Izindlela zakho zokukhulisa izingane zingase zehluke kubazali bakho ngenxa yezici zamasiko nezenhlalo-mnotho. Izinguquko eziningi emphakathini zisaqhubeka nokuba nomthelela endleleni abazali abakhulisa ngayo izingane zabo. Njengoba iminyaka ihamba, izinto eziza kuqala, izintandokazi, nokukhetha ziyashintsha, kukhombisa indlela abazali abaphatha ngayo amakhaya abo futhi bakhulise izingane zabo.
Eqinisweni, ayikho isayensi eqondile yokunquma ukuthi indlela yakho yokuba umzali ilungile noma ayilungile. Isitayela ngasinye sokukhulisa izingane sihlukile, kodwa bonke banomgomo ofanayo: ukukhulisa izingane ukuze zibe inguqulo engcono kakhulu yazo.
Njengabazali, ningase nikhethe izindlela ezihlukahlukene zokukhulisa izingane zenu ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene. Izitayela ezahlukene zokukhulisa izingane zibhekisela ezindleleni ezahlukene zokukhulisa izingane ezisetshenziswa abazali ekuphileni kwabo kwansuku zonke. Indlela wena mzali ingane yakho engaba nomthelela ngayo kuyo yonke into kusukela ekuziphatheni kwayo kuye ekuzethembeni kwayo. Yingakho kubalulekile ukunquma ukuthi iyiphi indlela noma isitayela sokukhulisa izingane okufanele usilandele futhi usisebenzise. Isitayela somzali kufanele sisekele ukukhula nokuthuthuka okunempilo ngoba amathonya anjalo ahlala kukho konke ukuphila komntwana. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi indlela yakho yokukhulisa izingane ikhuthaza ukukhula okunempilo nokuthuthuka. Ukukunikeza ulwazi ngezitayela ezahlukene zokukhulisa izingane, nazi izinhlobo ezine:
- Isigunyazo
Kungacatshangwa ukuthi umzali onegunya izitayela zigxile ekubekeni amandla negunya phezu kwezingane. Kubhekwa njengenkambo yokuqondisa izigwegwe kunazo zonke okufanele ithathwe, njengoba abanye abazali benomuzwa wokuthi le ndlela ingagxilisa ukuzithiba ezinganeni zabo. Abazali abanegunya babekela izingane zabo imingcele ekuvezeni imibono yazo futhi esikhundleni salokho baphoqelele izingane ukuba zilandele imithetho. Uma kubekwe ngokungenangqondo, ukwenza izingane zizizwe kabi ngamaphutha azo kungaba yinto egxilwe kuyo. Abazali bangase balahlekelwe umbono wokubaluleka kokwenza izingane zizenzele izinqumo ezinhle.
- Kuyavumela
Ukuba ngumzali okuvumelayo ngale ndlela imnene, futhi abazali bangenelela kuphela lapho kunenkinga enkulu. Inani elikhulu lokwethenjwa linikezwa ingane, okumvumela ukuba anqume ngokuvumelana nokwahlulela kwakhe. Izingane ezicela izinto kubazali abayekelelayo zingase zinikezwe amalungelo athile. Kuvame kakhulu ukuthi abazali abayekelelayo benze njengabangane kunabazali. Ngokuvamile, abazali bakhuthaza izingane zabo ukuba zikhulume ngezinkinga zazo nazo, kodwa abavamile ukuzama ukudikibalisa ukukhetha okubi noma ukuziphatha okubi, njengoba bekholelwa ukuthi izingane zingakwazi ukufunda yonke into zizodwa.
- Igunya
Ngaphandle kokwamukela isethi yemithetho nokusebenzisa imiphumela, abazali abanegunya bacabangele nemibono yezingane zabo. Bangase babeke imithetho eyisisekelo kodwa bangazishayi indiva ngokuphelele izizathu nokubonisana kwezingane. Abazali abagunyaziwe baqinisekisa imizwa yezingane zabo kodwa bagcizelele ukuthi, ekugcineni, yibona abaphethe. Abazali abathatha izinyathelo zokuvimbela izinkinga zokuziphatha bachitha umzamo nesikhathi ukuvimbela lezo zinkinga ngaphambi kokuba ziqale. Njengengxenye yesiyalo esihle, basebenzisa izinhlelo zokudumisa nokuvuza ukuze baqinise ukuziphatha okuhle. Lesi sitayela sokukhulisa umntwana sinikeza uhlobo lokulinganisela kwesiyalo nenkululeko enganeni.
- Ukungabandakanyeki
Abazali abaningi abangabandakanyi abazi kahle ukuthi izingane zabo zenzani. Cishe azisho noma yimiphi imithetho. Ukunakwa kwabazali, isiqondiso, nokukhuliswa kungase kuntuleke ezinganeni lapho abazali bekhetha ukukhulisa izingane ezingabandakanyi . Izingane ezikhuliswe abazali abangahlangene kulindeleke ukuthi zikwazi ukuzimela. Nakuba lokhu kungase kungabonakali kuyinhloso, ukuba umzali okungahileli kusho ezinye izici ezimpilweni zabo okudingeka bazibeke kuqala, ngaphandle kokunakekela noma ukukhulisa izingane zabo.
