Inyanga Yomlando Wabesifazane kanye noSuku Lwabesifazane Lwamazwe Ngamazwe, kokubili ngoNdasa, isikhathi esihle sabazali sokugubha impumelelo yamantombazane nabesifazane nezingane zabo. Futhi ukucabanga ngendlela esikhulisa ngayo amantombazane (izingane ezihlonza njengabesifazane) nsuku zonke kungakusiza ukhuthaze ukuzethemba nokuzethemba okuphezulu enganeni yakho.
Abesifazane benza ingxenye engaphezu kwengxenye yabantu bomhlaba, kodwa basabambe ngaphansi kwengxenye yezikhundla zobuholi kuhulumeni wase-US kanye nasezinkampanini ze-Fortune 500. Pho siwakhulisa kanjani amantombazane ukuze abe ngabaholi bakusasa abaqinile, abazethembayo?
UKHULUMA KANJANI NENTOMBAZANE YAKHO?
Kulula kakhulu ukuwela esimeni sokuncoma ukubukeka kwentombazane (“Umuhle kakhulu!”), ukubiza ukuziphatha kwayo ngokuthi “kuhle,” noma ukuyihalalisela lapho yenza okuthile ngokuphelele. Kunalokho, yamukela umqondo wokuthi a ukukhula kwengqondo , futhi ugubhe indodakazi yakho amaphutha nokwehluleka . Ukuzethemba endodakazini yakho kuzokhula uma ikwazi ukubeka engcupheni, yazi ukuthi umphumela ungase ungapheleli, futhi izothandwa futhi igujwe ngomzamo wayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyini impumelelo enkulu.
Ngokufanayo, abazali bangase bawele ogibeni lokubiza intombazane edla imbuya ngothi ngokuthi “induna” ngezwi lokweyisa. Kodwa-ke, leyo mibono eqinile ingamakhono obuholi obusha be-CEO engaba khona yesikhathi esizayo! Khuthaza indodakazi yakho ukuba izikhulumele yona nabanye, iqale ekhaya lakho. Lapho eveza umbono oqinile ngokuthile noma ongavumelani nawe, ungamakhela ukuzethemba ngokulalela ngempela umbono wakhe ngaphandle kokuwuchitha ngokushesha. Ngokubonisa ukuthi imicabango nemibono yakhe inenani, uyammisa ukuthi abe nesibindi nokuzethemba ukuveza imibono yakhe emakilasini esikhathi esizayo nasemagunjini okudlala.
Khuthaza intombazane yakho ukuthi idlale nayo ngokomzimba ukuthatha ingozi ephephile . Ukuqwala izihlahla, ukuba nodaka, nokudlala imidlalo esemncane kwakha ukuzethemba emandleni namandla omzimba wakhe.
UMHLABA UKHULUMA KANJANI NENTOMBAZANE YAKHO?
Ngisho namantombazane amancane, izikhangiso kanye amathonya abezindaba ngena empilweni yansuku zonke. Indodakazi yakho izofunda imilayezo mayelana nokuthi amantombazane “kufanele” abukeke kanjani noma ukuthi “kufanele” aziphathe kanjani. Njengomzali, ukuzivikela kwakho okuhle kule milayezo ukuwuhlahlela ngengane yakho. Uma kuvela izikhangiso phakathi nohlelo lwe-TV noma ividiyo eku-inthanethi, yima kancane bese ubuza indodakazi yakho, “Sithengisani lesi sikhangiso? Lesi sikhangiso siqhathaniswa kanjani nempilo yethu yangempela?"
Qaphela izinkolelo-ze zobulili ezethulwa kwabezindaba ezisetshenziswa umndeni wakho. Gcwalisa ikhaya lakho ngezincwadi, amathoyizi, nezinto zokuhloba ezingahambelani nezindima ezithile zobulili (isb., thenga izincwadi mayelana abasebenzi bokwakha besifazane futhi ukhuthaze amantombazane ukuthi ahlanganyele emisebenzini yezibalo nesayensi). Zama ukususa izinkomba ezisekelwe ebulilini zengane yakho, njengokuthi “inkosazana” noma “tomboy” noma amabinzana anjengokuthi “Amantombazane aziphatha ngaleyo ndlela.”
