Amathiphu Nezeluleko Zokulungiselela Ingane Ngokomzwelo

Impela, awuyena umuntu wokuqala ukuba nomntwana, kodwa ukuba umzali kuyingqopha-mlando ekuphileni kwabo bonke. Ukuba nomntwana cishe kungesinye sezenzakalo ezishintsha ukuphila kwakho konke oyoke wabhekana nakho. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, izinto eziza kuqala kuwe, izindinganiso, kanye nokulindela kungashintsha, ngezinye izikhathi ngokuphawulekayo. Lolu shintsho lungamangaza abanye, okuhlanganisa umndeni wakho, umlingani wakho, umqashi, nabangane. Qonda ukuthi lokhu kuyingxenye evamile yokwenza ushintsho ekubeni umzali, futhi cishe kuzofika nezinhlobonhlobo zemizwa, kusukela ekujabuleni nasenjabulweni kuya ekuxabaneni nokwesaba. Kunzima ukwazi kahle ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani uma ingane yakho isifikile, ngakho-ke sihlanganise amathiphu awusizo angakusiza ulungiselele lolo suku.

UKULUNGISELELA AMACEBISO OMNTWANA

• Yenza uhlelo. Ukuba nengane (ikakhulukazi eyokuqala) kungase kuzwakale njengokugxuma okukhulu kokungaziwa. Kunzima ukubikezela zonke izindlela impilo yakho ezoshintsha, kodwa into eyodwa eqinisekile—impilo yakho izoshintsha. Umuzwa wokungaqiniseki ngokuthola umntwana ungabangela imizwa yokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka. Ukunciphisa okunye kwalokhu kucindezeleka kwengane entsha, ukuba nohlu lokuhlola umzali endaweni ngaphambi kokuba umntwana eze kuzosiza uwusebenzise ngokugcwele unyaka wokuqala wengane yakho . Yakha ibhajethi, ukhokhe isikweletu, futhi ubeke eceleni izindleko zezinyanga ezi-3 kuya kweziyisi-6, uma kungenzeka, ukuze ube nomkhawulo wezezimali. Khuluma nomqashi wakho mayelana nokuthi uzobuyela nini futhi nini emsebenzini. Kubalulekile ukulungiselela ushintsho ukulawula ibhalansi yempilo yakho yomsebenzi . Izobukeka kanjani izibopho zakho zansuku zonke? Ingabe umqashi wakho uvulele isimiso esivumelana nezimo? Khuluma nophathina wakho mayelana nemisebenzi yasendlini futhi wenze ishejuli yokuqeda leyo misebenzi, njengokuthenga igrosa, ilondolo, noma ukuhlanza indlu. Ukuba nohlelo kungadambisa izinkathazo zakho eziningi, kukunike umuzwa wokulawula nekhono. Yiqiniso, ukuguquguquka kubalulekile futhi. Emavikini ambalwa okuqala ngemva kokufika kwengane yakho, amashejuli cishe azophuma ngefasitela njengoba ujwayela ingane yakho entsha. Ukuba nalawo mashejuli endaweni yawo, kuzokusiza ukuthi ubuyele esimisweni esinethezekile ngokushesha okukhulu.
  
  
• Zisike kancane. Abaningi abaqalayo bakhathazeka mayelana nekhono labo lokuba umzali ngempumelelo, kodwa nansi imfihlo encane: uzokwenza amaphutha athile okuba umzali. Ngeke ube umzali ophelele, ngoba umzali ophelele akekho. Ngenhlanhla, izingane azibadingi abazali abaphelele. Badinga abazali abazinikele, abanothando abazama ukwenza okusemandleni abo—abazali abavumayo lapho bona bonakele futhi baqhubeke bezama. Ukuba umzali kuyijika lokufunda—ngesinye isikhathi umqansa—futhi kulungile uma ungakuqondi konke. Izingane ziyakwazi ukumelana nezimo futhi ingane yakho izophila kahle.
  
  
• Zinakekele ngenkathi ukhulelwe. Cishe uzothola inala iseluleko sokukhulelwa okungacelwanga kukho konke ukukhulelwa kwakho ngokuphathelene nezinto ezisebenzele abangani bakho noma osebenza nabo, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela phakathi kwazo zonke lezo zeluleko. Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, umzimba wakho usebenza isikhathi esengeziwe; ukukhathala ngokomzimba kungenza izimpawu zokucindezelwa ngokomzwelo zibe zimbi nakakhulu. Chitha okungenani imizuzu embalwa nsuku zonke ukuze uzikhulise. Thatha isihlwathi esisheshayo, hamba uyoshaywa umoya, zama i-yoga noma ukuzindla, zonga ngokudla okulula okunempilo, noma uthole ukubhucungwa ngaphambi kokubeletha. Lala kusenesikhathi futhi uzame ukugcina uhlelo olungaguquki. Uzodinga kokubili ukugcinwa ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo ukuze ubhekane nezinselele zomsebenzi kanye namasonto ambalwa okuqala okuba umzali. Bheka ukukhulelwa njengesikhathi sokulungiselela ukuba umzali.
  
  
• Lawula ukucindezeleka kobudlelwane. Izinguquko zokukhulelwa nokuba ngumzali zingabangela ukucindezelwa kobudlelwane njengoba uzama ukulungisa impilo yakho entsha nezindima zakho. Yiba nesineke kuwe kanye nomlingani wakho. Chithani isikhathi ndawonye futhi nikhulume ngokwethembeka ngamathemba enu nokwesaba. Kwamukele lokho kwehluka okungenakugwenywa kwesimo sokuziphatha kanye nezinto eziza kuqala, okuvame ukuba sobala kakhulu njengoba ulungiselela ukuba umzali.
  
  
• Sebenzisa inethiwekhi yakho yosekelo. Kuwukuthambekela okungokwemvelo ukugxila ngaphakathi njengoba ulungiselela ukubeletha, futhi ungase uzizwe ukhathele kakhulu ngemva kosuku olude ukuze uhlanganyele nomphakathi, kodwa ungakushiyi kusengaphambili ukuba nabangane ngokuphelele. Umndeni wakho nabangane bangaba umthombo wokwesekwa kokukhulisa, kokubili manje nangemva kokuba umntwana efikile. Ukhathele kakhulu ebusuku ukuze uhlangane? Kuthiwani ngesidlo sangempelasonto noma imuvi yangoMgqibelo ntambama? Gcina ubudlelwano futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ucela usizo njengoba usuku olukhulu lusondela.

Ukukhulelwa yisikhathi soshintsho noshintsho. Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukuze uveze futhi ubhekane nanoma yikuphi ukwesaba onakho, wakhe inethiwekhi yokusekela eqinile, futhi usungule indlela yokuphila ebikezelwayo, ezinzile yomndeni wakho.

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