Ibhulogi yakamuva Lapho abantu bethi “angazi ukuthi ukwenza kanjani” isilungele ukufundwa ku-inthanethi lapha https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/when-people-say-i-dont-know-how -uyakwenza-Umusho abazali bezingane ezikhubazekile abawuzwa njalo, kanye nokuthi “Ngicabanga ukuthi uyamangalisa”, “Yeka ukuthi uwumndeni omuhle kangakanani”, namagama asho lokho.Naphezu kokuba njalo umamukeli wezincomo ezinjalo, ngisazithola ngiswele ukwazi ukuthi ngenzenjani noma ngizophendula ngithini.Ngiphendula ngesizotha, “Ngiyabonga, kodwa cha, akunjalo!”, kuyilapho ngifuna ukusho ukuthi “Ubungenza okufanayo ukube ubuyimi”. Ngizithola sengifuna ukubajabulisa ngalokho abacabanga ukuthi ngiyakwenza okugunyaza ukuhlonishwa okunjalo.Ngokuyisisekelo, yini engiyenzayo emangalisa kangaka, ngaphandle kokukhulisa ingane engiyithandayo? Ngenza konke okusemandleni ami ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uphephile, uphilile, futhi unakekelwe, okufana nalokho wonke umzali engibaziyo abakwenzayo, akunjalo?Ngicabanga ukuthi umehluko ukuthi kufanele ngenze inqwaba yomsebenzi owengeziwe kulolu hambo, futhi indlela igcwele izithiyoMhlawumbe babona ukukhathala ebusweni bami, noma bangibone nginqaba ngokuphindaphindiwe izimemo zokuzijabulisa. Kumnandi ukuzwa izincomo kubantu ababonayo nababuka ubunzima engibhekene nabo, kodwa kuyangicika futhi kungiphathe kabi ukuthi mhlawumbe badonswa yizingqinamba engibhekana nazo hhayi injabulo yohambo.Ngakho-ke lapha ngiyazibuza ukuthi kungani ngikuthola kunzima futhi kunzima ukunconywa ngokukhulisa kwami umzali. Ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu ngokwengxenye kuncike ekubeni necala elingapheli, elingapheli engiba nalo, elingenza ngizizwe ngingakufanelekeli ukutuswa njengomzali.Kimina, ukugxila kusala kuzo zonke izinto engingazenzanga njengomnakekeli oyinhloko; zonke izinto okufanele ngabe ngizenza kakhulu; zonke izinto engizizwa ngihlulekile kuzo.Yisona sikhathi engisichitha ngedwa nenye ingane yami ngoba idinga ngimbonise ukuthi nginothando olulinganayo nayo. Yizindlela zokwelapha noma ukunakekelwa okwengeziwe aphuthelwa kukho ngoba ngiphelelwe yisikhathi noma amandla. Imshiya ku-iPad yakhe isikhathi eside kunaleso ebengifanele ukuze ngikwazi ukuthola imisebenzi nemisebenzi yasekhaya.Kuyimpi yansuku zonke nemizwa yokuthi 'ngingamenzela-ngcono', nokuthi 'ngabe-ngabe-ngangenze-lokhu-ngokuhlukile'.Uma umuntu engincoma ngendlela engiyinhle ngayo ngento engiyenzela indodana yami, lokhu kubuye kubonakale kugxilisa ingqondo yami ngokungenasizo ekwehlukeni enakho kanye nokuba ngokoqobo kwesimo. Kuyisikhumbuzo sokuthi ngiphila impilo ehluke kakhulu kwabanye abantu, futhi kungikhumbuza ubunzima besimo sami kanye nobubi besimo somntanami.Ngaphambili ngangizizwa nginenjongo ekuphileni kwami emsebenzini, kodwa ngawuyeka umsebenzi wami ngemva nje kokuzalwa kwendodana yami. Manje ngidinga ukuzwa ngenza umehluko futhi ngenza inhloso kwenye indawo, ngakho-ke ngokugxila ekwenzeni ushintsho nokuba nomthelela omuhle kunginika lokhu kulandisa kwempilo.Kimina, ngigcine ngigqamile, ngimela imindeni efana neyami, ngimele abazali abangakwazi ukuzimela, futhi ngenza izinsiza ezintsha zokulwa nokuhlinzekwa okuncane okukhona. Lokhu akuwona wonke umuntu, futhi angifuni ukudunyiswa ngalokhu; kuyisenzo somuntu siqu nesobugovu ngandlela thize esingisiza ngembule amadimoni ami.Ngibonga kakhulu ngokutuswa enginikezwe kona, kodwa ngicela wazi, ngingomunye umzali owenza omunye umsebenzi onzima, futhi yebo, nawe ungenza okufanayo, futhi njengami, ubuzokwenza ngokuzinikela nothando olungenamibandela. .Okuthunyelwe Lapho abantu bethi “Angazi ukuthi ukwenza kanjani” kuvele kuqala ku-Firefly Blog .************ https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/advice -support/,https://www.fireflyfriends.com/uk/blog/special-needs/disabilities/
