Umsebenzi wabazali uwukunikeza izingane isiqalo esihle empilweni. Ngokukhuliswa, ukuvikela nokuqondisa, abazali bangalungiselela ingane yabo ukuzimela.
Sebenzisa lawa macebiso angu-9 okukhulisa izingane ukuze akusize ufunde kabanzi mayelana nokuba umzali omuhle futhi akwenze uzizwe indima yakho njengomzali inelisa kakhulu.
1. Thuthukisa Ukuzethemba Kwengane Yakho
Izingane ziqala ukuthuthukisa ukuzizwa kwazo njengezingane lapho zizibona ngamehlo abazali bazo. Iphimbo lakho, ulimi lwakho lomzimba, nakho konke okushiwoyo kutholwa izingane zakho. Amazwi nezenzo zakho njengomzali zithinta ukukhula kwabo ugqhozu lwakho ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye.
Ukuncoma abakufezile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuncane kangakanani, kuyobenza bazizwe beziqhenya; ukuvumela izingane zenze izinto ngokuzimela kuzozenza zizizwe zikwazi futhi zinamandla. Ngokuphambene, ukululaza imibono noma ukuqhathanisa ingane ngokungafanele nenye kuyokwenza izingane zizizwe zingelutho.
Gwema ukwenza izitatimende ezigcwele noma ukusebenzisa amagama njengezikhali. Amazwana afana nokuthi "Yeka into ewubulima ongayenza!" noma "Uziphatha njengengane kunomfowenu omncane!" dala umonakalo njengoba kwenza amagalelo angokomzimba.
Khetha amagama akho ngokucophelela futhi ube nobubele. Vumela izingane zakho zazi ukuthi wonke umuntu uyawenza amaphutha nokuthi usazithanda, ngisho nalapho ungakuthandi ukuziphatha kwazo.
2. Bamba Izingane Zilungile
Wake wama ukuze ucabange ukuthi zingaki izikhathi lapho usabela kabi ezinganeni zakho ngosuku oluthile? Ungase uzithole ugxeka kaningi kunokuncoma. Ubungazizwa kanjani ngomphathi okuphatha ngalezo ziqondiso ezimbi, ngisho noma bekunezinhloso ezinhle?
Indlela ephumelela kakhudlwana iwukubamba izingane zenza okuthile okulungile: "Wendlule umbhede wakho ngaphandle kokubuzwa - kubi kakhulu!" noma "Bengikubuka udlala nodadewenu wabekezela kakhulu." Lezi zitatimende zizokwenza okwengeziwe ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okuhle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kunokuthethisa okuphindaphindiwe.
Yenza iphuzu lokuthola into ozoyincoma nsuku zonke. Yiba ovulekile ngemiklomelo - uthando lwakho, ukwanga, nokuncoma kungasebenza izimanga futhi kuvame ukuvuza ngokwanele. Ngokushesha uzothola "ukhula" ngaphezulu kokuziphatha ongathanda ukukubona.
3. Beka Imikhawulo Futhi Uhambisane Nesiyalo Sakho
Isiyalo kuyadingeka kuyo yonke imizi. Umgomo wesiyalo uwukusiza izingane zikhethe ukuziphatha okwamukelekayo futhi zifunde ukuzithiba. Bangase bavivinye imingcele obabekela yona, kodwa badinga leyo mingcele ukuze bakhule babe abantu abadala abanomthwalo wemfanelo.
Ukumisa imithetho yasekhaya kusiza izingane ziqonde lokho okulindele futhi zithuthukise ukuzithiba. Eminye imithetho ingase ihlanganise: cha I-TV kuze umsebenzi wasekhaya kwenziwa, futhi akukho ukushaya, ukugagula amagama, noma ukugconwa okulimazayo okuvunyelwe.
Ungase ufune ukuba nesistimu endaweni: isexwayiso esisodwa, esilandelwa imiphumela efana "nokuphelelwa yisikhathi" noma ukulahlekelwa amalungelo. Iphutha elivamile elenziwa abazali ukuhluleka ukulandela imiphumela. Awukwazi ukujezisa izingane ngokukhuluma ngelinye ilanga futhi ungakunaki okulandelayo. Ukungaguquguquki kufundisa lokho okulindele.
