By Winsome Coutts
Kulezi zikhathi ezimatasa, lapho abazali nezingane benesimiso esigcwele kakhulu, ukusondelana komkhaya kungase kuphele. Iningi lethu kufanele lenze umzamo wokuqinisekisa ukuthi umsebenzi, isikole, ezemidlalo, nemisebenzi yasekhaya akubuqedi ubudlelwano obenza lezo zinto zibaluleke.
Ugcine nini ukudlala noma ukuzulazula nengane yakho? Uyakhumbula emuva kuze kube manje? Abazali abaningi abakwazi. Ukuphila kusenze sagxila kakhulu, sagxila kakhulu, kangangokuthi silahlekelwe injabulo yezinto ezilula, futhi ukudlala bekungenye yezokuqala.
Kodwa njengoba noma iyiphi ingane ngokwemvelo yazi, ukudlala kubalulekile ekuphileni. Ikhanyisa inhliziyo futhi ikhanyise umoya. Ezinganeni, ezihlala eduze kunathi nemvelo, ukudlala kuzenzakalela njengokuphefumula. Ngokudabukisayo, abantu abadala abaningi balahlekelwe lelo khono. Izingane zethu zingaba inkambo yethu yokuvuselela.
Ukudlala nengane yakho kukubuyisela esikhathini samanje, kukukhumbuze okubalulekile, futhi kukubambezele isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuze uhogele ama-roses. Kuphinde kukuxhumanise ngokomzwelo nengane yakho, kwakhiwe kabusha ukusondelana okushesha kakhulu, izindlela zokuphila eziyisicefe zisheshe zikuhlubule.
Ukudlala ndawonye kubaluleke kakhulu enganeni yakho kunawe ngoba idinga ukuzizwa isondelene nawe ukuze izizwe ithandwa futhi ijabule. Uma udebeselele isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuba ndawonye, kungase kubonakale sengathi ingane yakho ayinandaba nokunaka kwakho. Angase akutshele kanjalo. Kodwa lokho kumane nje kuyiphutha, kufihla ukwesaba ukuthi uzophinde umdumaze uma ezivumela ukuba afise isikhathi sokuba yedwa nawe. Uma niqala ukudlala ndawonye, futhi nikwenza ngezikhathi ezithile, ngisho nentsha enganakekile izoqala ukukulangazelela futhi, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, iziphonse ebumnandini.
Hlobo luni lokudlala okufanele ulwenze? Naka imisebenzi ingane yakho ehileleka kuyo: umbono wayo wokuzijabulisa. Uma lezi zinto zibonakala ziyisicefe kuwe, zama ukuhlala eduze, ubukele njengoba ezenza, ngamazwi abonisa ilukuluku lakho. Ungase uthole ukuthi empeleni uhlakulela isithakazelo sangempela. Uma ingane yakho iyizambane likasofa, thatha i-perch yakho kusofa eduze kwayo, kodwa ngemva kokuba usuvunyelwe “ukungena,” qalisa umdlalo ongase ube mnandi kune-TV.
Cabanga emuva kulokho owakwenza useyingane okungasoze kwalibaleka, ikakhulukazi izinto owazenza nabazali bakho ezihlala nawe unganyakazi. Cabanga ngezinto zamahhala noma ezibiza kancane, ezihlanganisa ukuphila ndawonye.
Qala uhlu lwemibono njengoba iza, bese wengeza noma yikuphi kokulandelayo ohambisana nakho:
- Raking izitaki amaqabunga ekwindla, ke jumping noma rolling kuwo
- Ukuhamba ngezinyawo endaweni egcina ihlathi
- Skating at the roller rink ndawonye
- Ukuhamba nenja, ukushintshana ngentambo
- Ukufunda izincwadi zamahlaya noma amahlaya ndawonye (noma izincwadi zezinkondlo noma izindaba)
- Ukwenza amakhukhi, i-pizza noma ikhekhe
- Ukwakha inqaba ngeqhwa noma izihlalo nezingubo zokulala
- Ukudlala umacashelana, fihla ithunjana, amakhadi noma imidlalo yebhodi
- Elele engubeni ebheke phezulu ebuka izinkanyezi
- Ehlezi phambi kwesitofu sezinkuni ekamelweni elimnyama, exoxa izindaba
- Ukwenza izibalo zethunzi odongeni ngezandla zakho kanye nethoshi
- Ukuba nokuzingela ingcebo
- Ukuthosa ama-marshmallow emlilweni
- Ukubuka umbukiso
- Ukuya e-aquarium, zoo noma imnyuziyamu
- Amakhayithi endizayo ndawonye
- Ukwakha okuthile
- Ukwenza i-scrapbook
- Ukwakha inkondlo noma ingoma engasile
- Ukubuka imuvi, enamaphophukhoni futhi akukho ziphazamiso
- Ukudlala umdlalo wenkumbulo, njengokuthi “Ngizoya endlini kaGogo, futhi epotimendeni lami ngizopakisha…”
- Ukuvuka ekuseni ukuze ubuke ukuphuma kwelanga egqumeni
- Ukudlala imidlalo yokuzenzisa
- Ukuya endaweni ethile ekhethekile, njengolwandle
- Ukuba nepikiniki yekhekhe eqhweni
Ukudlala ndawonye kuhlukile kunokutholela ingane yakho imisebenzi yokuzijabulisa. Ukudlala kuhilela wena, kuyilapho ezokuzijabulisa zikuthethelela esithombeni. Uma uzithola uthi, “Kodwa isimiso sami simatasa kakhulu kunoma yiziphi izinto ezikulolo hlu,” cabangela ukuthi isimiso sakho siyakudinga yini ukuthenwa okuthile. Phela, ubani ozokhumbula eminyakeni engu-20 uma uhlala sekwephuzile emsebenzini noma cha ngoLwesibili oluzayo? Kodwa ingabe ingane yakho iyoke ikhohlwe ngoLwesibili lapho nigibela i-rollercoaster ndawonye?
Ukusondelana nengane akunakuthathwa kalula. Njenganoma yibuphi obunye ubudlelwano, buzoshabalala ngaphandle uma benziwa into yokuqala. Ayikho into eyakha ukwethembana nokuxhumana nengane njengokwabelana isikhashana sobuwula nokuhleka. Hlanganani ukuze nidlale ngenhliziyo elula, futhi ungase uthole ingane yakho ivula isifuba ngezihloko ezibalulekile. Isimo sokudlala esikhululekile sisisiza ukuthi siyeke ukuqapha futhi siveze okwengeziwe ngathi.
Lapho nidlala ndawonye, yenza ingane yakho izizwe ingumuntu obaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni wenu. Mnikeze ukunaka kwakho okuphelele: akukho makhalekhukhwini, akukho ukuphazamiseka, akukho ukungena emicabangweni yakho yangasese. Yiba khona - umzimba, ingqondo nomoya. Khona-ke zivumele wenze noma yini eza ngokwemvelo, ngokulahlwa owawukuzwa useyingane. Umzwelo wakho uzoba umhlahlandlela wakho.
Ukukhula eduze ngokudlala kulula. Kuthatha izikhathi ezizinikezele, ezinikezwa njalo, ukuze ingane yakho iqale ukuthembela ekubeni nesikhathi nawe.
Vumela ingane yakho ukuthi ikufundise kabusha izimfihlo ezimangalisayo zokudlala. Nobabili nizozizwa nilondeke kakhudlwana futhi ninokuthula - futhi nijabule kakhulu, njengoba isizathu sokwenza konke, siqala ukubuyela kini.
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