Ukukhulisa ingane ene-ADHD akufani nokukhulisa izingane ngokwesiko. Ukwenziwa kwemithetho evamile kanye nezinqubo zasekhaya kungase kucishe kungenzeki, kuye ngohlobo nobukhulu bezimpawu zengane yakho, ngakho kuzodingeka usebenzise izindlela ezihlukene. Kungase kukhungathekise ukubhekana nezinye zezindlela zokuziphatha ezibangelwa i-ADHD yengane yakho, kodwa kunezindlela zokwenza ukuphila kube lula.
Abazali kufanele balamukele iqiniso lokuthi izingane ezine-ADHD babe nobuchopho obusebenzayo obuhlukile kobezinye izingane. Nakuba izingane ezine-ADHD zisengakwazi ukufunda ukuthi yini eyamukelekayo nengamukeleki, ukuphazamiseka kwazo kuzenza zithambekele ekuziphatheni ngokungacabangi.
Ukukhuthaza ukukhula kwengane ene-ADHD kusho ukuthi kuzodingeka uguqule ukuziphatha kwakho futhi ufunde ukuphatha ukuziphatha kwengane yakho. Imithi ingase ibe isinyathelo sokuqala ekwelashweni kwengane yakho. Izindlela zokuziphatha zokulawula izimpawu ze-ADHD zengane kufanele zihlale zikhona. Ngokulandela lezi ziqondiso, ungakhawulela ukuziphatha okulimazayo futhi usize ingane yakho inqobe ukuzethemba.
Izimiso zokwelashwa kokuphathwa kokuziphatha
Kunezimiso ezimbili eziyisisekelo ze ukwelashwa kokuphathwa kokuziphatha. Eyokuqala iwukuziphatha okuhle okukhuthazayo nokuvuzayo (ukuqiniswa okuhle). Okwesibili ukususa imivuzo ngokulandela ukuziphatha okubi okunemiphumela efanele, okuholela ekucishweni kokuziphatha okubi (isijeziso, ngokwemibandela yokuziphatha). Ufundisa ingane yakho ukuqonda ukuthi izenzo zinemiphumela ngokubeka imithetho nemiphumela ecacile yokulandela noma yokungalaleli le mithetho. Lezi zimiso kufanele zilandelwe kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwengane. Lokho kusho ukuthi ekhaya, ekilasini, nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
Nquma kusenesikhathi ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha okwamukelekayo nokungamukeleki
Umgomo wokuguqulwa kokuziphatha uwukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi icabangele imiphumela yesenzo futhi ilawule umfutho wokuthatha isinyathelo. Lokhu kudinga uzwela, ukubekezela, uthando, amandla, namandla kumzali. Abazali kufanele baqale banqume ukuthi yikuphi ukuziphatha abazokubekezelela nabangeke bakubekezelele. Kubalulekile ukunamathela kule mihlahlandlela. Ukujezisa ukuziphatha ngolunye usuku nokukuvumela okulandelayo kuyingozi ekuthuthukisweni kwengane. Okunye ukuziphatha kufanele kungamukeleki ngaso sonke isikhathi, njengokuqhuma komzimba, ukwenqaba ukuvuka ekuseni, noma ukungafuni ukucisha umabonakude lapho utshelwa ukwenza kanjalo.
Ingane yakho ingase ibe nobunzima ekufakeni ingaphakathi futhi isebenzise imihlahlandlela yakho. Imithetho kufanele ibe lula futhi icace, futhi izingane kufanele zivuzwe ngokuyilandela. Lokhu kungenziwa ngokusebenzisa uhlelo lwamaphuzu. Ngokwesibonelo, vumela ingane yakho ukuba iqongelele amaphuzu okuziphatha okuhle angasetshenziswa ngokuchitha imali, isikhathi ephambi kwe-TV, noma igeyimu yevidiyo entsha. Uma unohlu lwemithetho yasekhaya, yibhale phansi futhi uyibeke lapho kulula ukuyibona. Ukuphindaphinda nokuqinisa okuhle kungasiza ingane yakho iqonde kangcono imithetho yakho.
Chaza imithetho, kodwa vumela ukuguquguquka okuthile
Kubalulekile ukuthi uhlale uklomelisa ngokuziphatha okuhle futhi ungavumeli okulimazayo, kodwa akufanele ube nesandla esiqinile enganeni yakho. Khumbula ukuthi izingane ezine-ADHD zingase zingavumelani nokushintsha kanye nabanye. Kumelwe ufunde ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba yenze amaphutha njengoba ifunda. Ukuziphatha okungajwayelekile okungalimazi ingane yakho noma omunye umuntu kufanele kwamukelwe njengengxenye yomuntu ngamunye wengane yakho. Ekugcineni kuyingozi ukudikibalisa ukuziphatha kwengane okungajwayelekile ngoba nje ucabanga ukuthi akujwayelekile.