ULILINGANISELA INTOMBAZANE YAKHO?
Uma ungowesifazane okhulisa intombazane, ngokusobala uyisibonelo sowesifazane indodakazi yakho ezoba yiso. Unethuba lokumodela ukuqina , amandla, kanye ukuzethemba ngezikhathi eziyinselele.
- Mvumele akubheke ngenhlonipho uzibophezela kwabanye abantu besifazane nabesilisa.
- Esikhundleni sokusho ubukhulu noma isisindo somzimba wakho phambi kwendodakazi yakho, khuluma ngakho ngokwamandla, ukunethezeka, impilo , kanye nokubonga ngendlela ekuthwala ngayo osukwini lwakho.
- Lapho ukhuluma ngendlela ozichitha ngayo izinsuku zakho emsebenzini, buza indodakazi yakho: Yimuphi umehluko ofuna ukuwenza emhlabeni ngolunye usuku? Iyiphi inkinga ofuna ukuyixazulula?
Uma uyindoda ekhulisa indodakazi, qaphela noma iyiphi izinkolelo-ze zobulili empilweni yomndeni wakho wasekhaya.
- Indodakazi yakho kufanele ikubone wenza imisebenzi yasekhaya futhi ungakhuthaza ukudlala okungelula nokuwa nendodakazi yakho.
- Uma ukhuluma ngabantu besifazane empilweni yakho kwenze ngenhlonipho hhayi ngendlela encishanayo.
- Vumela indodakazi yakho ukuthi ithi “cha” kuwe futhi yamukele ukuthi cha ngempendulo, ezimeni eziphephile, ukuze ifunde ukuthi lelo gama lingaba namandla kangakanani.
Nakhu ukukhulisa amantombazane azithembayo, aqinile azoba abaxazululi bezinkinga nabaholi bethu bakusasa!
UKHOMBISA AMANTOMBAZANE UKUTHI OKWENZEKA
Amazwi anamandla akhuthazayo, akhulisa ukuzethemba, akhuthaze izingozi, nokugubha umehluko — konke kuyingxenye yokukhulisa intombazane. Indodakazi yakho ifuna ukuba ngubani lapho isikhulile? Ungamsiza kanjani ukuthi afike lapho? Kulokhu Fundisa. Dlala. Uthando . Isiqephu se-podcast, u-Rachel Robertson no-Claire Goss - ochwepheshe bezingane kanye nomama abangamantombazane abaziqhenyayo - bakhuluma ngayo yonke into kusukela ekumiseni ikhaya lakho ukuze libhekane nezinkolelo-ze zobulili, kuya ekusizeni amantombazane afeze amandla awo aphelele, nokuningi.
Ungakwazi futhi ukulalela lesi siqephu se-podcast ku -Spotify , Apple , Stitcher , kanye ne -Libsyn .
IZINSIZA EZININGI ZOKUKHULISA AMANTOMBAZANE AMAMANDLA, AMAZWE AMAZINGANE
- Asigubhe impumelelo yamantombazane nabesifazane, futhi seseke omama bethu abasebenzayo – sibheke ukuthi i-Bright Horizons igubha kanjani abesifazane ngoSuku Lwamazwe Ngamazwe Lwabesifazane kanye nazo zonke izinsuku.
- Funda kabanzi ukuze uqonde ubulili njengengxenye yobuntu obukhulayo bengane yakho, nokuthi ungasiza kanjani ukunqamula inkolelo-mbono yobulili.
- Funda mayelana nomehluko phakathi kokukhuthazwa nokudumisa , nokuthi lokhu kusebenza kanjani ekubeni umzali omuhle.
- Siza izingane zakho ukuba zithuthukise ukuzethemba kwazo kanye nokuzethemba ngokuba “ wena ngokuphelele .”
