Unezinkinga zokulala zezingane? Ingabe wenza elinye lalawa maphutha angama-20 abazali abaningi abawenzayo angonakalisa ukulala kwengane yabo?

Kulula kakhulu ukwenza iphutha lobuzali. Sonke sikwenza usuku nosuku, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi ngeke sikwazi ukuzifundisa ukugwema amaphutha esikhathi esizayo. Uma ingane yakho ingahlali “ilala njengengane,” kungase kudingeke ufunde emaphutheni angu-20 esikhathi sobuthongo abanye abazali abawenza bengazi.

1. Ukulinda isikhathi eside ukuze umntwana alale.

Kukangaki uzwa ingane iklabalasa phambi kwabantu uzwe umzali ethi, “Hhawu, idiniwe. Lokho kuvame ukuxilonga okulungile, kodwa akudingekile ukuba ulinde kuze kube yilapho ingane yakho ikhalela ukuphumula. Eqinisweni, cishe bayokwazisa ukuthi uqaphela ukukhathala kwabo ngaphambi kokuba bakuthole lokho. Naka ngokwanele, futhi uzofunda izindlela ezicashile zengane yakho yokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthola indawo ethulile, wehlise izibani, futhi ugone endaweni ephephile, nejwayelekile.

Nakhu okusheshayo ishidi lokukopela ngezinye zezindlela ezivame kakhulu izingane ezithi, “Ngiyozela,”

• Ukushintsha isimo sobuso
• Ecikica amehlo
• Ukugqolozela emkhathini
• Izibhakela ezivaliwe
• ukuzamula

2. Ukubukela phansi amandla esimiso sokulala. (Lokhu KUKHULU!)

Kunesikhathi lapho izingane zabo bonke ubudala zazilaliswa ngesikhathi esifanayo njalo ebusuku ngokugeza okufudumele, isikhathi sendaba kanye nokukhanya ebusuku. Abazali bamatasa kakhulu namuhla, futhi abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okuba nemisebenzi yesikhathi esigcwele, amabhizinisi okufanele bawaqhube neminye imithwalo yemfanelo edlula ukuphatha ikhaya nokunakekela izingane. Lokhu kusho ukuthi abazali abaningi bayawayeka amasu alula okuba umzali njengeshejuli yesikhathi sokulala engashintshi.

Lokhu kuhlale kuyiphutha ngoba izingane zidinga ukungaguquguquki kanye nesimiso sokulala kahle ( Gaylor 2005. ) Ngokwemvelo bazivumelanisa nesimiso sabo, futhi baqala ukuzizwa bekhathele ngaleso sikhathi. Lokhu kwenza kube lula kakhulu ukulalisa ingane, futhi ngokuvamile kusho izikhathi ezinde zokuthimula ukuze abazali nabo bathole ukuphumula okwengeziwe. Yenzela wonke umuntu umusa futhi uthuthukise indlela yokulala eyenziwa ngokungaguquguquki ngesikhathi esifanayo nsuku zonke.

3. Ukweqa isimiso sokulala (Ngisho “Nalokhu kanye nje.”)

Ngisho nalapho abazali bekuqonda ukubaluleka kwesimiso sesikhathi sokulala, kunezikhathi lapho bengase bakuthole kufaneleka khona ukumgcina elele kamuva noma bazame ukwenza ingane isheshe ilale. Umphumela uba ukukhungatheka njengoba umntwana ekhathala futhi eqala ukudonsa umoya ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Izingane eziningi zivele zenqabe ukulala ngaphambi kwesikhathi ngoba umzimba wazo uzitshela ukuthi kuseyisikhathi sokudlala.

Ngokuvamile kulula ukwenza imicimbi yomphakathi eduze nesimiso somntwana kunokuphonsa isimiso somntanakho ngefasitela. Uma kufanele uphume ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, qiniseka ukuthi unombhede ohambayo, umbhede ophathwayo ( owuthandayo! ), noma enye indawo ephephile lapho ingane yakho ingaphumula khona uma kudingeka. Kufanele ulindele ukuthi kuthathe ubusuku obubodwa noma obubili ukuze ingane ikwazi ukulungisa isimiso sakho sokulala uma isimiso sayo sesiphazamisekile.

