Ibhulogi yakamuva Kuyo Yonke Iminyaka: Indawo Yengane Yakho Enezidingo Ezikhethekile isilungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/across-the-years-housing-for-your-child-with- izidingo ezikhethekile/Iningi lamabhulogi ami liqondiswe kulabo kini abasanda kuqala uhambo lwakho nengane/izingane zakho ezinezidingo ezikhethekile. Lena ayihlukile futhi ingase ibe enye ebaluleke kakhulu, ngizizwa, kuze kube manje.Lapho ngisemncane futhi ngithola ukuthi ingane yami yayinezinkinga ezithile, ngaphatheka kabi. Akekho owayazi ukuthi izinto zizomhambela kanjani. Ngangizama ukuphila futhi ngijabulele ingane yami, kodwa zaziningi izinto okwakumelwe ngizicabangele ngempilo yayo nekusasa layo. Enye yalezo zinto, okungenye yezibaluleke kakhulu, ayizange ifike kimi….indlu yakhe.Mina nendodakazi yami besiyozuza kakhulu ukube othile ubezoba khona ekuphileni kwethu bese engitshela ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo okufanele ngizithathele izindlu zesikhathi esizayo. Uyabona, eminyakeni engama-23 iningi lethu alicabangi ngeminyaka engama-20-30 esikhathini esizayo. Ikakhulukazi lapho sesaba futhi singazi ukuthi siphila kanjani esikhathini samanje.Ngitshele indodakazi yami ukuthi nginobunzima bokuqhamuka nebhulogi yale nyanga, yathi angibhale “ngomuzi wethu”. Ukhuluma ngekhaya lethu lesikhathi esizayo elingokoqobo kuye njengoba likhona manje. Yena kanye nami sobabili sikholelwa ekhaya lethu lesikhathi esizayo; kufanele nje silinde.Njengoba u-Emma ekhula, ngaqala ukuya emihlanganweni eminingi yokufundisa ukuze angisize ngizizwe ngiqiniseka ngokwengeziwe ekumenzeleni izinqumo ezinhle. Ngingumama ongayedwana futhi anginaye umuntu ongangikhipha. Ngikholwa ukuthi lezi zinto zinzima ngisho kwabashadile abaxoxayo. Lezi zingqungquthela yizona ezinginikeze lokho enginomuzwa wokuthi kuwuhlelo olungcono kakhulu lwekusasa lendodakazi yami.Lezi izindaba eziyiqiniso zabanye abazali abangisize kakhulu.Abazali bokuqala engazwa ngabo banquma ukuphuma ekhaya indodana yabo eyayihlale ihlala kuyo, futhi bathuthela ohlala nayo bayohlala nayo. Bese kuba neminye imindeni eyathenga amakhaya ukuze inikeze izingane zayo ezikhubazekile izindlu eziphephile. Baphinde bafake abahlala nabo ekhaya. Ngiyazi enye intokazi engashadile eyaqala umuzi wamadoda ayisithupha, eyodwa ingumfowabo.Imibono eminingi yayitholakala kithi ngaphandle kweqembu lasekhaya! Iqembu lasekhaya lapho ngingeke ngibe nezwi noma ngilawule ukuthi ubani ongena noma ophumayo, ohlala noma osebenza khona. Lokho akuzwakali kuphephile kimi.Ngaphambi nje kwe-COVID, ngathola imvume yokubolekwa kwempahla ehloniphekile ebingasinikeza ikhaya elihle. Wanele ukumnika indawo yakhe okungenani nabantu ahlala nabo abangu-1 -2. U-Emma uyawuthanda lo mbono.Lokhu kuyiphupho lakhe kanye nelami. Ngeshwa, njengoba sonke sazi, imakethe yezindlu ibingenzi kahle kule minyaka embalwa edlule, okumise ukuthenga kwethu ikhaya.Nginokholo, futhi angifuni lutho uNkulunkulu angafuni kithi, kodwa ngizwa lokhu kuwubizo enhliziyweni yami. Ngikholwa ukuthi lokhu kuseza. Ngifuna ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi u-Emma usekhaya elihle, elihlala nabantu abahle, futhi ngokunakekela okufanele lapho ngisemusha ngokwanele ukuze ngiqiniseke ngakho konke lokhu. Ngingathanda ukumkhipha futhi ngimnike impilo yakhe.Ngokusobala kuningi okwengeziwe ngale nqubo kanye nezinto eziningi okufanele uzihlelele futhi uzicabangele. Le bhulogi ngeyokusiza nonke ukuthi niphaphame ukuze nibone ukuthi yiziphi izinhlelo okufanele nizenzele ingane yenu. Ikakhulukazi ukonga imali ukuze wazi ukuthi ingane/izingane zakho zinakekelwa kahle.Ukuqala lezi zinto ngenkathi ingane/izingane zakho zisencane kungenza umehluko omkhulu phakathi neminyaka. Uma ulandela uhlelo oluqinile lokonga lwalezi zidingo ezithile, ngingathembisa ukuthi imali izokwengeza ngokushesha okukhulu. Ukuqala ingane yakho isencane kuzokwenza umehluko omkhulu empilweni yayo, futhi kukwehlisele isisindo. Leso sisindo singaba nzima kakhulu ngezinye izikhathi.Kungumsebenzi wethu njengabazali nabanakekeli babanye abantu abangakwazi ukuzinakekela ukuze baqinisekise ukuthi bayanakekelwa. Kimi nendodakazi yami, ngibeka uNkulunkulu kuqala ngoba ngiyazi ukuthi uzosibhekelela yonke into. Unakho njalo futhi Uzokwenza njalo.Ngithembela esikhathini sikaNkulunkulu futhi ngijabule kakhulu ukubona ukuthi ikusasa lisiphatheleni. Ngethemba ukuthi lokhu kuyanisiza ukuze nikwazi ukuhlela ikusasa elinikeza ukuthula ezinhliziyweni zenu.Okuthunyelwe Kuyo Yonke Iminyaka: Indawo Yengane Yakho Enezidingo Ezikhethekile kuvele kuqala ku-Firefly Blog .************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -support/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/disabilities/
