Lena inkinga ecasulayo kubazali yonke indawo. Futhi wonke umzali uzokutshela ukuthi ingane yakho ekugcineni izogqoka izingubo ezijwayelekile. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula lokhu lapho izikhathi zibonakala zinzima kakhulu. Akuwena wedwa umzali onengane encane efuna ukukhumula izingubo. Nawa amanye amathiphu okusiza ukubeka imingcele ethile uma kuziwa ekuvimbeni konke.
Akuyona into engavamile ukuba izingane ezincane zijabulele ukukhumula ngezikhathi ezibonakala zingahleliwe, kusho uSusan Walker Kennedy, uMongameli weChild Psychotherapy Foundation of Canada. “Izingane ezineminyaka emithathu kuya kwemihlanu zifunda ukugqoka nokuzikhumula, futhi ngokuvamile zijabulela lokhu kuzimela nomuzwa wokuba nqunu. Ukukhumula izingubo zabo kungase futhi kube indlela yokubhikisha, noma ukufuna ukunakwa.” U-Walker Kennedy weluleka ukusiza ingane ukuthi iqonde ukuthi izingubo zidinga ukuhlala ezindaweni zomphakathi.
Kungaba izingubo
Ukuzwela izindwangu ezithile nakho kungaba nengxenye, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwezingane “ezinomoya,” kusho uchwepheshe wabazali uJudy Arnall, umlobi wencwadi ethi Discipline Without Distress . “Uma ingane yakho ihlale ifuna ukugqoka ingubo eyodwa noma ezimbili ezifanayo, ingase ithande indwangu. Izingane ezinezinyanga ezingu-18 nangaphezulu zinikwa amandla ngokukhetha izingubo zazo, futhi ukuphuma emnyango kuzoba lula uma ugcina amadrowa engenalutho ezimpahleni ezingafuni ukuzigqoka, kanye nanoma yini ongafuni ukuthi ziyigqoke ngaphandle. indlu.”
Beka imingcele ethile
Iminyaka emine noma emihlanu yisikhathi esihle sokuqala ukunqanda ubunqunu basesidlangalaleni, njengoba ukuzithiba kwanda futhi ukucabangela kuncipha, kusho u-Arnall, kodwa ekhaya, abazali kufanele baqhubeke nalokho abazizwa bekhululekile kukho. Khumbula ukuthi uma uhleka ukuthi muhle kanjani umnqunu wakho omncane, cishe uzoqhubeka nokuveza umzimba wakhe. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi uvumela konke kuhlanganyele, kungase kudingeke ukuthi ubeke imingcele yokuziphatha ehlobene. Abafundi abaningi basenkulisa banentshisekelo yokuzihlola, ikakhulukazi uma izitho zabo zangasese zingamboziwe. Khuluma ngqo nalokhu, kusho u-Arnall. “Ungathi, ‘Lokho yinto okufanele uyenze ngasese,’ bese ususa isandla sakhe, uma kudingeka.” U-Arnall ugcizelela ukuthi lesi ngokuvamile yisigaba esifushane, esibabayo; izingane ziba yimfihlo njengoba ukwanda kontanga. Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, ingane yakho ngeke ikuvumele ukuthi ushiye umnyango wokugezela uvuliwe.
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