“Kufanele ujabulele yonke imizuzu.”
“Kudlula ngokushesha okukhulu.”
“Uzokukhumbula lokhu ngelinye ilanga.”
Lezi zinkulumo zivame ukwabiwa ngenhlonipho nenhloso enhle. Nokho, kwabesifazane abaningi abakhulelwe, zibanga ukucindezela kunokuba zibange induduzo.
Ukukhulelwa kungaba nencazelo, kubalulekile futhi kufunwe, kuyilapho futhi kungakhululeki, kudina futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi ngokomzwelo. Uma ukujabula kubekwa njengokulindelekile, kungenza ubunzima obujwayelekile buzizwe njengokwehluleka komuntu siqu.
Ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kucindezela kuvelaphi kusiza ukuchaza ukuthi kungani kubi kangaka.
Ukucindezela Kokujabulela Ukukhulelwa Kuvelaphi
Umbono wokuthi ukukhulelwa kufanele kujatshulelwe uvela ezindabeni zamasiko kunokuba uvela ekuphileni kwangempela.
Ukukhulelwa kuvame ukwethulwa njengesikhathi esikhethekile, esidlulayo. Izithombe zibonisa isikhumba esicwebezelayo, ukumamatheka okuzolile nokulindela okujabulisayo. Izindaba zigxile ezingqophamlandu nasezinkumbulweni ezijabulisayo kunokuba zigxile ekungakhululeki kwansuku zonke.
Le ndaba ayishiyi ndawo yobunzima.
Uma ukujabula kuba umyalezo obalulekile, noma yini engazwakali ijabulisa ingazwakala ingalungile.
Ukujabula Kuphathwa Njengomthwalo
Abesifazane abaningi bachaza ukuthi bazizwa sengathi ukujabulela ukukhulelwa kuyinto okufanele bayenze.
Akukhona nje ukuvunyelwa ukukwenza, kodwa ukuphoqeleka ukukwenza.
Lokhu kuguqula ukujabula kube umsebenzi kunokuba kube umzwelo. Kuba into okufanele ifezwe kunokuba kube into evela ngokwemvelo.
Kungani Lokhu Kuzwakala Kungalungile
Ukujabula akuyona inkinobho engavulwa.
Ukukhulelwa kuhilela ukushikashika ngokomzimba, ukulungiswa ngokomzwelo nokulahlekelwa ukulawula. Ukulindela ukujabula njalo akukushayi mkhuba lokhu kungokoqobo.
Awukwazi ukucabanga ngendlela yokujabulela into engakhululeki noma edabukisayo.
Ukukhulelwa Kuyinhlanganisela Yokuhlangenwe Nakho, Akukhona Ukuzizwa Okukodwa
Enye yezinkinga ezinkulu ngomyalezo othi “jabulela yonke imizuzu” ukuthi usikisela ukuthi ukukhulelwa kufanele kuzwakale ngendlela eyodwa.
Empeleni, ukukhulelwa kuhilela okuningi okuhlangenwe nakho ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Ungase uzizwe ujabulile futhi udiniwe.
Ujabule futhi ungakhululekile.
Unethemba futhi ukhathazekile.
Lezi zimo ezixubile zingokwemvelo.
Ukujabula kungase kuvele ezikhathini ezimfushane kunokuba njalo. Lokho akwenzi ukukhulelwa kwakho kungabi nancazelo.
Ukucindezela Ngokuvamile Kwandisa Icala
Lapho abesifazane bengakujabuleli ukukhulelwa, ivama ukulandela icala.
Ungase uzizwe unecala ngokukhononda. Unesiphithiphithi. Unesifiso sokuthi isikhathi sihambe ngokushesha.
Leli cala liqiniswa lapho abanye bekukhumbuza ukuthi unenhlanhla kangakanani noma ukuthi uzokukhumbula kangakanani ukukhulelwa kamuva.
Ukubonga Nobunzima Kungahlala Ndawonye
Ukuzizwa ubongela ukukhulelwa akukuhoxisi ukungakhululeki ngokomzimba noma ukushikashika ngokomzwelo.
Ungakwazisa lokho ukukhulelwa okukumelelayo kuyilapho usakuthola kunzima.
Ubunzima abulingani nokungabongi.
Ukungakhululeki Ngokomzimba Kwenza Ukujabula Kube Nzima
Ukujabula kuba nzima lapho umzimba ungakhululeki isikhathi esiningi.
Ukukhathala, isicanucanu, ubuhlungu, ukungalali kahle nezinkinga zokugaya konke kuthinta isimo sengqondo nokuqina. Ukuphila ngezimpawu zomzimba ezingapheli kushiya indawo encane yokujabula.
Ukujabula Kulula Uma Kubuyekezwa
Abantu abaningi bakhumbula ukukhulelwa ngenhlonipho ngemva kokuba sekuphelile.
Ibanga lithambisa inkumbulo. Izikhathi ezinzima ziyanyamalala. Izingqophamlandu ezinhle ziyagqama.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwakujabulisa ngaleso sikhathi. Kusho ukuthi inkumbulo iyakhethwa.
Imidiya Yokuxhumana Yandisa Ukucindezela
Imidiya yokuxhumana idlala indima ebalulekile ekuqiniseni okulindelekile okungokoqobo.
