Umjikelezo. Umjikelezo. Umjikelezo.
Sonke sizwe ngakho kusukela ngosuku lokuqala lokuba umzali. Udinga ukuzithola ngenjwayelo!
Ngakho-ke yini enkulu?
Kungani izingane zethu zidinga isimiso?
Ngibuze lo mbuzo ku-Erin O'Keefe, MA, Umqeqeshi Womzali Oqinisekisiwe we-PCI Womzali Wenhloso.
Lapho ingane yazi ukuthi yini okufanele ilindele, umhlaba wayo ukhululekile, kunengqondo.
U-Erin uchaza lokho okungenziwa yizingane:
- Yazisa ingane ukuthi yini okufanele ilindele.
- Ibanikeza umuzwa wokuthi ukuphila kuyabikezelwa.
- Isimiso siwukuzola, ukunikeza ingane umuzwa wokulondeka.
Ngemva kwesikhathi sokudlala bayageza, baxubhe amazinyo, bese ucula nabo izingoma, ubafundele incwadi, ubaqabule, bacime izibani bese bephuma ekamelweni abazobamba iqhaza kulo mkhuba. Baduduzwe yilolu hlobo lokungaguquguquki, bazi ukuthi yini okufanele bayilindele ngesikhathi sokulala.
Ngokwezinga eliphathekayo, libavumela ukuthi babambe iqhaza emisebenzini yansuku zonke. Ekugcineni, bazoqala ukwenza izinto ngokwabo, mhlawumbe bathathe isinyathelo sokukukhethela indaba ozoyifunda, noma ukuxubha awabo amazinyo. Nawa amanye amasu okusiza umndeni wakho ushintshele ohlelweni olushelelayo lwesikhathi sokulala.
Umkhuba, njengoba u-Erin ashilo, ungavumela izingane zethu ukuthi zibambe iqhaza emisebenzini yethu yansuku zonke (njengamakhono ayisisekelo empilo esikhulume ngawo no-Deborah we- Teach Preschool ).
Lokhu kusho ukuthi izinqubo zezingane zingasiza ekukhuthazeni ukuzimela kwazo.
Uma ingane yakho yazi ukuthi yini okufanele ikulindele ngokulandelayo, izimisele kakhulu ukukwenza (inkathi), kodwa futhi izimisele nakakhulu ukukwenza ngokwayo. Singakukhuthaza kanjani lokhu ngokwenza isimiso?
Imvamisa izindlela esizibekayo zizungeza amakhono ethu okuphila kwansuku zonke.
Bheka ezinye zezinqubo zethu zansuku zonke ezijwayelekile zezingane ekhaya lethu:
- Umjikelezo Wasekuseni : Vuka, ubukele uhlelo, yenza isidlo sasekuseni, ibhodwe, yidla ukudla kwasekuseni, ukugqoka, gqoka izicathulo nejazi, bese uphuma ngomnyango.
- Umjikelezo Wokulala : Yenza isidlo sasemini, yidla isidlo sasemini, dlala kancane, funda incwadi bese ulala.
- Isikhathi Sokulala : Geza, gqoka amaphijama, xubha amazinyo, ibhodwe, funda incwadi, bese ulala.
Uma sibheka izinqubo esizibekela izingane, singabona lapho zingaqala khona ukuzibambela mathupha. U-Erin uyavuma:
Qala ngokuhlola ukuthi yini ingane yakho ekwazi ukuyenza, ngokukhula, mhlawumbe ingane yakho enonyaka owodwa ingazama ukuzidlisa ukudla kwasekuseni, ingane yakho eneminyaka emine isilungele ukuqala ukuzigqoka ekuseni, noma ingane yakho eneminyaka eyisithupha ikulungele ukuxubha izinwele zayo.
Ukwenza isimiso sakho sifanelekele kangcono ukukhuthaza ukuzimela kungase kudinge ukuhlelwa kabusha okuncane, kodwa imiphumela iwufanele umzamo.
Ngokusekelwe emikhubeni yethu yezingane engiyishilo ngenhla, uHenry angaba (futhi ngezinye izikhathi) angaba nengxenye kulezi zindawo:
- Gqoka yedwa.
- Agqoke izicathulo nejazi lakhe.
- Khetha incwadi yezindaba zokulala nezokulala.
- Geza izandla ngaphambi kokudla.
- Zigeze ngesikhathi sokugeza.
- Agqoke amaphijama akhe.
- Hamba ebhodweni yedwa.
- Geza amazinyo akhe (ngokugadwa nangosizo).
Manje njengoba sengibonile ukuthi yini ingane yami engakwazi ukuyenza iyodwa. Sekuyisikhathi sokukwenza.
Isikhathi. Okuthile abaningi bethu abangenakho njengokunethezeka. Isiphakamiso esisobala, kodwa u-Erin ulenza libe yingxenye edingekayo yesimiso:
Ungase uthole ukuthi udinga ukwakha isikhathi esengeziwe ohlelweni lwakho ukuze wamukele lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kokufunda! Zinike imizuzu engamashumi amabili eyengeziwe noma ngaphezulu ekuseni, (ukuzeneliseka kuthatha isikhathi).
Izinyathelo ezincane ezifana nalezi zisiza ukusebenzisa isimiso ukuze kukhuthazwe ukuzimela kwengane.
Kungase kukhungathekise ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba imoshe futhi kuthathe isikhathi esiphindwe kane ukwenza umsebenzi olula kunalokho obekungawenza kuwena nje. Kodwa linda… U-Erin uphakamisa ukuthi bazame futhi bamoshe.
