Lesi kungaba isikhathi esiyinselele kuyo yonke imindeni, ikakhulukazi leyo enezingane ezinezidingo ezikhethekile. Nawa amathiphu ochwepheshe okuthi ungazinakekela kanjani futhi ulawule ukukhathazeka kwengane yakho (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi inezidingo ezikhethekile noma cha!).
Impilo inzima kancane kuwo wonke umzali kulezi zinsuku, njengoba manje izikole zivaliwe (zonke izinto zivaliwe!) futhi izingane zisekhaya. Futhi kubazali bezingane ezinezidingo ezikhethekile, ukuphumula esimisweni kungase kube nzima nakakhulu ukukulawula, futhi kungase kube nzima nakakhulu ukuqhubeka nezinsizakalo nokusekela ekhaya kunokuqhubeka nemfundo evamile. Futhi, kungaba nzima ukwazi ukuthi ungayiduduza kanjani ingane yakho uma ikhathazekile nge-coronavirus. UJoshua Rosenthal, i-Psy.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emitholampilo kanye noMongameli weManhattan Psychology Group e-NYC , inikeza amathiphu okuthi abazali bangadambisa kanjani ukukhathazeka ezinganeni zabo ezinezidingo ezikhethekile, benze isimiso ekhaya, futhi bagxile ekuzisizeni ukuze bakwazi ukusiza izingane zabo kangcono kakhulu. Ochwepheshe baye babelana ngezeluleko zabo zokulawula ukukhathazeka kwazo zonke izingane—nawo wonke umuntu emndenini!
Ungesabi ukukhuluma nengane yakho enezidingo ezikhethekile nge-coronavirus.
"Kuye ngokuthi hlobo luni lwesidingo esikhethekile, izinga lokukhula kwengane, iminyaka [yakhe], kanye nezinga [lwayo] lokusebenza...nizokhuluma ngezinto ezifanayo, nisebenzisa ulimi oluhlukile nje," uDkt. Rosenthal uthi. "Kuhle ukuchazela ingane noma umuntu omdala onezidingo ezikhethekile ukuthi izinto zihlukile, ukuthi iluphi uhlelo oluzoqhubekela phambili, futhi kungani uhlelo lunjalo ukuya phambili." Weluleka abazali ukuba baqale ingxoxo futhi bathembeke, kodwa bangathembeki kakhulu—bangenzi kubonakale sengathi izwe liyaphela. Sebenzisa ulimi oluhambisana nengane yakho.
Landela isu lika-"Ms Four" lokumodela ukuzola, ukugcina isimo esijwayelekile, ukuhambisa, nokuqapha ukusetshenziswa kwezindaba.
U-Louisa Benton no-Kelli Teglas, umqondisi omkhulu kanye nomqondisi wemicimbi nobambiswano lwamasu, ngokulandelana, we-Hope for Depression Foundation, bakhuthaza abazali ukuthi basebenzise "uNkz abane" ukuze basungule kabusha isimiso futhi bahlale bexhumekile. Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali baqale babonise ukuzola kwezingane.
"Izingane zibheke kubazali ukuthi bazi ukuthi kufanele baphendule futhi benze kanjani ngalesi sikhathi," kusho uBenton. "Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali banakekele impilo yabo yengqondo futhi bathole ikhefu abalidingayo ukuze babonise ukuzola kwezingane."
“Zifake kuqala i-oxygen mask, bese unakekela izingane zakho,” kwengeza uRosenthal. Zama ukugwema izindlela zokubhekana nezimo ezingenampilo ezifana nesikhathi sesikrini esiningi, ukudla ngokweqile noma ukuphuza, nokusebenza ngokweqile. Nokho, kulungile ukwazisa izingane zakho ukuthi ucindezelekile noma ukhathazekile. Zinike isikhathi sakho, futhi uqhubeke ukhuluma, ngoba lokho kusiza izingane ukuba ziveze ezikucabangayo. Ezinganeni ezinezidingo ezikhethekile, uyaqhubeka, qaphela izinguquko ezwini lakho nasekuziphatheni okungase kuzithinte.
Ngokusemandleni akho, gcina isimiso endlini—futhi kuhlanganise nokuhlala uthintana nomphakathi wakho njengengxenye yaleyo nqubo, u-Benton ubonisa. "Asikwazi ukuba ndawonye ngokomzimba, kodwa ziningi izindlela zokufinyelela emphakathini ngokusebenzisa amaqembu e-Facebook, ukudlala imidlalo nemisebenzi ku-inthanethi nabangani namalungu omndeni."
