Izethulo Ezimangalisayo Ezivela Kochwepheshe Babazali Abasezingeni Lomhlaba Engqungqutheleni Yomama
Akuthathi isikhathi eside ukugcwala imfuhlumfuhlu, amathoyizi, amaphepha kanye nohlu lwakho olukhula njalo lwezinto okumelwe uzenze! Imfuhlumfuhlu ezindaweni zempilo yakho ingaholela ekucindezelekeni, ekucindezelekeni, ekukhathazekeni nasekungakwazini ukwenza izinqumo ezinhle. Thola ukuthi ungawakha kanjani amasistimu ukuze uwenze lula noma uwasuse ekhaya lakho nempilo yakho.
Isikhathi sokunqoba ukukhathala futhi usize nobabili wena nengane yakho nithole ubuthongo obuhle kunawo wonke. Ukuntuleka kokulala noma ukungalali ngokwanele ezinganeni nakubantu abadala kungabangela ukushintsha kwemizwelo, ubunzima bokunaka, kanye nezinkinga zokufunda, ukulahlekelwa ukudla, ukudla ngokweqile, nokugcina isisindo. Thola izimpendulo zemibuzo obuzwa kakhulu mayelana nokulala, njengokulala ubusuku bonke, ukulala wedwa noma ukulala.
Uma uzwa sengathi uqhuma lapho ingane yakho icupha ibhomu lakho langaphakathi, ungafunda ubuciko bokuzola lapho ubhekana nezinselele ezinkulu zempilo ezingachichima empilweni yomndeni wakho. Ngisho noma ingane yakho iqala ukuxabana, ihlukumezekile, ingahloniphi noma ingasabeli kuqala, ungasabalalisa isimo futhi uphinde ukwazi ukulawula umphumela ongase ube yingozi uma ufunda ukuthi kanjani kule phrezentheshini.
Asikho isikhathi esanele sokuba uMama akwenze konke - ukuba khona kubantwana bakho, umyeni wakho futhi uzinakekele nawe. Thola ukuthi yini edala ubumpofu besikhathi, ukuthi ungazicacisa kanjani izinto eziza kuqala kuwe, funda ukwenqaba futhi uzinike isikhathi salokho okubalulekile kuwe.
Omama abaningi basebenzisa amagama athi, “Cha, ngeke sikwazi ukukukhokhela lokho.” Lena into embi kakhulu ukuyisho ngokuzwakalayo futhi ufundise izingane zakho. Uma uqhubeka futhi uphuphe kakhudlwana ungakwazi ukufeza izinto oziphuphayo. Thola ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokho nokuthi ungazizwa kanjani unamandla uma kuziwa endabeni yemali.
Wonke umama ufuna ukwakha leso sibopho esihlala njalo nengane yakhe. Kodwa kudingeka siqiniseke ukuthi singabazali babo kuqala, hhayi umngane wabo. Abazali bangazihola kanjani, bazibeke imingcele futhi bazijezise izingane zabo kuyilapho ngesikhathi esifanayo bakha ukuxhumana okunempilo yonke.
Ukukhulisa Izingane Ezingenalo Umthwalo Wemfanelo Futhi Ukungaziholeli
Ilungelo kuyinkambiso entsha engenampilo emphakathini efundisa izingane zakho ukuthi zingayizulazula kanjani impilo. Akudingekile ukuba wesabe ukufundisa izindinganiso okholelwa ukuthi zilungile. Ngokwakha izikhathi ezibalulekile ezichazayo empilweni yengane yakho ungathonya amaphethini abo okucabanga futhi udale izibopho ezihlala njalo.
Okufanele Ukwenze Uma Umyeni Wakho Ezizwa Ecindezelekile Ngokuphila Komkhaya
Wonke umuntu uphatha umzali ngendlela ehlukile, futhi amadoda akusingatha ngendlela ehluke kakhulu kunabesifazane. Ukubona izimpawu zokuthi umyeni wakho ucindezeleke ngokuphila komkhaya kungasiza umshado wakho nezingane zakho kanye nalokho ongakwenza ukuze umsize aphinde alinganisele.
Ziningi izeluleko ezivela kubangani bethu, emndenini, kongoti ngisho nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana ezifunza izinganekwane ngomshado. Ake sinqamule iqiniso ngomshado kwabashadile asebeshade iminyaka engu-50 bathi umshado makube yisenzo, ungabi ibizo (Umshado).