Izithombe namavidiyo avame ukubonisa izikhathi ezihlelwe ngokucophelela. Izinsuku ezinzima azivamile ukwabiwa ngokubonakala okufanayo.
Ukuqhathanisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwansuku zonke nomzila ogqamile womunye umuntu kungenza kubonakale sengathi ulahlekelwe okuthile.
Ukubonakala Akulingani Nokungokoqobo
Okushicilelwe esidlangalaleni akukubonisi okuhlangenwe nakho kokukhulelwa okugcwele.
Iningi labesifazane alibhali ngokungakhululeki, ukwesaba noma ukukhathala ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kungabikho kungakhohlisa lokho okuzwakala kungokwemvelo.
Kungani Ukucindezela Kungazwakala Kukhohlisa
Ukutshelwa ukuthi ujabulele ukukhulelwa kungazwakala kukude lapho ubhekene nobunzima.
Kungakhinyabeza ingxoxo eqotho futhi kukhinyaze abesifazane ukuba baveze indlela abazizwa ngayo ngempela.
Lapho imizwa enzima ihlangatshezwa nezikhumbuzo zokujabulela isikhathi, abesifazane bangase bazizwe bengaqondakali noma bethuliswe.
Ukukhulelwa Akukhona Ukusebenza
Ukukhulelwa akuyona into okufanele uyenze kahle noma ube nakho ngendlela efanele.
Alukho uhlobo oluhle lokuphendula ngokomzwelo.
Awudingi ukujabulela ukukhulelwa ukuze ube umzali omuhle noma ukuze ukwazise okuhlangenwe nakho.
Ukujabula Akuyona Indlela Yokulinganisa Impumelelo
Ukuthi ujabulela kangakanani ukukhulelwa akukubonisi ukuthi unakekela kangakanani.
Kubonisa ukuthi umzimba wakho, ingqondo nezimo zihamba kanjani ekushintsheni.
Yini Ngempela Esiza Kunokucindezela
Okusiza kakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa yimvume.
Imvume yokuzizwa lokho okuzizwayo.
Imvume yokungathandi izingxenye zokukhulelwa.
Imvume yokuphumula ngaphandle kwecala.
Izimpendulo ezisekelayo zihlukile kucindezelo.
Ukulalela ngaphandle kokulungisa.
Ukuqinisekisa ngaphandle kokunciphisa.
Ukunikeza usizo ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
Lezi zimpendulo zakha ukuphepha ngokomzwelo.
Ukubuyekeza Umbono Wokujabula
Ukujabula akumele kusho ukuthanda ukukhulelwa ngokuphelele.
Kungase kubonakale njengokwazisa izikhathi ezincane. Ukuskena. Ukunyakaza. Umuzwa wokulindela.
Kungase futhi kubonakale njengokuphila usuku nje.
Kokubili kuvumelekile.
Lapho Ukucindezela Kuba Kubi
Uma ukucindezela kokujabulela ukukhulelwa kuholela ecaleni eliqhubekayo, ukukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, usizo lubalulekile.
Ukukhuluma nochwepheshe bezempilo kungasiza ukwenza okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kube okujwayelekile futhi kunciphise ukuzehlulela.
Awuhluleki ngoba ukukhulelwa kunzima.
Ukuqinisekiswa Kwabesifazane Abakhulelwe
Uma ungayijabuleli yonke imizuzu yokukhulelwa, awenzi lutho olungalungile.
Ukukhulelwa kunzima.
Ukujabula akuhlali njalo.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kuvumelekile.
Awukweleti muntu ukusebenza okuhle.
Ukukhulelwa akudingeki ukuba kujatshulelwe ukuze kube nencazelo.
Imibuzo Ebuzwa Njalo
Kuvamile ukungakujabuleli ukukhulelwa?
Yebo. Abesifazane abaningi bathola ukuthi ukukhulelwa kunzima ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Ukungakujabuleli ukukhulelwa akusho ukuthi kukhona okungalungile noma ukuthi awubongeli.
Kungani abantu bethi kufanele ngijabulele yonke imizuzu?
Lo myalezo uvame ukuvela enhlosweni enhle noma ekubukezweni. Abantu bavame ukukhumbula ukukhulelwa ngokukhethekile futhi bangase bangakukhumbuli ukuthi izingxenye ezinzima zazizwakala kanjani ngaleso sikhathi.
Ingabe ukungakujabuleli ukukhulelwa kusho ukuthi ngeke ngikujabulele ukuba umzali?
Cha. Ukujabulela ukukhulelwa nokujabulela ubuzali kuyizinto ezihlukene. Ubunzima ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa abukubikezeli ubudlelwano bakho nengane yakho.
Ngaphendula kanjani lapho abantu bethi kufanele ngijabulele ukukhulelwa?
Uvumelekile ukuphendula ngobuqotho noma ukushintsha isihloko. Awukweleti muntu incazelo yokuthi ukukhulelwa kuzwakala kanjani kuwe.
Kufanele ngifune nini usizo ngesifo sokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa?
Uma icala, usizi noma ukukhathazeka kuzwakala kuqhubeka noma kuphazamisa impilo yansuku zonke, kuyatuseka ukukhuluma nochwepheshe bezempilo.