John McGeehan, umsunguli kanye ne-CEO ye I-Dorm , igcizelela ukuthi "kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuqhelelana nomphakathi nokuzihlukanisa nabantu." Intsha isengozini ikakhulukazi yokuhlala ekhaya usuku lonke lapho isekhaya, ingakhulumisani, nokuhlala ixhumeke kumadivayisi ayo. Manje akusona isikhathi sokuvumela lokho kwenzeke. Abazali bangakwazi ukulingisa ukuzola ngezindlela ezingaphezu kweyodwa: ngalesi sikhathi, bonisa ukuxhumana okunempilo komphakathi, futhi khumbula ukuthi lokhu kungase kuhlukumeze izingane zakho njengoba kuhlukumeza wena.
U-M wesithathu ukunyakaza. U-Benson uthi, phumani endlini—ukuhamba nihambe njengomkhaya kuzosiza izingane zivuleleke futhi zikhulume ngemizwa yazo, okungase kube nzima kakhulu ukukwenza lapho zibhekene nani ngaphesheya kwetafula lesidlo sakusihlwa.
Okokugcina, qapha izindaba zezingane zakho.
"Umjikelezo wezindaba uphindaphinda kakhulu futhi kuye ngokuthi umthombo uvelaphi," kusho u-Benson, "Kungase futhi kube okuvusa amadlingozi. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ulwazi olutholwa ingane lukalwe kakhulu futhi lunembile kakhulu.
Qinisekisa imizwa yezingane zakho ngalokho okwenzekayo—ikakhulukazi leyo yomfundi wakho wasekolishi.
"Njengoba ngibheka abafundi basemanyuvesi bebuyela emakhaya ngoba ama-semesters akhanseliwe, abadala kungenzeka bangabi nazo iziqu ... kunesici esikhulu sokulahlekelwa emphakathini entsheni eningi," kusho uMcGeehan. "Bakhishwe emphakathini naseqenjini labangane. Babuyele ekhaya nomama nobaba futhi wonke umuntu uqaphe kakhulu."
Qinisekisa ukuthi umfundi wakho uyazi ukuthi uyazi ukuthi lokhu kuwukulahlekelwa kwakhe; ungakuchithi ukudabuka nosizi okungenzeka ukuthi unalo. Cabangani ngokuthi ningasebenzisana kanjani njengomndeni ukuze niqinisekise imizwa yawo wonke umuntu futhi nidale indawo evulekile yokuxoxa ngayo.
Ezinganeni—kanye nabantu abadala—abanezimo zempilo yengqondo esezivele zikhona, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubheka izimpawu ezingase zibe zimbi kakhulu ngalesi sikhathi, futhi uhlale uthintana nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo nabahlinzeki bezempilo. UMcGeehan uphakamisa ukuthi abazali banake kakhulu ukuhlanzeka kokulala kwezingane.
A positive kulokhu? Izinsizakalo eziningi zezempilo yengqondo zihamba ku-inthanethi, futhi izinkampani zomshwalense kungenzeka zihlanganise amaseshini enkomfa ngevidiyo nabelaphi. I-Hope for Depression ihlanganise umhlahlandlela wezinsiza kubantu ababheka i-teletherapy, kanye no-Benson wabelana ngokuthi i-Anxiety and Depression Association of America nayo ihlanganise umhlahlandlela wesifunda nesifunda wokuthola usizo lwe-inthanethi. I-Dorm iphinde yahambisa izinhlelo zayo zezempilo yengqondo ku-inthanethi futhi yengeza izinhlelo ezivumela abantu abasha ukuthi bakhe umphakathi cishe. Ukuze uhlole lezo zinsizakalo, yiya kuwebhusayithi yeDorm.
Umuntu oyedwa kwabahlanu eMelika ubhekana nenkinga yengqondo nsuku zonke, uMcGeehan weluleka abazali ukuba bakhumbule. Futhi njengoba lesi sikhathi siphonsela inselelo ezinkambisweni zethu ezivamile zokubhekana nesimo, kubalulekile ukufuna usizo nosekelana. Ezinganeni ezikhathazekile, uBenson uthi, futhi abafuna ukuqinisekiswa njalo, ungavumeli isilingo sokunikeza leso siqinisekiso.
"[Ukuqinisekisa] empeleni kuzodala ukukhathazeka okwengeziwe," kusho yena. "Ngakho isiteshi esidinga ukuqinisekiswa emisebenzini ekhiqizayo nemisebenzi yeqembu yomndeni."
Dala isimiso esikhundleni sesikole noma somsebenzi, futhi udale ukuze unqobe isithukuthezi nokukhathazeka.
