Sicele odokotela bezingane, odade basemtholampilo, abaqeqeshi babazali nomama abanolwazi ngamathiphu abo aphezulu ukuze bakusize ugweme izingibe ezivame ukukhuphula abazali bokuqala.
1. Ungacabangi ukuthi ukuncelisa kuzofika kalula futhi ngokwemvelo
Omama abaningi abasanda kuzalwa bakuthola kunzima ukuncelisa ibele futhi bayamangala ukuthi akufiki kalula noma ngokwemvelo, kusho umbelethisi kanye nodade wasemtholampilo u-Pippa Hime. Uma ingane yakho idonsa kanzima ukuncela, uma izwa ubuhlungu bebele kanye nengono, noma ukhathazekile ngokuthi ingane yakho kufanele inceliswe kaningi kangakanani, thola usizo kothile onolwazi ngokuncelisa, kutusa uPippa.
Abeluleki bokuncelisa abagunyazwe yibhodi lamazwe ngamazwe banikeza iseluleko sochwepheshe kuzo zonke izinselele zokuncelisa. I-La Leche League iphinde ibe nabaholi abaqeqeshiwe abangomama abancelisa ibele abanolwazi futhi abakujabulelayo ukusiza ngemibuzo nezinkathazo. Banekhasi le-Facebook elisebenzayo neliwusizo elithi http://www.llli.org/southafrica.html#
2. Umjikelezo udinga ukwenzeka ngesikhathi sawo
Omama abasanda kuzalwa bavame ukucabanga ukuthi bangakwazi ukusungula isimiso nengane yabo esanda kuzalwa zisuka nje, kodwa lokhu akwenzeki. Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzisana nengane yakho ukuze uthole kancane kancane inqubo yezinsuku nobusuku bakho, kuphakamisa u-Pippa.
Qaphela ukuthi uma kuziwa ekukhuliseni izingane, isimiso sakho ngeke sisebenze njengewashi. Lapho nje ucabanga ukuthi usuyitholile i-groove yakho, ingane yakho ingase iqale ukuxubha amazinyo noma ibambe ukuhogela futhi kuzodingeka ulungise.
3. Indle esanda kuzalwa iyaxega futhi ivamile
Ukwenza iphutha kwendle evamile esanda kuzalwa ngenxa yohudo kungolunye ugibe oluvamile, kusho uPippa. Indle esanda kuzalwa ivamise ukuvama futhi ixege kakhulu, kuyilapho indle yohudo ixega, igcwele, inamanzi futhi ingase yenzeke ngenxa yezizathu ezimbalwa ezihlanganisa ukungezwani nokudla, ukushintsha ukudla, noma isifo samathumbu. Izimpawu okufanele zikwenze ufune usizo, ngaphezu kwendle enamanzi, amanabukeni ambalwa amanzi, ukozela okungajwayelekile, umkhuhlane, ubuhlungu besisu kanye nokuhlanza.
4. Thola izeluleko ezithenjwayo
Abazali bavame ukuthatha izeluleko zezokwelapha kubangani, umndeni, omakhelwane abanezisusa ezinhle kanye nabanye omama ku-Facebook. Ngenxa yokuthi umngane wakho uthi welaphe ngempumelelo umkhuhlane wengane yakhe nge-Aspirin, akusho ukuthi kuphephile. Udokotela wezingane uFikile Mabena uveza ukuthi i-Aspirin ingadala isifo sesibindi esiyingozi esaziwa ngeReye’s syndrome ezinganeni ezincane.
Nakuba iseluleko singafika ngezinhloso ezinhle, kungcono ukuthola umhlinzeki wezempilo othembekile, onguchwepheshe (udokotela, udade wasemtholampilo noma udokotela wezingane) ongaxoxa naye ngemibuzo nezinkathazo zakho, uyanxusa. U-Pippa uphakamisa ukukhetha umhlinzeki wezempilo futhi unamathele kuye njengabazali futhi bangathatha iseluleko kochwepheshe abaningi kakhulu, okungase kungqubuzane futhi kudide.
5. Ungaqali izinto eziqinile kusenesikhathi noma sekwephuze kakhulu
Ukuqala izinto eziqinile kusenesikhathi, noma sekwephuzile, elinye iphutha elivamile, kusho uFikile. Ukudla okuqinile kufanele kufakwe ekudleni kwengane ephakathi kwezinyanga ezine neziyisithupha ubudala. Phakathi kwale minyaka, izingane zithuthukisa ukuxhumana kwe-oral-motor ukuhambisa ukudla okuqinile kusuka ngaphambili kuya ngemuva komlomo ukuze kugwinywe. Izingane nazo zizalwa zinensimbi ehlala isikhathi esingangezinyanga eziyisithupha. Ngakho-ke, idinga ukugcwaliswa ngokudla imithombo yokudla yemvelo.
Uma uqala kusenesikhathi, uzifaka engozini yokuklinywa, izinkinga zesisu, futhi ingane yakho ibe yisidudla ngokweminyaka yayo. Qala ukudla okuqinile sekwephuzile futhi usengozini yokunciphisa ukukhula kwengane yakho, kanye nokuntuleka kwe-iron ezinganeni ezincela ibele.
futhi ujwayele ukukala ingane yakho, bese usho ukukhula kwayo, ungakwazi ukubona isikhathi esifanele sokuqala ingane yakho ezintweni eziqinile.