4. Zinike Isikhathi Sezingane Zakho
Ngokuvamile kuba nzima ngabazali nezingane ukuba bahlangane ukuze badle ukudla komkhaya, ingasaphathwa eyokuchitha isikhathi esiseqophelweni eliphezulu ndawonye. Kodwa cishe akukho lutho izingane ezingathanda okwengeziwe. Vuka ekuseni ngemizuzu eyi-10 ukuze udle ukudla kwasekuseni nengane yakho noma ushiye izitsha kusinki bese uhamba ngezinyawo ngemva kwesidlo sakusihlwa. Izingane ezingakutholi ukunakwa ezikufunayo kubazali bazo zivame ukulingisa noma ziziphathe kabi ngoba ziqinisekile ukuthi zizonakwa ngaleyo ndlela.
Abazali abaningi bakuthola kuzuzisa ukuhlela isikhathi ndawonye nezingane zabo. Dala "ubusuku obukhethekile" isonto ngalinye ukuze nibe ndawonye futhi uvumele izingane zakho zikusize zinqume ukuthi zisichitha kanjani isikhathi. Bheka ezinye izindlela zokuxhuma — faka inothi noma okuthile okukhethekile ebhokisini lesidlo sasemini lengane yakho.
Intsha ibonakala idinga ukunakwa okulinganiselwe okuvela kubazali bayo kunezingane ezincane. Ngenxa yokuthi mancane amathuba okuba abazali nentsha bahlangane ndawonye, ​​abazali kufanele benze konke okusemandleni abo ukuze batholakale lapho ingane yabo izwakalisa isifiso sokukhuluma noma sokuhlanganyela emisebenzini yomkhaya. Ukuhambela amakhonsathi, imidlalo, neminye imicimbi nengane yakho ikhuluma ngokunakekela futhi ikuvumela ukuba wazi okwengeziwe ngengane yakho nabangane bayo ngezindlela ezibalulekile.
Ungazizwa unecala uma ungumzali osebenzayo. Yizinto eziningi ezincane ozenzayo - ukwenza ama-popcorn, ukudlala amakhadi, ukuthenga ngefasitela - izingane ezizozikhumbula.
5. Yiba Isibonelo Esihle
Izingane ezincane zifunda okuningi mayelana nendlela yokwenza ngokubuka abazali bazo. Lapho bebancane, kulapho bethatha khona izinkomba ezengeziwe kuwe. Ngaphambi kokuba ubhoke noma ushaye ihlombe phambi kwengane yakho, cabanga ngalokhu: Ingabe yileyo ndlela ofuna ingane yakho iziphathe ngayo lapho ithukuthele? Qaphela ukuthi uhlezi ubhekwa izingane zakho. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi izingane ezishayayo ngokuvamile zinesibonelo sobudlova ekhaya.
Lingisa izici ofisa ukuzibona ezinganeni zakho: inhlonipho, ubungane, ukwethembeka, umusa, ukubekezelelana. Bonisa ukuziphatha okungenabugovu. Yenza izinto kwabanye abantu ngaphandle kokulindela umvuzo. Bonisa ukubonga futhi unikeze izincomo. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, phatha izingane zakho ngendlela olindele ukuthi abanye abantu bakuphathe ngayo.
6. Yenza Ukukhulumisana Kube Yinto Ebalulekile
Awukwazi ukulindela ukuthi izingane zenze yonke into ngoba nje wena, njengomzali, "usho kanjalo." Bafuna futhi bafanelwe izincazelo njengoba kwenza abantu abadala. Uma singaziniki isikhathi sokuchaza, izingane zizoqala ukuzibuza ngezindinganiso nezisusa zethu nokuthi zinaso yini isisekelo. Abazali ababonisana nezingane zabo bazivumela ukuba ziqonde futhi zifunde ngendlela engenakwahlulela.
