Ukukhulisa Ubuhlakani Nomcabango Wokuthuthukisa Ingane

UCleo, ingane yasenkulisa eneminyaka engu-4 ubudala, watshela uMama wakhe ngenjabulo, “…sabe sesiphuza ubisi olunsomi oluphuma enkomeni ensomi.” UWebster uchaza ukucabanga ngokuthi “ikhono lokwakha isithombe engqondweni yakho sento ongakaze uyibone noma ongakaze uyibone; ikhono lokucabanga ngezinto ezintsha.” Yonke ingane izalwa inomcabango. Ngezinye izikhathi, abazali kanye nabantu abadala bakhulisa ukucabanga kwezingane futhi bathole injabulo emicabangweni nasezenzweni zabo zokudala. Kwezinye izikhathi, singase (ngamabomu noma ngokungazi) sicindezele imibono yezingane, mhlawumbe sikhathazeke ngokuthi izingane aziqondi ukuthi yini engokoqobo. Izingane eziningi ezineminyaka engaphezu kwemithathu, nokho, ziyazi ukuthi izinkomo ezinsomi azikho ngempela kodwa zijabulela amathuba okucabanga nokucabanga ngendlela yokudala. Ukuvumela izingane ukuba zisebenzise umcabango wazo kuyasiza futhi kunezinzuzo eziningi zokudlala ukuzenzisa ekukhuleni kwengane. NgokukaSusan Engel, Ph.D., umbhali we-Real Kids: Creating Meaning in Everyday Lives, “Izingane ezineminyaka emibili nengxenye ziyawuqonda umehluko phakathi kokwangempela nokuzenzisa. Kodwa lapho bedlala, bangalahlekelwa umbono walowo mehluko, noma kube okungabalulekile.”

I-Creative Thinking & Imagination Yokuthuthukiswa Kwengane

U-Einstein wathi, “Ukucabanga kubaluleke kakhulu kunolwazi.” Ukucabanga kuwumnyango wamathuba. Kulapho ubuhlakani, ubuhlakani, kanye nokucabanga ngaphandle kwebhokisi kuqala khona ekukhuleni kwengane. Umdlalo ocabangayo nowokudala yindlela izingane ezifunda ngayo ngezwe. Ngesikhathi sokudlala okucatshangwayo, izingane zishintsha izinto, ziveze ngomlomo noma zingakhulumi, zihlele (ngenhloso noma ngokungenhloso), zenze, zihlanganyele, zisabele, futhi zizame izindima ezihlukene. Amathuba amahle okufunda angenzeka uma izingane zibamba iqhaza ekudlaleni ngonodoli, izimoto, amabhlogo, amatshe, amakhadibhodi, noma amabhokisi. Ukusebenzisa ukucabanga okuhlakaniphile kuyilapho ushintsha inhlama yokudlala, ukwenza izindlela zokupheka ngokuxuba ukungcola namanzi, ukusebenza ngezinto zobuciko, ukuchaphaza emanzini, noma ukuzenza sengathi uyandiza kungaqhubekisela phambili ukukhula kwengane.

Umcabango ukhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo nenhlalakahle. Wonke umuntu ufuna ukukhulisa izingane ezifinyelela amandla azo aphezulu kakhulu obuhlakani nezenhlalo/zemizwelo. Emfundweni yobuntwana, amakhono okucabanga okujulile kanye namakhono okuxazulula izinkinga kuyimigomo yokukhula kwezingane. Ukucabanga, ukuzama izindlela ezintsha zokwenza izinto, nokuhlola kusiza ukuthuthukisa ukucabanga okujulile ezinganeni futhi kukhuthaze ukuxazulula izinkinga ngobuchule. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umcabango wakha ukuthuthuka komphakathi-ngokomzwelo ngokuvumela izingane ukuba zicabange ngezinqumo ezihlukahlukene, ngaleyo ndlela zikhulise ukuzethemba kwezingane, ezingasetshenziswa lapho zisebenzelana nabanye. Imicabango kanye nekhono lokusungula nakho kungamakhono izingane zethu ezizowadinga lapho zijoyina abasebenzi bangomuso.

Ubuhlakani Bezingane: Amathiphu Okukhulisa Izingqondo Zokudala

Ngezansi kukhona amathiphu neziphakamiso zokukhulisa umcabango wengane yakho nokudala:

• Chitha isikhathi ungaphandle. Izinzuzo zemvelo ekukhuleni kwengane azipheli. Ngenxa yokuthi imvelo ihlala ishintsha, inikeza amathuba amaningi okuthola ulwazi, ubuciko, nokuxazulula izinkinga. Imvelo ishukumisela izingane ukuba zicabange, zibuze, zicabange futhi zithuthukise izingqondo zokusungula izinto. Izingane zingadweba esihlabathini, zenze imiklamo ngamagatsha, zakhe izinqaba ezinamagatsha, noma zimane zilale phansi zibheke esibhakabhakeni.