Akukhona nje ukuthi ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izingane kanye nezingane ezincane ezingenazo izikhathi zokulala ezivamile zinezinkinga eziningi zokuziphatha ( Gaylor, 2005 , ( Komada 2010 ) Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinsana ezinamathela ezimisweni zokulala ezivamile zingalala isikhathi eside ebusuku ( Molfese, 2016 ).

4. Ukuvumela ingane ukuba ithembele kumzali oyedwa noma umnakekeli.

Lokhu kukhulu futhi kungenzeka ngenxa yezizathu eziningi. Umzali ohlala ekhaya angase abe nomuzwa wokuthi kufanele akwenze konke ngoba engafuni ukuhlupha umngane wakhe womshado, osevele ecindezelekile ngenxa yomsebenzi nezinye izinto ezingaphandle kwekhaya. Abanye abazali bangase bamane babe nomuzwa wokuthi akekho onganakekela ingane yabo kangcono kunabo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isiphi isizathu, kufanele uvumele umngane wakho womshado noma omunye umuntu omdala omethembayo ukuthi angene futhi akusize lapho ukhungathekile noma umane ukhathele. Uma ungenjalo, uzogcina wenze amaphutha aphazamisa ukulala kwengane yakho noma aholele ezinkingeni zokulala eziqhubekayo ezihlala izinsuku, amasonto noma ngisho neminyaka.

5. Ukuphendula KUWO WONKE umsindo omncane noma ukunyakazisa.

Izingane ngokwemvelo zenza imisindo ngenkathi zilele, futhi asikho isizathu sokuphendula iningi lazo. Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho iyaphupha noma imane igibele ibhayisikili ezigabeni ezihlukene zokulala ezingase ziyishiye iphapheme ngezikhathi ezithile ebusuku. Uma ungena uphuthuma ekamelweni futhi uziqoqe njalo lapho zenza umsindo, uzozivusa ungaqondile. ( Burham , 2005 )

Zama ukuphumula futhi uphendule kuphela uma uqinisekile ukuthi ingane yakho iphapheme noma kukhona enye inkinga okudingeka uyilungise. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzofunda ukuqaphela imisindo eyenziwa ingane yakho ngenkathi ilele futhi iphapheme. Ungase futhi uthole ukuthi ingane yakho ngezinye izikhathi imduduza ukuze alale ngaphandle kosizo lwakho. Lokhu kuyintuthuko enempilo ofuna ukuyikhuthaza.

6. Ukuzama ukuletha umntwana ohlelweni kuyilapho abanye bekhaya belandela iculo elihlukile.

Ungakwazi yini ukulala uma bekunephathi eyenzeka ngaphandle komnyango wakho? Mhlawumbe akunjalo, futhi nengane yakho ayikwazi. Uma yonke indlu yakho imatasa lapho ufuna ingane yakho ilale, qiniseka ukuthi isenzo senzeka kude negumbi lokulala lomntwana. Ukusebenzisa umshini womsindo noma uhlelo lokusebenza ukuze udlale umsindo omhlophe noma omunye umsindo opholile enkulisa kungase kusize, kodwa wonke umuntu emkhayeni kufanele aqaphele isidingo somntwana sokuphumula. Lapho umntwana ezwa okuthile okuthi abanye baphapheme, ngokwemvelo bayofuna ukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani futhi babangele izinkinga zokulala kwezingane ubusuku bonke!

7. Ukulala ndawonye ngenxa yokukhathala kunesinqumo esinengqondo sokwenza kanjalo.

Uke wadinwa ingane evele ingavumi noma ilale waze wayishutheka eduze kwakho? Izingane eziningi ezinomsindo zizothula futhi zilale uma zinemfudumalo nokuphepha komzali, kodwa lokhu kungaba nomthelela ohlala njalo emikhubeni yokulala yengane yakho. Bangase bathole umlayezo wokuthi ukuxabana isikhathi eside ngokwanele kubafaka embhedeni wakho, futhi bafuna ukuba embhedeni wakho.

Nakuba singabalandeli ABAKHULU bokulala ndawonye, ​​kungcono kakhulu ukuhlala uhambisana nemikhuba yakho evamile yokulala ngisho noma kusho ukuthi wena nomngane wakho womshado kufanele nimake iqembu ubusuku bonke lapho umntwana engafuni nje ukulala. Ukuzivumela ngobusuku bokukhathala kungase kuholele kumntwana osacathula ongeke nje alale yedwa. Iminyaka ihamba ngokushesha, futhi lo mkhuba ufakwa kalula.

