka eyishumi kuya kweyishumi nanye.

• Ukucasuka kobuntwana kuzobe kwehlile manje. Kujabulele ngoba ubusha uzwile ukuthi uzipholele futhi isendleleni.
• Basengaphikisana ngemithetho kanye nesidingo kanye nemininingwane yayo.
• Sizozama ukuchaza ukungaziphathi kahle ngezaba nezizathu. Bazolwa kanzima ukuze bathole i-ophole kulo mthetho.
• Izithembiso ziba zibalulekile futhi bazokhumbula YONKE INTO – ngaphandle uma sekuyithuba labo lokususa udoti.

Okufanele ngikwenze.

• Ungenzi izithembiso ongeke ukwazi ukuzigcina. Uma sebenokuthile kuwe, banawe.
• Gwema ukuphikisana nabo noma nini lapho ungakwazi. Ngokuvamile bayoba nengxabano ngayo yonke into. Yizwa ukuthi bathini, yenza isinqumo sakho, bese ukhipha.
• Bavumele bakusunduzele ngezindlela eziphephile - bavumele bazame izinto ezihlukene, baveze eyabo imibono, futhi bazenzele ezabo izinqumo uma kufanele.
• Yazi lapho imingcele yakho futhi ube ukulungele ukusebenzisa imiphumela lapho benza isinqumo esibi. Yenza umphumela mayelana nokuziphatha kwabo, hhayi ngokuthi bangobani.

Ubusha

• Abangane bayoba ababaluleke kakhulu kunomkhaya. Usabalulekile, kodwa kukhona okumele bakwenze - thola ukuthi bayoba ngubani lapho bengena emhlabeni njengomuntu omdala onempilo, ozimele. Njengoba nje bekufanele wenze ngeminyaka yabo.
• Lokho ontanga yabo abakucabangayo ngabo kuyoba umthombo wokucindezeleka kubo okwesikhashana, kukhuphuke kakhulu emantombazaneni eneminyaka engu-13 nabafana eneminyaka engu-15. Bangase benze umzamo owengeziwe ukuze bazame ukufanelana nontanga yabo. Lokhu kungase kuhlanganise ukwenza izinqumo eziwubuwula noma ukuzifaka ezimweni eziyingozi. Phefumula. Kuzophela.
• Bazoba nengxabano kakhulu futhi bazophusha ngokumelene nawe kakhulu. Lokhu kuhambisana ngokuphelele nokuzidela kwabo kwentsha kanye nokuhlola kwabo ngokuzimela.
• Bangase baqhelane kakhulu nawe ngokomzwelo (ungakhathazeki – bazobuya kodwa mhlawumbe ngeke baze bashiye ubusha babo).
• Angahle angafuni ukubonakala esidlangalaleni nawe - noma ngabe ukahle kangakanani.
• Bazozama ngesithombe sabo, ubunjalo babo, kanye nendlela abayiyo emhlabeni.
• Bangase baqale ucansi.
• Bangase babe namawala futhi bangase baqale ukuthatha ubungozi. (Ukuze uthole incazelo egcwele yokuthi kungani benza lokhu, bona lapha .)
• Bazoba nobuciko futhi bazoqala ukucabanga ngomhlaba ngezindlela ezithakazelisa ngempela, ezihlukene.
• Bazokwenza sengathi umbono wakho ngabo awunandaba kodwa unendaba - njengakuqala.
• Ngokuvamile bazofunda kabi izinkulumo zakho ezithinta imizwa - ukufunda intukuthelo, ubutha noma ukudumala lapho ungezwa lutho olufana nalokhu ( Bheka lapha ukuqonda ukuqubuka kwemizwelo kwentsha).
• Umjikelezo wabo wokulala uzoshintsha. Isigqi sabo se-circadian sizobahambisa cishe amahora amathathu edlule lapho bebesezingane. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bazolala emahoreni amathathu edlule esikhathini abebesijwayele futhi ngaphandle uma sebekhathele ngokuphelele, kuzoba nzima ngokwebhayoloji kubo ukuthi basheshe balale. Bazodinga cishe amahora angu-9-10 okulala ngakho bazodinga ukulala kamuva.
• Bazofuna ukuzenzela izinqumo ngezinto ezibathintayo.

Okufanele ngikwenze.

