Ibhalwe ngu-Allison Hertog
Ngingumama nommeli wezemfundo ekhethekile, futhi ngine-dyslexia. Abazali abaningi baye bangithululela isifuba ngokuthi “babenombono” wokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngengane yabo. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, umbono womzali ubonakala ulungile. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho ayinakho ukukhubazeka okukhulu ekufundeni, kodwa umzali uyazi lapho ingane yakhe ihlukile. Abazali abakwazi ukusiza kodwa baqhathanise ingane yabo nengane yakini, noma izingane eqenjini lokudlala noma umsebenzi wangemuva kwesikole.
Ukube ngikhulile kuleli zwe lanamuhla, ngabe ngaxilongwa futhi ngisizwa ngiseyingane. Bekungeke kudingeke ngilinde kuze kube yiminyaka engu-20 ukuze ngithole ukuthi ngine-dyslexia. Lokho bekuzongisindisa ezinkingeni eziningi esikoleni, kanye namahithi ekuzenyeni kwami.
Uma uzwa sengathi ingane yakho ingase ibe nokukhubazeka ekufundeni, themba umuzwa wakho wemvelo futhi ulandele lawa macebiso.
Ungesabi ukuthola ukuthi ingane yakho inokukhubazeka yini.
Ngaphezu kwe-10% yezingane e-US inohlobo oluthile lokukhubazeka. Ukufunda ukuthi ingane yakho idinga usizo kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yekusasa elingcono. Izingane eziningi ziyakhula, noma zifunda ukunxephezela, ukukhubazeka kwazo futhi zibe abantu abadala abenza kahle ezicini eziningi. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungasabi noma yikuphi ukucwaswa. Ukuba nokukhubazeka kuwulwazi oluyimfihlo ngokuphelele futhi luvikelwe yimithetho eminingi. Akumele wabelane ngalolo lwazi nanoma ubani.
Thola ukuhlolwa.
Ngiqondise ekuhloleni okuphelele kwe-psychoeducational okwenziwa isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Uma ingane yakho inokukhubazeka, noma ibuthakathaka endaweni ethile, ukuhlola kukunikeza umhlahlandlela wokuhlangabezana nezidingo zayo esikhathini esizayo. Izikole zomphakathi zidingeka ngokomthetho ukuthi zihlole ngokugcwele abafundi abangase badinge izinsiza zemfundo ekhethekile. Isinyathelo sokuqala siwukucela ukuhlolwa kuthishanhloko. Ngincoma ukuthi wenze lokho nge-imeyili ngqo kuthishanhloko. Ungakwazi futhi ukuqasha isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esizimele ukuthi sihlole ingane yakho, kodwa ukuhlola kwengqondo kungabiza.
Tshela ingane yakho ukuthi inokukhubazeka.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho isikhule ngokwanele ukuba iqonde ulwazi, kubalulekile ukuyitshela ukuthi inokukhubazeka. Kwezinye izinga, ingane yakho iyazi ukuthi ihlukile. Mhlawumbe ontanga yabo bazwile ukuthi banjalo. Kunokuba ugcine ulwazi enganeni yakho futhi uyivumele ikholwe okubi kakhulu (isb ukuthi iyisiphukuphuku noma ayifaneleki), yitshele ukuthi buyini ubuthakathaka bayo nokuthi uyisiza kanjani ukuba ibunqobe. Lolu lwazi lubenza bazizwe belawula futhi benamandla. Ungase futhi wabelane ngencwadi ebhalelwe izingane mayelana nendlela yokubhekana nokukhubazeka, njengokuthi “Ithalente Elikhethekile likaTom” kaKate Gaynor. Ngifisa sengathi ngangazi ngokukhubazeka kwami ekuqaleni ekuphileni kwami, kodwa esikhundleni salokho, ngangizizwa ngingaqondwa kahle futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngize ngibe yisiphukuphuku.
Qonda ukuthi ungummeli ongcono kakhulu wengane yakho.
Uma unengane enokukhubazeka okukhulu, cishe uzodinga ukuyimela phakathi nezinsuku zayo zesikole. Lokho kusho ukuthi uthole ingane yakho usizo eludingayo esikoleni somphakathi ngokufunda amalungelo ayo ngaphansi komthetho wezwe nowenhlangano. Ngenhlanhla, imithetho ivikela kakhulu abafundi abakhubazekile, nakuba izikole zikahulumeni zingeke zikutshele njalo ukuthi ayini amalungelo akho. Ungase udinge ummeli noma ummeli, kodwa indawo enhle yokuqala ukufunda iwebhusayithi www.Wrightslaw.com , ebhalelwe abazali nabameli nguchwepheshe owaziwayo ezweni lonke ngalesi sihloko.
Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi izikhulumele.
Nakuba kubonakala sengathi ingane yakho izoba mncane futhi ingaphansi kwephiko lakho kuze kube phakade, ngeke ibe njalo. Njengoba bekhula, bafundise, futhi ucele isikole sakho ukuba sibafundise, indlela yokunxephezela ngokukhubazeka kwabo kanye nokuzimelela. Ukuzimela wukufunda ukuthi ungazikhulumela kanjani, uthole ukuthi ubani ozokweseka endleleni, ukwazi amalungelo akho kanye nezibopho zakho, kanye nokuxazulula izinkinga. Lokhu kuzonikeza ingane yakho isipho esikhulu kunazo zonke - ulwazi lokuphumelela nokubamba iqhaza ezinqumweni zayo zempilo.
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