Ingabe umlutha wezobuchwepheshe uphazamisa ubuchopho bezingane zethu? Thola ukuthi amafoni ahlakaniphile, amageyimu evidiyo kanye nenkundla yezokuxhumana kuwuthinta kanjani ubuchopho bengane nendlela yokuqapha ukusetshenziswa kwayo kobuchwepheshe futhi ugcine izingane zakho ziphephile PLUS okufanele ukwenze uma wesaba ukuthi sekwephuze kakhulu futhi seziluthekile kakade.
Ukwenza isikhathi sokuhamba nesomndeni sibe nenjongo, sifundise futhi sithengeke kungaba yinto engokoqobo emndenini wakho. Zitholele ukuthi ungathuthukisa kanjani ukuxhumana okujulile nomndeni wakho futhi unikeze izingane zakho isipiliyoni sohlu lwamabhakede ezingasoze zasikhohlwa ngisho noma ungakholwa ukuthi unaso isikhathi noma izinsiza zezimali... Sizokukhombisa ukuthi kanjani.
WONKE umama unecala likamama! Ukuvumela icala likamama lilawule izenzo zakho, amazwi kanye nendlela ocabanga ngayo ngawe kungaholela emiphumeleni elimazayo. Thola ukuthi ungawamisa kanjani amahloni, ukuqhathanisa nokufuna ukuphelela cishe bonke Omama abazabalaza nakho futhi ufunde indlela yokujabulela uhlobo lwakho lobumama.
Kunezinto eziningi ezidonsa izintambo zethu zesikhwama, akuvamile ukuba "nenyanga eningi kakhulu ekupheleni kwemali yakho." Ngakho-ke uzenza kanjani izinqumo ezihlakaniphile zezimali - ukonga ekolishi, umhlalaphansi, umshwalense nokunye - ukuze wena nomndeni wakho nenze izinto enizazisayo futhi nifundise izingane zakho ukwenza okufanayo.
Njengabesifazane, sinemiyalezo eminingi ezayo kithi mayelana nendlela okufanele sibukeke ngayo, yini okufanele siyigqoke kanye nendlela esizazisa ngayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho isivele yakha ubudlelwano obungenampilo nomzimba wayo obungalungiseka uma uyibamba ngesikhathi. Funda ukuthi ungawuthanda kanjani umzimba WAKHO njengoba unjalo futhi ufundise izingane zakho ukuba zenze okufanayo.
Lapho ubhekene ne-ADHD, ukukhathazeka nezinye izinkinga enganeni, imithi ayiyona impendulo engcono kakhulu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Thola ukuthi yiziphi izinketho ongakhetha kuzo njengezinguquko zokudla, amafutha abalulekile nezithasiselo nokuthi wazi kanjani lapho imithi iyindlela efanele enganeni yakho.
Isitayela sakho somzali kufanele sihluke njengengane yakho. Ngokuthola amandla obuntu bengane yakho nezinto eziyibangelayo, ungakwazi ukuxhumana kangcono futhi wakhe ubudlelwano nayo futhi usize ukwenza lula ukufunda nokukhula kwayo. Thola ukuthi kanjani.
Ukudla okunomsoco kuyisici esibalulekile ekwakheni imikhuba enempilo kusenesikhathi... kodwa uzenza kanjani izingane zakho zidle izinto ezinhle? Sebenzisa leli "thuluzi eliyimfihlo" ukuze uthole ngisho nalabo abakhethayo ukuthi badle ukudla okunempilo nokunomsoco.
Ngakho usola ukuthi ingane yakho ingase ibonise ezinye zezimpawu ze-Autism, ADHD noma I-Sensory Disorder. Thola ukuthi ujike kuphi nokuthi wenzeni, ungakusekela kanjani ukuziphatha okuyinselele okuvela kubo nokuthi wenzeni uma ubona izimpawu.
Uthini... uyivula kanjani ingxoxo... kufanele...? Izithombe ezingcolile zingavela kalula ngisho nasekusesheni okungenacala kuyi-Internet kodwa zingaphuma ekulawuleni ngokushesha. Funda ukuthi umama angazivikela kanjani izingane zakhe ukuthi zingavezwa nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma kwenzeka!
Ingabe uhlushwa ukuhlukumezeka kokukhashelwa? Uthethelela futhi upholise kanjani ubuhlungu obubangelwa izithombe zobulili ezingcolile, izindaba ezithinta imizwa, izindaba zenyama emshadweni noma ngabe uwena ozibandakanya kuwo. Kungaba isiqalo sobudlelwano obuxhumene kakhulu nowakwakho uma uzazi lezi zimfihlo.
Kusukela ekucasukeni kwezingane ezicathulayo kuye ekukhwayeni kwentsha, kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuthi ungayisingatha kanjani imizwelo emikhulu yezingane zethu (nokungavumeli ukuthi kubangele eyethu). Thola ukuthi ungayisiza kanjani ingane yakho lapho iklabalasa, imemeza, ikhala futhi ishaya iminyango ngokuyisiza ukuthi iqonde i-IQ yayo engokomzwelo futhi ibhekane nakho.