• Ungahluleli noma ugxeke - badinga uthando lwakho nokuxhumana kwakho kunangaphambili.
• Qonda ukuthi badinga ukuthola ukuzimela ngaphandle kwakho. Banike isikhala sokwenza lokhu. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izindinganiso zabo cishe zizohambisana nezakho.
• Yazi ukuthi ingane yakho ayikulahli, kodwa izitholela eyayo indlela emhlabeni - yingxenye ebalulekile, enempilo yokuba umuntu omdala ozimele - noma ngabe kubuhlungu.
• Yeka ukulawula futhi uhambe ngokuthonya. Uma ulwa kanzima ukuze uzilawule, zizophusha kakhulu kuwe. Iqiniso liwukuthi uma kuziwa endabeni yobusha, asinakho ukulawula - bayonquma ukuthi bakuhilela kangakanani ekuphileni kwabo, ukuthi bakutshela okungakanani, nokuthi unegunya elingakanani. Yenza kube lula kubo ukuthi beze kuwe uma okuthile kwenzeka noma lapho bedinga ukuqondiswa.
• Banikeze ulwazi, kodwa ungakhulumi.
• Ungase wazi noma ungazi ukuthi baqala nini ukuya ocansini, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi babe nolwazi neziqondiso abazidingayo ukuze bahlale bephephile ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Bona lapha ukuthola umhlahlandlela weminyaka yobudala ngalokho okumele bakwazi.
• Ungazithengisi izingxabano - bacele ukuthi basho udaba lwabo futhi bakhulume nawe ngobuhle nobubi balokho abakufunayo. Ngokwemvelo, intsha izokweqa izinto ezinhle futhi ibukele phansi okubi. Bakhuthaze ukuthi bakutshele ezinye zezingozi - akukho okuhlala kumnyama noma kumhlophe.
• Yiba namandla okuzola - phefumula futhi ulinde ukuthi igagasi lidlule phezu kwakho. Kuthatha amasekhondi angu-90 ukuthi umuzwa ucushwe, uphakame futhi uqale ukufiphala, inqobo nje uma ungenzi lutho ukuwunikeza umoya-mpilo.
• Basize bahlele kusengaphambili futhi babone emakhoneni, kodwa ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
• Khuthaza ukuxhumana kwabo komphakathi futhi ubanikeze indawo yokuqinisa ubudlelwano babo. Ingxenye ebalulekile yentuthuko yabo ukunciphisa ukuzimela kwabo esizweni somndeni nokwenza lokhu. Ukwenza lokhu, bazozizwa benesidingo esengeziwe sokuqinisa ubudlelwano babo nesizwe sobungani. Khuthaza futhi ukweseke lokhu nomaphi lapho ungakwazi khona.
• Basize bathole izindlela eziphephile zokubeka engcupheni njengezemidlalo - ukuncintisana nokungaqhudelani.
• Bazise ukuthi uzokwenza noma yini ongayenza ukuze ubaqoqe kunoma yisiphi isimo uma befuna ukubuya ekhaya - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izimo zinjani nokuthi kungenzeka kuphuze kangakanani noma kukude kangakanani.
• Ungavumeli lutho lube nemingcele uma kuziwa kulokho abangakhuluma ngakho nawe.
• Lapho kungenzeka khona, bavumele balale ukuze babambe ukusilela kokulala.
• Lalela kakhulu kunokukhuluma.

Futhi ekugcineni…

Yazi ukuthi kusukela ewusana kuya komuntu omdala, kunezinto ezibalulekile okufanele zenziwe. Kunezinto okufanele zifundwe, amaphutha okufanele enziwe, imingcele okufanele iphushwe, ukuzimela kutholakale. Kuzoba ukuzijabulisa okuhle, okukhathazayo, okudidayo, kwesinye isikhathi kusabise, kwesinye isikhathi kukhungathekise, kwesinye isikhathi kuhlukumezeke kuwo wonke umuntu. Yiba nesineke futhi ungathathi amathuba abo ukuze ufunde futhi ukhule kude nabo ngokuthatha amaphutha abo kanye nokuziphatha kwabo okungaphansi kokuhle mathupha. Ukukhula kwabo okukhulu kuzovela emaphutheni abawenzayo kanye nemingcele abaqhudelana nayo.

Noma ngabe kukhona ukwesekwa okuqine kakhulu, bazokwenza amaphutha - kwesinye isikhathi amangalisayo! Inqobo nje uma benokwesekwa abakudingayo, amaphutha abo ayoba ngokukhula kwabo, hhayi ukuba umzali wakho.

Ngokohlangothi lwethu, kubalulekile ukuthi sibe khona ngothando, ukukhuliswa kanye nesandla esiqinile ukuze sibaqondise futhi sibe nemingcele ukuze bazizwe bemelene nabo. Ukuqonda ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha okuvamile kwezingane kanye nentsha kuzokwenza lokhu kube lula. Ukukhula kuwuhambo lokufunda, ukuhlola nokuhlola - kubo nakithi.

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