Kwenze kucace okulindele. Uma kunenkinga, yichaze, uveze imizwa yakho, futhi umeme ingane yakho ukuba isebenze nawe esixazululweni. Qiniseka ukuthi ufaka imiphumela. Yenza iziphakamiso bese unikeza ukukhetha. Vula iziphakamiso zengane yakho futhi. Xoxisana. Izingane ezibamba iqhaza ezinqumweni zithola ugqozi lokuzifeza.
7. Yiba Ovumelana Nezimo Futhi Uzimisele Ukulungisa Isitayela Sakho Sobuzali
Uma ngokuvamile uzizwa "uphoxekile" ngokuziphatha kwengane yakho, mhlawumbe unokulindela okungenangqondo. Abazali abacabanga ngokuthi "kufanele" (ngokwesibonelo, "Ingane yami kufanele ube oqeqeshelwe imbiza okwamanje") angase akuthole kuwusizo ukufunda kabanzi ngendaba noma ukukhuluma nabanye abazali noma ochwepheshe bokuthuthukisa izingane.
Izindawo zezingane zinomthelela ekuziphatheni kwazo, ngakho ungase ukwazi ukushintsha lokho kuziphatha ngokushintsha indawo ezungezile. Uma uzithola uhlezi uthi "cha" enganeni yakho eneminyaka engu-2, bheka izindlela zokushintsha indawo okuzungezile ukuze izinto ezimbalwa zibe nemingcele. Lokhu kuzobangela ukukhungatheka okuncane kini nobabili.
Njengoba ingane yakho ishintsha, kancane kancane kuzodingeka ushintshe indlela yakho yokuba umzali. Kungenzeka ukuthi okusebenza nengane yakho manje ngeke kusebenze kahle esikhathini esingangonyaka noma emibili.
Intsha ivame ukubheka kancane kubazali bayo nakakhulu kontanga yayo njengezibonelo. Kodwa qhubeka unikeza isiqondiso, isikhuthazo, nesiyalo esifanele kuyilapho uvumela ingane yakho ukuba ithole ukuzimela okwengeziwe. Futhi thatha sonke isikhathi esitholakalayo ukuze wenze uxhumano!
8. Bonisa Ukuthi Uthando Lwakho Alunamibandela
Njengomzali, unesibopho sokuqondisa nokuqondisa izingane zakho. Kodwa indlela osiveza ngayo isiqondiso sakho sokulungisa yenza umehluko endleleni ingane esithola ngayo.
Lapho kufanele ukhulume nengane yakho, gwema ukusola, ukugxeka, noma ukuthola amaphutha, okulimaza ukuzethemba futhi kungaholela ekucasukeni. Kunalokho, zama ukukhulisa nokukhuthaza, ngisho nalapho ulaya izingane zakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi bayazi ukuthi nakuba ufuna futhi ulindele kangcono ngokuzayo, uthando lwakho lukhona noma ngabe kwenzekani.
9. Zazi Ezakho Izidingo Nemikhawulo Njengomzali
Bhekana nakho — ungumzali ongaphelele. Unamandla nobuthakathaka njengomholi womndeni. Qaphela amakhono akho — "Nginothando futhi ngizinikele." Yenza isifungo sokusebenzela ebuthakathakeni bakho — "Kudingeka ngihambisane nesiyalo." Zama ukuba nokulindela okungokoqobo kuwe, umlingani wakho, nezingane zakho. Akumele ube nazo zonke izimpendulo - zixolele.
Futhi zama ukwenza umzali umsebenzi olawulekayo. Gxila ezindaweni ezidinga ukunakwa kakhulu kunokuzama ukulungisa yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa. Vuma uma usushile. Zinike isikhathi sokuba umzali wenze izinto ezizokujabulisa.
Ukugxila ezidingweni zakho akukwenzi ube nobugovu. Kusho nje ukuthi uyayikhathalela inhlalakahle yakho, okungelinye inani elibalulekile ongalingisa izingane zakho.