• Qamba izimo. Lapho ingane yakho isungula isimo, izama izindima eziningi ezahlukene futhi ihlele imicabango yayo kuyilapho ithuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana nabantu nokukhuluma. Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi idlale indlu, udokotela, zoo, ipulazi, isiteshi sasemkhathini, isikole, noma isitolo. Joyina emdlalweni wokuzicabangela ngokudlala indima ngokwakho. Dlala ngamathoyizi agxishiwe noma onodoli (yenza amaphaphethi alula ngokufaka isandla sakho esokisini). Vumela ingane yakho ihole isikhathi sakho sokudlala ndawonye. Uma ingane yakho ithanda amaqhawe amakhulu, cabanga ngamandla ingane yakho engase iwafune njengomzwelo wayo wamandla amakhulu. Cabangela ukuba ingane yakho idale iqhawe elisha!

• Imisebenzi yezwi. Kusukela emilolozelweni kuye kwezimfumbe, imisindo ewubuwula kuye kumisindvo, imidlalo efana nokuthi “I Spy” noma ukwakha isosha esihlatshelelwayo kuye kumashuni avamile, imisebenzi yokuxoxisana ngamazwi ingakhuthaza futhi ikhulise izingqondo zokudala. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, le misebenzi yakha ulwazimagama futhi isize ingane yakho ifunde imisindvo. Le midlalo futhi iyindlela ephelele nejabulisayo yokuchitha isikhathi ekugibeleni izimoto.

• Khuthaza imisebenzi yobuciko. Ubuciko buyinkulumo yokusungula ethuthukisa ukucabanga, hhayi isifundo ekulandeleni izikhombisi-ndlela. Ngokudweba, ukubaza, ikholaji, ubumba, ukudweba nanoma iyiphi enye indlela, ubuciko buyindlela yokuba izingane zisebenzise imizwelo, zenze izinqumo, futhi ziveze imibono yazo. Ukuguqula izinto zobuciko kunikeza umuzwa wenkululeko nokho futhi kukhuthaza ukugxila nokugxilisa ingqondo. Imisebenzi yobuciko iphinde ithuthukise amakhono amahle emisipha kanye nokusebenzisana kwesandla neso. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imisebenzi yobuciko yakha ukuzethemba ngoba izingane zithola umuzwa wokuphatha izinto eziholela ekudalweni okusha.

• Yabelana ngemisebenzi yokufunda nokubhala. Yenza isikhathi sokufunda sikhumbuleke futhi nixoxe ngezinye izimo noma iziphetho zendaba ngokusebenzisa umcabango wengane yakho. Yakha izindaba nengane yakho, ngezinye izikhathi naye njengomlingiswa oyinhloko; ngezinye izikhathi ziphakamisa izinkinga zokuziphatha. Nishintshane ngokwakha indaba eqhubekayo.

• Buza imibuzo evuleleke futhi eshukumisa ingqondo. Ukubuza imibuzo evusa ukucabanga okucabangayo nokusungulayo kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokumema ingane yakho ukuba iveze imibono yayo futhi yabelane ngemibono yayo, kuyilapho imnikeza umlayezo wokuthi imibono yayo ibalulekile. “Ucabanga ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma….?” “Uyini umehluko phakathi kwenja nekati?” "Iziphi ezinye izindlela zokwenza lokhu?"

• Khawulela isikhathi sesikrini (umabonakude, amamuvi, ikhompuyutha, ithebulethi, i-smart phone, izibambo zesandla, imidlalo yevidiyo, njll.). Ukukhulisa umcabango kanye nokuba umzali enkathini yedijithali kungaba nzima. Ukugxila esikrinini kuyindlela yokufunda yezingane. Okunye kungaba ukukhuthaza izingane ukuthi zenze into entsha nehlukile. Ukuzibandakanya kwezingane ngendlela yokuzalana zisebenzisa imizimba yazo yonke nezinzwa zazo ezinhlanu nakho kuvula ingqondo.

• Khumbula ukuvumela isikhathi sokuphumula. Isikhathi esingahleliwe, esingahleliwe sivumela izingane amathuba okucabanga nokudala.

Isikhathi sobuntwana yisikhathi esiphezulu sokukhulisa imicabango yezingane. Ngakho-ke uma ingane yakho ifika ekhaya futhi ithi, “…bese siphuza ubisi olunsomi oluphuma enkomeni ensomi,” noma into efanayo, nikeza isikhuthazo ngobuhlakani bayo nokucinga.