6. Goma, ungagomi
Ukugonywa kuvikela ingane yakho nezinye izingane eziseduze kwazo ekutholeni izifo ezisongela ukuphila. Izinzuzo zidlula kude noma yiziphi izingozi ezincane zemiphumela emibi, kusho uFikile.
Ukukhetha ukungagomi ngokusekelwe olwazini oluku-inthanethi olusakazwa ukunyakaza kokugoma kuyinkinga ekhulayo. Uyanxusa bonke abazali ukuthi bagome izingane zabo ezisonyakeni wokuqala ezelwe nangemuva kwalokho.
7. Ingane yakho ingumuntu oyedwa
Azikho izingane ezimbili ezifanayo futhi ngenkathi omunye engaqala ukuhamba enezinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye, omunye uzohamba kuphela ezinyangeni eziyi-15. Futhi akuyona inkinga, kusho uPippa, othola ukuthi omama bavame ukwenza iphutha lokuziqhathanisa nezinsana zabo nabanye.
Ukuhlala uqhathanisa nezinyathelo ezibalulekile zengane yakho, futhi impumelelo yakho njengomzali, nabanye omama, kuzokubangela ukucindezeleka. Yeka ukuqhathanisa futhi ujabulele isigaba ngasinye ingane yakho ekuso.
8. Umqulu wokuqala wengane yakho ungakumangaza
Ingane yakho izokwazi ukuginqika isuka esiswini iye emhlane kusukela cishe ezinyangeni ezine ubudala futhi ukusuka emuva iye esiswini kusukela cishe ezinyangeni ezinhlanu. Ngisho nalolu lwazi, umqulu wokuqala wengane yakho ungakumangaza impela – ikakhulukazi uma ungaphandle kombhede noma ushintsha esiteshini, kuxwayisa umama wabantwana abane u-Caroline Swanson.
Ingane yokuqala kaCaroline yagingqika yasuka embhedeni wakhe kwathi eyesibili, naphezu kokuthi uCaroline wayeqiniseka ukuthi ngeke aphumelele.
iphutha elifanayo, wawa etafuleni elishintshayo ngesikhathi uCaroline efulathela ethatha inabukeni. Zombili izingane zahamba zingenamyocu, kodwa uCaroline waphatheka kabi. “Kuyiphutha elilula ukwenza − ezinyangeni ezimbalwa zokuqala zokuphila kwengane yakho, ungakwazi ukuya endaweni yokushintsha amanabukeni bese ubuyela enganeni endaweni efanayo. Kuze kube, ngolunye usuku, ungakwenzi,” kusho yena.
Gwema ukwenza umkhuba wokufulathela ingane yakho lapho isendaweni ephakeme.
9. Khumbulani ukuthi naniyizithandani kuqala
Ukukhulisa izingane kungase kudle konke, kusho umqeqeshi womndeni kanye nabazali uStephanie Dawson-Cosser. Abazali bavame ukukhathala ngenxa yokusingatha izidingo zokunakekela umntwana nokusebenza baze bakhohlwe ukukhulisa ubuhlobo babo.
Ukuba umzali kungase kuzwakale kumangalisa ekuqaleni, kodwa ndawana thize phakathi kwamanabukeni, ukungalali ebusuku namabhunu abuhlungu, injabulo yobudlelwano benu ingalahleka. Abazali kumele baqhubeke bephemba umlingo phakathi kwabo ngoba uphakela isimanga phakathi komzali nengane. Zinikeni isikhathi sokuba senu njengombhangqwana, kunxusa uStephanie.
Kulula ukungena ebuzali ngokujabula kuze kube yilapho ukuhlukana kwakho ezindleleni zokukhulisa izingane kugqama. Lokho kuhluka kungase kubangele ukungezwani uma ungagcini imizila yokukhulumisana ivulekile.
10. Ungajuluki izinto ezincane
Uhlu olungaba khona lwemibuzo nezinqumo lapho ukukhulisa izingane kungenasiphelo. Ngingathola umzanyana? Ngiyayithumela ingane yami enkulisa? Ngilale nengane yami noma ngimbeke embhedeni? Yisiphi isikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokulumula? Okusemuva kwayo yonke le mibuzo yisifiso esishukumisayo sokwenzela ingane yakho okungcono kakhulu, okuyinto enhle kakhulu - ngaphandle kwalapho uhlose ukuthola ukuphelela ongenakufinyeleleka okukuqeda amandla nakanjani. Ngakho kuyasiza, kusho uStephanie, ukuqaphela ukuthi awulokothi uyeke ukufunda njengomzali. Ukucasuka ngokwenza 'into engalungile' noma ukuzishaya 'ngephutha' kumane kugxilise ukucabanga kwakho kube okulungile nokungalungile futhi kwenza kube lula ukulahlekelwa umbono walokho owenza kahle.
"Kwesinye isikhathi uzokwenza ukukhetha okungekona okuhle kakhulu, kepha uma uzivumela indawo yokuphefumula kancane nokuthethelela ungavumela umusa, uthando nobumnene kungene."
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