8. Ukuvumela ukulala kakhulu emini ngenxa yezinhlelo ezingahlelekile.

Ingabe ungumzali othanda inkululeko nongenandaba kangako nezinhlelo nezinqubo? Ungase uvumele ingane yakho ngokwemvelo ukuba iwele kuleyo ndlela yokuphila yamahhala, kodwa ingase ingakuthathi ngaso sonke isikhathi njengemvelo. Uma uvumela ukulala kakhulu phakathi nosuku, ungase wenze ngephutha isikhova sasebusuku ( Nakagawa, 2016 ) esingafuni nje ukwenqaba lapho ukhathele. Kungase kudingeke ukuthi ubeke imingcele ethile, uvuse ingane elele isikhathi eside ngezikhathi ezingafanele, futhi ukhethe isikhathi sokulala esingaguquki ukuze ingane yakho ibe nesakhiwo esiyidingayo ukuze ilale kahle.

9. Ukungasebenzi kanzima ngokwanele ukujabulisa ingane ngesikhathi sokuvuka.

Kukangaki ingane yakho ithola ukukhuthazwa engqondweni nasemzimbeni usuku lonke? Uma zihlale isikhathi eside ngaphandle kokuxhumana nabanye, zingabhoreka njengabantu abadala abangenzi lutho. Qiniseka ukuthi ingane yakho inesikhathi esiningi sokukhuluma nawe, ukuculela umculo omnandi, ukwelula imisipha yayo ngesikhathi sesisu, ukufunda izincwadi, nokuphumela ngaphandle ukuze ufunde ngezwe elikhulu. Uzoklonyeliswa ngomntwana okhathele kakhudlwana olungele isikhathi sasebusuku.

10. Ukungavumeli ingane ifunde ukuzithulisa.

Izingane ezithembele ebuthongweni azikwazi noma azifuni ukuzithulisa ukuze zilale. Sebekujwayele kakhulu ukunyakaziswa, ukubhampa, ukushwibeka, noma ukubhucungwa ukuze balale kangangokuthi ngeke balale ngaphandle kwalokho kududuzeka. Kwezinye izimo, lokho kuziphatha kothando kuba yizinkomba ezitshela ingane ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokulala. Kwezinye izimo, umntwana umane nje ukuhlobanisa lokho kududuza nokulala ngoba yikho nje abake bakwazi.

Uzoyiduduza ngokwemvelo ingane yakho ukuze ilale esiteji esisanda kuzalwa ngoba kuyaduduza kini nobabili, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi unikeza ingane yakho ithuba lokuyiduduza ukuze ilale okungenani isikhathi esithile. Lokhu akusho ukuvumela umntwana ukuba amemeze futhi akhale aze akhathele kakhulu ukuba angaqhubeka. Kusho nje ukwenza umntwana akhululeke futhi ajabule ngesikhathi esilindelekile sokulala, bese eyivumela ukuba ilale ngendlela yayo. Uma uqala ngaphambi kwesikhathi, ingane yakho izojwayela ukulala ngokuzimele. ( Burham, 2005 )

11. Ukuvumela amashejuli okulala angqubuzanayo lapho uhamba phakathi kwamakhaya amabili.

Ingabe ingane yakho ichitha isikhathi nawe, bese uya endlini yomunye umzali ukuze uchithe isikhathi nayo? Ingabe baya endlini ka-sitter noma kwagogo emini bese befika nawe ekhaya kusihlwa nangezimpelasonto? Uma kunesimo sokuphila esihlukene noma bechitha isikhathi esiningi nomuntu ohlezi, qiniseka ukuthi wonke umuntu ohilelekile unamathela esimisweni esifanayo nesimiso sesikhathi. Lokhu kuzovimbela ingane yakho ukuthi ingazizwa ididekile futhi ingaphumuli lapho idlula kulezo zinguquko ezivamile. Ukuvumelana kuyisihluthulelo !!!