Ezinganeni ezinezidingo ezikhethekile, ikhefu esimisweni sazo sansuku zonke singaphazamisa kakhulu. Zama ukugcwalisa isikhala ngemisebenzi ehleliwe. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ivukile futhi igqoke ngesikhathi esivamile futhi idla isidlo sasekuseni-bese-ke, ungamvumela ukuthi asebenze emisebenzini yokufunda noma yezibalo uma ineminyaka yesikole, bese unesikhathi sesidlo sasemini esihleliwe, bese ubuyela emuva imisebenzi kanye nokuzijabulisa . UDkt. Rosenthal futhi utusa ukuhlanganisa ukuvivinya umzimba esimisweni sengane yakho. Uma ukwazi uku-oda (futhi ube nesikhala!) gxuma izintambo, noma i-trampoline, noma ezinye izinto zokuvivinya umzimba, ukuzivocavoca kungasiza ekukhathazekeni kwengane yakho. Futhi uma isikole sengane yakho sinikeza noma yiluphi uhlobo lwekharikhulamu eku-inthanethi, sisebenzise. Futhi, hlola lezi amabhokisi okubhaliselwe inikezwa ngenani elehlisiwe kokuzijabulisa okungenakucindezeleka njengomndeni.
Uma indawo yokusebenza yengane yakho endala ivaliwe, bheka ukuthi ingabe indawo yokusebenza inikeza imfundo eqhubekayo ku-inthanethi noma amathuba okufunda ukuze ulungisele umsebenzi osesayithini ongeke ukwazi ukuwenza manje. Uma kungenjalo, ungathola inala yamathuba okufunda ku-inthanethi. Dala amathuba asekelwe kulokho ingane yakho enentshisekelo kukho. Uma ithanda ukufunda ngezimoto, uDkt. Rosenthal uyaphakamisa, menze enze umbiko ngezinhlobo ezahlukene futhi awethule kuwe.
Isiqephu sokugcina sendida yawo wonke umndeni siyadala ukuze ungahlanyi. Zama ukufunda ekhaya, ukujima kwasekhaya, imidlalo nemisebenzi, nokuningi njengoba izinsuku ziqhubeka. UBenson ugcizelela ukuthi lesi yisikhathi esihle sokufunda amakhono amasha.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukusungula isimiso phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho kuzosiza izingane zakho zihlale zisendleleni futhi kukhuthaze ubudlelwano bawo wonke umuntu.
"Kulezo zinkinga lapho silahlekelwa khona isimiso sethu lapho ukukhathazeka kuqala khona. Ngakho abazali bangasebenzisana ukuze baqhamuke nesimiso sansuku zonke," esho. "Wonke umuntu udinga ukusebenza ngozwela nokuzivumelanisa nezimo kule zibalo. Kodwa uma abazali bengasebenza ngendlela evamile, lokho kuzosiza ubuhlobo babo futhi kusize ekudambiseni ukukhathazeka kwezingane."
Okunye okuhle okungase kuphume kulesi simo? Ukuvumela izingane zakho zikufundise mayelana nokuxhumana nabanye ku-inthanethi. Bangamakhosi phela.
"Manje kunanini ngaphambili, iningi lethu liyazibuza ukuthi sizoxhuma kanjani futhi sithole umphakathi ku-inthanethi," kusho uMcGeehan. “Intsha ingasifundisa ukuthi singazilungisa kanjani futhi sithole lowo mphakathi cishe.”
Ungathuki izinto ezincane kulesi sikhathi esingaqinisekile.
“Leli sonto lizoba nzima kakhulu ngoba wonke umuntu usesikhathini soguquko,” kusho uDkt. Rosenthal. "Isonto elizayo lizolawuleka kakhulu, ngoba wonke umuntu uzobe exazulule izinkinga zesikole nemisebenzi. Leli sonto lizoba nzima kakhulu. Ngeke ngibeke amathemba aphezulu kakhulu ngokulehlisa ngokuphelele. Uma udinga ukubeka ku-movie eyengeziwe lapha noma laphaya, ungakuthukutheli."
Ubuye weluleka ngokuthi lesi kungase kube isikhathi sokuxhumana okungakaze kubonwe phakathi kwamalungu omkhaya—ikakhulukazi abazali, abanobunzima kakhulu kunabaningi. Leli yithuba lokuhlangana nomndeni, abangani, nosebenza nabo.
"Leli yithuba elihle lokuthi abantu bazibheke bona kanye nobudlelwano babo, futhi bancike eqinisweni lokuthi lokhu kuzoba yinselele futhi kuchazwe kabusha izinyanga eziningi lokhu kuqhubeke kuze kube yilapho izinto sezizolile," kusho uDkt. Rosenthal. Kodwa uma ukwazi ukudlula kulesi sikhathi esinzima nesicindezelayo, uzophuma unamandla kakhulu.
Ibhalwe nguJacqueline Neber
Umthombo: https://www.nymetroparents.com/article/ease-coronavirus-anxiety-for-kids-with-special-needs