Phatha ulaka
Ukuqhuma okunamandla okuvela ezinganeni ezine-ADHD kungaba inkinga evamile. “Ukuphelelwa yisikhathi” kuyindlela ephumelelayo yokuzolisa wena kanye nengane yakho ekhuthele kakhulu. Uma ingane yakho idlala obala, kufanele isuswe ngokushesha ngendlela ezolile futhi ewujuqu. “Ukuphelelwa yisikhathi” kufanele kuchazelwe ingane njengenkathi yokuphola nokucabanga ngokuziphatha okungekuhle akubonisile. Zama ukungazinaki ukuziphatha okuphazamisa kancane njengendlela yokuthi ingane yakho ikhulule amandla ayo e-pent-up. Kodwa-ke, ukuziphatha okulimazayo, okuhlukumezayo, noma okuphazamisa ngamabomu okuphambene nemithetho oyisungulayo kufanele kujeziswe ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Okunye “okufanele ukwenze” ukuze ubhekane ne-ADHD
Dala isakhiwo
Yenza isimiso sengane yakho futhi unamathele kuso nsuku zonke. Misa amasiko mayelana nokudla, umsebenzi wasekhaya, isikhathi sokudlala, nesikhathi sokulala. Imisebenzi elula yansuku zonke, njengokwenza ingane yakho ibeke izingubo zayo zakusasa, inganikeza isakhiwo esibalulekile.
Hlukanisa imisebenzi ibe yizicucu ezilawulekayo
Zama ukusebenzisa ikhalenda elikhulu lodonga ukusiza ukukhumbuza ingane ngemisebenzi yayo. Imisebenzi yokubhala imibala kanye nomsebenzi wesikole wasekhaya kungagcina ingane yakho ingacindezelwa yimisebenzi yansuku zonke nezabelo zesikole. Ngisho nezinqubo zasekuseni kufanele zihlukaniswe zibe imisebenzi ehlukene.
Yenza kube lula futhi uhlele impilo yengane yakho
Dala isikhala esikhethekile, esithule ukuze ingane yakho ifunde, yenze umsebenzi wesikole, futhi iphumule ezinxushunxushwini zokuphila kwansuku zonke. Gcina ikhaya lakho licocekile futhi lihlelekile ukuze ingane yakho yazi lapho konke kuhamba khona. Lokhu kusiza ukunciphisa ukuphazamiseka okungadingekile.
Nciphisa iziphazamiso
Izingane ezine-ADHD zamukela iziphazamiso ezifinyeleleka kalula. Ithelevishini, imidlalo ye-video, ne-computer kukhuthaza ukuziphatha okungalindelekile futhi kufanele kulawulwe. Ngokunciphisa isikhathi sokusebenzisa izinto zikagesi nokwandisa isikhathi sokwenza imisebenzi engaphandle kwekhaya, ingane yakho izoba nendawo yokukhipha amandla akhelwe.
Khuthaza ukuzivocavoca
Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kushisa amandla amaningi ngezindlela ezinempilo. Kuphinde kusize ingane ukuthi igxile ekunyakazeni okuthile. Lokhu kungase kunciphise ukuthatheka. Ukuzivocavoca kungase kusize nasekuthuthukiseni ukugxilisa ingqondo, kwehlise ingcuphe yokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka, futhi kushukumise ubuchopho ngezindlela ezinempilo. Abasubathi abaningi abangochwepheshe bane-ADHD. Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi ezokusubatha zingasiza ingane ene-ADHD ithole indlela eyakhayo yokugxilisa intshiseko yayo, ukunaka, namandla.
Lawula amaphethini okulala
Isikhathi sokulala singase sibe nzima ikakhulukazi ezinganeni ezine-ADHD. Ukuntula ubuthongo kwandisa ukunganaki, ukunyakazisa umzimba ngokweqile, nokuba budedengu. Ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi ilale kangcono kubalulekile. Ukuze uzisize ziphumule kangcono, susa izinto ezivuselelayo njengoshukela ne-caffeine, futhi unciphise isikhathi sethelevishini. Misa isiko elinempilo, elizolile lesikhathi sokulala.
