Kumenyezelwa inyanda yenjabulo, ikhula ngesineke futhi ikhula esibelethweni. Kuma-trimesters amathathu kamuva futhi 'u- poof' uzoba nengane ephile kahle. Yiqiniso, owesifazane uyena owenza umsebenzi onzima kakhulu, ngakho-ke kunengqondo ukuthi siyalamukela ikhefu lokuyoteta. Kodwa obaba basithola nini isikhathi sokujoyina ukuhlela, ukulungiselela, ukwesekwa kwabanye babo ababalulekile kanye nosana olusanda kuzalwa?
Ngenhlanhla, ekupheleni konyaka wezi-2019, uMongameli Ramaphosa usayine isivumelwano somthetho Wezabasebenzi sokuthi amadoda manje anelungelo lezinsuku eziyi-10 zelivu yobaba kusukela ngo-2020. Lokhu kuhle kobaba abafuna ukusondelana nezingane zabo ezisanda kuzalwa futhi basekele abalingani babo kulezo zikhathi zakuqala. izinsuku.
Kubalulekile ukuthi obaba abakhulelwe babe yingxenye yokuhlela nokwesekwa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa - ukufunda ukuthi ungasondelana kanjani nomntwana kusukela esibelethweni, ukuthi uyibamba kanjani nokunye okuningi.
Uchwepheshe we-Parenting and Pampers® Institute, uDade Yolanda Mpilo, unikeza amacebiso obaba abaqalayo:
- Yiya emakilasini okukhulisa izingane nomlingani wakho
- Funda izindlela zokuzihlanganisa nengane yakho, isb ukuyipha ukudla
- Funda ukushintsha amanabukeni, lokhu kuzonikeza umlingani wakho ithuba lokuphumula
- Hlala uphezu kwesimiso sokubuyekeza impilo yengane yakho futhi ulungiselele imibuzo kadokotela/udokotela wezingane
- Yenza ucwaningo lwakho mayelana nokukhula kwengane eminyakeni ezayo
Msekele
Yiba nohlelo lwamasonto onke noma lwanyanga zonke mayelana nendlela yokumeseka kangcono umama ngaphambi nangemuva kokubeletha, lokhu kuhlanganisa amakilasi okubeletha, ukuvakasha emtholampilo nalapho edinga nje ukuphumula. Udinga futhi ukubona lapho umama nengane bedinga indawo yabo ukuze bahlangane bodwa. Umama nobaba kufanele futhi bavumele isikhathi sokuxoxa ngezindaba ezicindezelayo, futhi bahlole ukuthi ngamunye wabo uqhuba kanjani ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.
Ukubambisana kuhle
Obaba abasondelene nezingane zabo ngendlela efanayo nomama. Kudingeka benze isimiso sezinto eziphilayo ukuze kube lula ukuhlangana; kusukela ekudaleni inkulumo encane ukuze ufunde imivimbo ehlukahlukene yokubhucunga ingane ezokwazi ukubona lapho zisongelwe ezingalweni zikababa.
Abazali bayelulekwa ukuba ngamunye abe nesitayela sokuhlanganisa esihlukile, njengoba lokhu kusiza futhi ingane ukuhlukanisa phakathi kukamama nobaba. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho ubaba eculela umntanakhe kakhulu yilapho bezohlobanisa naye lokho, bakhe ubuhlobo obuseduze phakathi kwabo bobabili.
Ukuvakashelwa kwengane enhle
Ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa nangemva kokuzalwa, ukuthatha uhambo oluhleliwe lokuya kudokotela kufanele kubaluleke kakhulu kubaba njengoba kunjalo kumama. Ngemva kokuzalwa, ubaba kufanele aye emtholampilo wengane ehamba kahle nomama, ukuze ahlole ukukhula nokukhula kwengane (isisindo, umsoco, ukuhlolwa kokuhlolwa nokunye). Lezi zikhathi ziqala ezinsukwini ezi-3-6 emva kokuzalwa.
“Lesi isikhathi esijabulisayo nesabisayo komama nobaba, futhi asikho isikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu sokusebenza njengeqembu ukwedlula ukufika kwengane yakho. Uma nje kungena njalo ukuxhumana nokuxhumana, bobabili abathintekayo bazozizwa beyingxenye elinganayo yalolu hambo olushintsha impilo yabazali,” kuphetha uDade uYolanda.