12. Hhayi ukubhekana nokungakhululeki kwengane ngokushesha.

Nakuba ungafuni ukugijimela ohlangothini lwengane yakho bese uqala ukushintsha inabukeni, izingubo zokugqoka, amabhuzu, namashidi isikhathi ngasinye lapho yenza umsindo, kunezikhathi lapho udinga ukuhlola ingane futhi unakekele izinkinga ezingase zibe khona. okubangela ukungakhululeki. Mhlawumbe umntwana ophithizelayo unenabukeni eligcwele noma ufudumale kakhulu lapho ehlanganiswe ubusuku bonke. Ukunakekela lokho kuphazamiseka cishe kuyovumela ingane ukuthi iphinde ilale.

Uma usuthole okuthile okwenza ingane yakho ingakhululeki, thola izindlela zokugwema lokho esikhathini esizayo. Kungathatha isikhathi ukufunda ukuthi ingane idinga ukunqwabelana kanjani ukuze igcine izinga lokushisa lomzimba elinethezekile ubusuku bonke, futhi yonke ingane ihlukile endleleni ethanda ukulala ngayo.

13. Ukungaxhumani izikhathi zokudla nezikhathi zokulala.

Uma kunento eyodwa elula ongayenza ukuze usize ingane yakho ijwayelane nomkhuba ovamile wokulala, ukuvumelanisa ukudla kanye nezikhathi zokulala. Izingane ziyakhathala ngokwemvelo njengoba izisu zigcwala, ngakho-ke kulula ukuzithola zilala ngemva nje kokunceliswa. (Ungaphinde uvuke ncelisa ingane yakho ukuze ilale uma lokho kukusebenzela!) Inkinga iwukuthi abazali abaningi abanamathele ezikhathini ezivamile zokudla, futhi lokho kuchitha nesimiso sokulala. Ukungaguquguquki kuyisihluthulelo kuzo zonke izici zeshejuli yengane yakho. ( Rinne, 1990 )

14. Kucatshangwa ukuthi ebusuku kuzolingana nasekuseni kakhulu.

Ngakho-ke ufuna ukugcina ingane yakho kuze kube sebusuku ukuze ulale kusasa? Qagela? Akuvamile ukusebenza kanjalo kuze kube yilapho sebebasha! Abanye abazali bacabanga ngokungalungile ukuthi bangakwazi ukugcina izingane zabo kuze kube sebusuku kakhulu ukuze zilale kamuva ekuseni. Akulona nje iqiniso ezinganeni eziningi. Ikakhulukazi ingahle ihlasele uma ingane yakho ijwayele isimiso sokulala esingashintshi. Cishe bazovuka ngesikhathi esifanayo naphezu kokuhlwa ebusuku, kodwa bazoba ne-cranky ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuntuleka kokulala. Futhi, ukusebenza eduze neshejuli yokulala yengane yakho kuhlala kulula kunokuzama ukuyilawula.

15. Ukungaqondi ukuthi ingane idinga ukulala kangakanani ngempela eminyakeni yobudala.

Abazali abaningi bakhathazeka ngokuthi izingane zabo zilele kakhulu noma zincane kakhulu, kodwa empeleni abazi ukuthi yini evamile eqenjini leminyaka yengane yabo. Ungahlala ubuza udokotela wakho wezingane ngalokhu ekuhlolweni ngakunye, kodwa kufanelekile ukuthi uzenzele ucwaningo lwakho ukuze ufunde imihlahlandlela ejwayelekile. Vele ukhumbule ukuthi zonke izingane zihlukile, ngakho-ke ingane yakho ingase idinge okuncane noma okuncane kakhulu kunezinye izingane. Uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi ingane yakho inenkinga ejulile ephazamisa ukulala kwayo noma ebangela ukuba ilale kakhulu, bona udokotela wakho ngokushesha.

16. Ukuvimbela ukukhanya kwelanga noma umsindo.

Abanye abazali bazama ukukwenza kuthule futhi kube mnyama isikhathi ngasinye lapho ingane ilele. Qagela? Lokho akulungile futhi kuzofundisa ingane ukuthi ivuke kunoma yimuphi umsindo omncane ewuzwayo noma noma nini lapho kuba khona ukukhanya okuncane. Singaphakamisa ngisho nomsindo omncane omhlophe ekamelweni lezingane ukuze ANGAJALI ukuthulisa ukulala. (SIYATHANDA lo mshini omhlophe womsindo ….muhle FUTHI uwusizo ekamelweni lezingane!)