Nakuba kungase kulungele kakhudlwana ukuzibambela le misebenzi futhi uvele uyenze, ukuyivumela ukuthi izenzele yona kukhuthaza ukuzimela. Ngokuvamile kuyashesha kakhulu ukugqokisa ingane eneminyaka emine kunokumnikeza izingubo, ahlehle futhi azivumele azizame ngokwakhe.
Kungenzeka ukuthi uzobhekana nezingubo ezibuyela emuva nangaphakathi ngaphandle. Ngenkathi lokhu kwenzeka ngesonto eledlule, ingane yami eneminyaka emine yayiphikelela ukuthi ifuna ukugqoka ihembe layo ihlehle futhi ibhulukwe layo lingaphakathi ngaphandle.
Ungadangali ngokuklama isikhathi esengeziwe sokuba ingane yakho yenze izinto ngokwayo. Ekugcineni, bayothola i-hang of it. Futhi ngeke udinge ukuba khona ukuze ubasize. U-Erin unethemba ngomphumela wezingane ezibamba iqhaza ohlelweni lwazo:
Ungase ukwazi ukuthola isikhathi esengeziwe ekuseni ngokumane uhlele kabusha isimiso sakho. Esikhundleni sokugqokisa ingane yakho ngemva kokudla kwasekuseni, ngaphambi nje kokuya esikoleni, yinikeze izingubo zayo ezizozigqoka ekuseni kakhulu, kuyilapho ulungisa ukudla kwasekuseni, ulungisa ukudla kwasemini, noma uzilungiselela.
Lokhu kunenzuzo eyengeziwe yokuzigcina ematasa ngenkathi uzilungisa .
Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, uzozithola unesikhathi esengeziwe ekuseni!
Ngenxa yokuthi isimiso sivumela ingane ukuba yazi ukuthi yini ezayo ngokulandelayo, lokhu kuyinikeza ukuzethemba okudingekayo ukuze iqhubeke ikwenze. U-Erin uthi, “Lapho kunesimiso esivumelanayo, ingane iyakwazi ukubikezela izenzakalo nemiphumela. Lokhu kuthuthukisa umuzwa wengane yobuyena. Ukungaguquguquki kwenza izingane zizizwe zilondeke kakhudlwana.”
U-Erin ugcizelela ukubaluleka kwezinqubo zezingane,
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu wena njengomzali ongathuthukisa ngayo ukuzethemba kwengane yakho iwukusungula izinqubo ezibikezelwayo.
Esihlokweni sokugcina esithi Ukuba Ngumzali Ethi Ukudlala Kwengane ( Amakhono Empilo ), u-Deborah ukhulume ngalokho esikulindele ezinganeni zethu, nendlela yokuzifundisa esikulindele. U-Erin uchaza indlela ukuzethemba okwakhiwa ngayo lapho izinto ezilindelweyo zaziwa, “Lapho izingane ziqonda lokho ezikulindele futhi zikwazi ukuphila ngokuvumelana nazo, lokhu kuthuthukisa nakakhulu ukuzethemba kwazo.”
Umjikelezo ubalulekile. Akulona uhlelo nokho .
Laba ababili bavame ukudideka. Okungenani ngabaphambanisa lapho nginengane esanda kuzalwa. Ngiye ngafunda ukuthi izingane ziyaphumelela ngenxa yesimiso, kodwa ukuguquguquka kuyisihluthulelo!
U-Erin unikeza iziphakamiso zokuthi ungafinyelela kanjani lokhu kuvumelana nezimo ezinhlelweni zethu zansuku zonke:
Nakuba ukuba nenkambiso nokwakheka kukuhle, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele kuqine futhi kungaguquki. Izindlela zisebenza kahle kakhulu uma ukwazi ukuguquguquka. Impilo ivamise ukungaqageleki, kwesinye isikhathi impilo ivele ingene endleleni yokuphila!
Nokho, indlela engcono kakhulu yokusiza izingane ukuthi zijwayelane nokungqubuzana okuthile emgwaqweni ukuhlala ukhululekile ngakho ngokwakho. Izingane zakho zibuka yonke into oyenzayo futhi oyishoyo, uyazimodela (noma uyaqaphela noma cha) ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani noshintsho futhi ubhekane nokucindezeleka. Uma unethezekile ngokungqubuzana kwezikhathi ezithile emgwaqeni, izingane zakho zizojabula!
Ngakho khululeka futhi uhambe nokugeleza!
Khumbula ukujabulela amaqhubu kanye nokungahambi kahle futhi ubeke ukumamatheka.
Futhi into eyodwa u-Erin ayengayitshela abazali lapho esebenza ngemikhuba:
… khumbula lapho wenza isimiso ojabulayo ngaso kuyinqubo.
Ukushintsha kuthatha isikhathi, umzamo nokungaguquguquki .
Khumbula ukudumisa umzamo, hhayi imiphumela (njengokungathi ingane yakho yenza umzamo wokuzigqokisa, ungalokothi ukhathazeke ngokuthi izingubo zingahle zibe emuva nangaphakathi!).
Gcina ukugxila kwakho kulokho okuhamba kahle esimisweni sakho, hhayi kulokho okungahambi kahle. Qiniseka ukuthi unikeza izincomo eziningi kanye nokunaka okuhle ezinganeni zakho lapho zenza umzamo futhi uzothuthukisa ukuzethemba kwazo futhi uzikhuthaze ukuthi zizame nakakhulu.
Umthombo: https://handsonaswegrow.com/routines-important-kids/