Khuthaza ukucabanga ngokuzwakalayo
Izingane ezine-ADHD zingakwazi ukuzithiba. Lokhu kubangela ukuthi bakhulume futhi benze ngaphambi kokucabanga. Cela ingane yakho ukuthi iveze imicabango nemicabango yayo lapho ifuna ukwenza okuthile. Kubalulekile ukuqonda inqubo yokucabanga yengane yakho ukuze uyisize inqande ukuziphatha okungalawuleki.
Nyusa isikhathi sokulinda
Enye indlela yokulawula umfutho wokukhuluma ngaphambi kokucabanga iwukufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ime isikhashana ngaphambi kokuba ikhulume noma iphendule. Khuthaza izimpendulo ezicatshangelwayo ngokusiza ingane yakho ngemisebenzi yesikole yasekhaya kanye nokubuza imibuzo ephendula imibuzo mayelana nomdlalo wethelevishini oyintandokazi noma incwadi.
Kholwa enganeni yakho
Ingane yakho cishe ayikuboni ukucindezeleka okungabangelwa isimo sayo. Kubalulekile ukuhlala unethemba futhi ukhuthaza. Ncoma ukuziphatha kahle kwengane yakho ukuze yazi lapho okuthile kwenziwe kahle. Ingane yakho ingase ihlupheke nge-ADHD manje, kodwa yethemba ingane yakho futhi ube nethemba ngekusasa layo.
Thola ukwelulekwa komuntu ngamunye
Ngeke ukwenze konke. Ingane yakho idinga isikhuthazo sakho, kodwa futhi idinga usizo lochwepheshe. Thola umelaphi ozosebenza nengane yakho futhi ayinikeze enye indawo yokuphuma nayo. Ungesabi ukufuna usizo uma uludinga. Abazali abaningi bagxile kakhulu ezinganeni zabo kangangokuthi badebeselela izidingo zabo ezingokwengqondo. Umelaphi angasiza ekulawuleni ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka kwakho kanye nokwengane yakho. Amaqembu osekelo endawo nawo angaba yindawo ewusizo kubazali.
Thatha ikhefu
Awukwazi ukusekela amaphesenti angu-100 wesikhathi. Kungokwemvelo ukukhungatheka noma ukukhungatheka ngawe noma ngengane yakho. Njengoba nje ingane yakho izodinga ukuthatha ikhefu lapho ifunda, nawe uzodinga awakho amakhefu. Ukuhlela isikhathi uwedwa kubalulekile kunoma yimuphi umzali. Cabangela ukuqasha umzanyana. Izinketho ezinhle zokuphumula zihlanganisa:
- ukuhambahamba
- ukuya ejimini
- ukugeza ukuphumula
Yehlisa umoya
Awukwazi ukusiza ingane engacabangi uma nawe ucasuke. Izingane zilingisa ukuziphatha ezikubona eduze kwazo, ngakho-ke uma uhlala uzinzile futhi ulawulwa ngesikhathi sokuqhuma, kuyosiza ingane yakho ukuba yenze okufanayo. Thatha isikhathi sokuphefumula, uphumule, futhi uqoqe imicabango yakho ngaphambi kokuzama ukuthulisa ingane yakho. Uma uzolile, ingane yakho izoba nokuzola.
“Ungakwenzi” ukubhekana nengane ene-ADHD
Ungathuki izinto ezincane
Zimisele ukwenza ukuvumelana okuthile nengane yakho. Uma ingane yakho isifezile imisebenzi emibili kwezintathu owabele yona, cabangela ukuvumelana nezimo nomsebenzi wesithathu ongakaqedi. Kuyinqubo yokufunda futhi ngisho nezinyathelo ezincane zibaliwe.
Ungakhungatheki futhi uthukuthele
Khumbula ukuthi ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kubangelwa ukuphazamiseka okuthile. I-ADHD ingase ingabonakali ngaphandle, kodwa iwukukhubazeka futhi kufanele iphathwe kanjalo. Lapho uqala ukuthukuthela noma ukukhungatheka, khumbula ukuthi ingane yakho ayikwazi “ukuphuma kukho” noma “imane nje ibe yinto evamile.”
Ungabi negative
Kuzwakala kulula, kodwa thatha izinto usuku olulodwa ngesikhathi futhi ukhumbule ukukugcina konke ngombono. Okukhathazayo noma okuphoxayo namuhla kuzoshabalala kusasa.
Ungayivumeli ingane yakho noma lesi sifo silawule
Khumbula ukuthi ungumzali futhi, ekugcineni, usungula imithetho yokuziphatha okwamukelekayo ekhaya lakho. Yiba nesineke futhi ukhulise, kodwa ungakuvumeli ukuxhashazwa noma ukwesatshiswa ukuziphatha kwengane yakho.
Umthombo https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/parenting-tips