17. Ukunikezela ngaphambi kokuba umntwana abe nesikhathi sokujwayela izinqubo ezintsha noma ezilindelwe.

Wake wezwa yini ukuthi abantu abaningi bayayeka lapho nje belindele impumelelo enkulu? Lo mqondo usebenza ekuqeqesheni ingane ukuthi ilale kahle. Uma udinga ukwenza ukulungisa esimisweni somntwana noma ufuna ukugxilisa imikhuba enempilo ongazange uyivume ekuqaleni kwempilo yomntwana, kungase kuthathe isikhathi ukuba ingane igibele. Uma uhlala ungaguquguquki, kuzogcina kusebenze, ngakho ungadikibali.

18. Ukushintsha ukusuka embhedeni ukuya embhedeni wasemini noma umbhede wengane ngaphambi kwesikhathi.

Abazali abaningi balangazelela lezo zenzakalo ezinkulu, futhi lokhu kushintshela embhedeni kungenye yazo. Kwezinye izimo, abazali bafuna ukuhambisa ingane endala embhedeni omkhulu ukuze umbhede ulungele ingane entsha. Ngeshwa, uzoklonyeliswa ngengane edidekile, engakhululekile, noma ecindezelekile uma uzama ukuthutha ngokushesha. Linda kuze kube yilapho ingane yakho iyakhasa iphuma embhedeni, ineminyaka emibili ubudala, noma ibonisa ezinye izimpawu zokuvuthwa ezikutshela ukuthi isilungile. Ungajahi izigigaba ngoba zimnandi uma zifika ngesikhathi sazo.

19. Ukuletha umbhede wengane ngaphandle kwesixwayiso.

Izingane eziningi azisabeli kahle ekushintsheni okungazelelwe. Njengoba ukulungele ngendlela ongase uzizwe ngayo ukuze umbhede omncane udlale, ingane yakho ingase idinge isikhathi ukuze iqonde ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi kungani. Qala ngokuxoxa ngokuthi uyini umbhede omkhulu womfana noma wentombazane, ukuthi kunjani ukulala endaweni eyodwa, nokuthi kujabulisa kangakanani ukuphuma ebhedeni ukuya embhedeni ovumela inkululeko eyengeziwe. Uma uzwa ukuthi ingane yakho isilungile, thula umbhede omusha. Kukuwe ukuthi uyamkhipha kancane kancane ebhedeni noma uma uya emakhazeni.

20. Ukulalela abanye kunokuqonda KWAKHO, ingqondo nemithombo enedumela elihle.

Abazali abaningi bathola ukuthi bavumelana nezingane zabo futhi bangathatha ukuqagela okunembile kulokho abakudingayo isikhathi esiningi. Ngeshwa, abazali abasha bavame ukucabanga ukuthi abanye abanolwazi oluthe xaxa bazi kangcono. Ngisho nabazali abanolwazi lweminyaka bavame ukuqagela izinkolelo zabo ezinembile. Yingakho abazali abaningi bezama abakuzwa kwabanye abantu nakuba kuvame ukubasebenzela izingane zabo.

Abazali abaningi bagcina befunda ukulalela umuzwa wabo wemvelo noma ukuthola umthombo onedumela elihle ngenkathi ukhipha isixuku, kodwa ungazisindisa isikhathi ngokunquma njengamanje ukunikeza umuzwa wakho womzali ukubaluleka okwengeziwe. Lokho akusho ukuthi awulokothi ucele iseluleko kwabanye abazali noma uzame lokho okusebenzele umngane wakho. Kusho nje ukuthi ulalela imizwa yakho futhi uzifundise ukuze ungalandeli abanye ngobumpumputhe.

Uma ufuna igama elithi "lala njengengane" noma lisho amahora esikhathi sokusnuza esingaphazanyiswa, ukulungisa isimiso sakho sokulala ngamanye alawa macebiso kungasiza ukuthi ingane yakho ilale ubusuku bonke. Khumbula nje ukuthi wonke umzali kufanele athole okusebenzela ingane yakhe, futhi azikho izingane ezimbili ezifanayo!

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