Ingabe ulahlekelwa ukulawula ikhono lakho lokuqondisa ukukhula kwengane yakho njengoba ithathelwa indawo "isibuko somphakathi?" Inkundla yezokuxhumana ingaveza umbono onjalo onganembile weqiniso. Funda indlela yokufundisa ingane yakho ukuzethemba ngaphandle kokuncika esibukweni somphakathi senkundla yezokuxhumana nabangane.
Kuyajabulisa kakhulu ukuba ugogo. Ufuna ukusiza nganoma iyiphi indlela ongayenza. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi imibono nosizo lwakho alufunwa noma lungalimaza ubuhlobo bakho nomzukulu wakho kanye nengane yakho. Umhlahlandlela kaGogo wokwabelana ngemibono yakho nokungenelela ekukhuliseni abazukulu bakho abayigugu kanye nendlela yokufinyelela ukulingana okuthambile phakathi kokuzijabulisa kwaGogo kanye nomzanyana oya kuye.
Siyakuthola... ukuba ngumama kuwumsebenzi onzima futhi ukuthola isikhathi sokuzinakekela kungase kubonakale kungenakwenzeka, kodwa akudingekile ukuba kube kanjalo. Sebenzisa lokhu okulula ukukwenza, ukuzivivinya okuqinisekisiwe kanye nezinhlelo zokudla ukuze zikusize ulinganisele impilo yakho futhi ubuyele ekuzizweni njengomama omuhle onguye.
Sike sizwe izindaba ezingasile zikaMamezala. Kungenzeka sesike satshela eyodwa noma ezimbili. Iqiniso liwukuthi kungase kube nzima ukugwema ukuncintisana ukuze umyeni wethu anakwe, izingane zethu zithande futhi ubani olungile. Thola ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka, ukuthi ungakugwema kanjani nokuthi ungasusa kanjani ukungezwani noMkhwekazi wakho, noma ngabe izinto zihlanya kangakanani.
Ukuziphatha okubi akudingekile ukuba kube ukucasuka kuphela futhi kungaholela ekuziphatheni okulimazayo kakhulu esikhathini esizayo uma kungalungiswa. Funda ukuthi ungakumisa kanjani ngempumelelo ukuziphatha okubi emikhondweni yakho bese uhlehlisa imiphumela eyingozi ngalo mdwebo olandelwayo.
Ubuwazi ukuthi ukucindezeleka akuveli ebuchosheni bakho njengoba kwenzeka emathunjini akho - ubuchopho bakho besibili? Thola ukuthi izinguquko ezilula endleleni odla ngayo zingenza kanjani umthelela omkhulu kumazinga wamandla, ukugxila nempilo engokwengqondo (eyakho neyongane yakho)
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kufanele ushiye ingane yakho iye emsebenzini, emihlanganweni noma eminye imisebenzi, noma udinga nje ikhefu ngezikhathi ezithile, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuhlukana nengane yakho kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokukhula kwayo (kanye neyakho njengoMama). Thola amathiphu okuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokhu wena kanye nengane yakho ukuze ukwazi ukwenza okudingeka ukwenze njengoMama futhi nengane yakho ingakhula kule nqubo.
Kulula ukuthukuthela ngesikhathi kunengqungquthela efana nalena. Uthola imibono eminingi emihle kakhulu, futhi usulungele ukugingqa nayo yonke. Kodwa udinga ngempela ukuthengwa komyeni wakho nosizo lwakhe ukuze wenze izinguquko zangempela emzini wakho. Thola ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani lokho ngaphandle kokulwa nokugedla amazinyo.
Thola ukuthi wazi kanjani ukuthi ukuhweba ngeyakho kanye nezinyathelo zokuqala okufanele uzithathe uma kuvela kuchwepheshe oholayo osize izinkulungwane zabesifazane ukuthi baqale futhi bakhulise amabhizinisi abo. Thola amathuluzi owadingayo nokuthi ungaqala kanjani manje.
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AWUWUWEDWA! Ungaba umzali ophumelelayo futhi uqhubeke ukhulisa izingane ngendlela yakho ehlukile. Funda ukuthi ungazinikeza kanjani wena kanye nezingane zakho umusa ohlanganisa ukubeka imingcele, ukufuna ukusekelwa kanye nokumelana necala. Thola ukuthi yini esebenzayo manje nokuthi ungagwema kanjani amaphutha abanye engxoxweni eyodwa yetafula eliyindilinga.